Do you smell like this?

Something that's been bugging me.  You're right when you say that women can smell an agenda a mile away.  This is especially true in New York, where these dating-savvy women have been around the block, even the young ones.  

But come on, we all have an agenda, that's what drives us to consume your e-books/audiobooks/podcasts in the first place.  I feel like lately I've let my guard down and have been carrying around my agenda like some nasty B.O.  But I'm not exactly sure how I'm doing it.  Some of it can be probably be chalked up to overt things like impatience...but I wonder if there's more going on.

What are the best exercises to sharpen up my game so I'm not giving off this vibe?

Thanks as usual.
PB

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CARLOS:

There's a big difference between having a goal for your game, and reeking of agenda.

The thing I find in common with a lot of men and women is that we get caught up in wanting the ultimate goal rather than the best first step to that goal.

I get emails from guys all the time that are too centered around getting laid, when they should be looking to master the initial steps of approaching more women. This then translates into more interaction, more social skills, more game, more dates, and more sex.

It's a cliche, but you have to learn how to walk before you can run, no matter what the other well-meaning advisors out there would like to have you believe.

Impatience is another scent that women can pick up on you. It's one thing to have the goal and direction you want to go in, and quite another to be in the biggest damn hurry to get there. That's probably a woman's #1 turn-off. 

In fact, if I were to credit one thing I did that helped with my mastery in this field, it was to work on my patience. When it became clear to women that I could wait a long time for sex, they suddenly seemed much more interested in it. It's the abundance mentality that I talk about so much. This attitude communicates that you already have plenty, and that implies that you must have something special enough to get you that plenty.

So how do you work on this part of your game?

Well, first, I trust that you're subscribed to the Advanced Audio Coaching. That program is built around the REALity that you need constant reinforcement to develop a new skill. You don't just go out one night, try some new techniques, and become an instant sex god. Every month I give you exercises and information to work on this game.

The one thing I can recommend right now is that you work on this sense of abundance.

I'd love to just tell you to stop being needy, but the reality is that neediness (even if it's only for a better attitude) first comes from LETTING GO.

It's not necessarily an active process, meaning that sometimes NOT doing is a good idea.

But if you want to do something, I'd start by increasing your sense of abundance by creating a list of GOT.

As in, I GOT all this...

It's basically a list of all the things you HAVE in life as opposed to don't have.

Studies have shown that the happiest, most secure people in the world all have one thing in common - a sense of GRATITUDE. And that's hard to come by in a world that wants you to feel inadequate so you'll buy more and more of the stuff they make.

Let's face it, Capitalism is based on the need to consume. You're inadequate. You need plastic surgery. You need more STUFF.

You're not enough.

You won't consume as much if you feel fulfilled, will you?

I'm not getting all political on you, but let's realize that everyone - even your society - has agendas. The point is to recognize and adopt the ones that SERVE you - not make you serve another.

Make a list of all you have, and then really meditate on it for a while. The more you appreciate what you've got, the more you'll feel adequate when you meet women. And that will translate into a truly ALPHA vibe with her.

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