DATING ADVICE FOR MEN:

Carlos,

Thanks as always for the continued newsletters and information. In one of your recent articles, this statement ([the guy who's] really sick of never being able to reach women in the first place) caught my eye and really stuck out.

My problem starts right at the beginning. Going into an environment, putting myself into the game and not getting the look of interest. Lately I feel "its just not
worth it" if I can't at least get a look from the opposite sex. By no means am I an ugly duckling.

My closest friends tell me for a 40 yr old man, I look more like 28-30. I am a good looking guy in my opinion. Why is it there are some men who can walk into the environment, and be able to get that "look" of interest from the opposite sex so at least you know this is someone who will entertain your approach.

Am I making sense, or am I way off base? I am probably going about this in the wrong way, but that's why I am asking. As always, thanks for your time and input toward my better days on dating.

K
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CARLOS:

I'll give you the same advice that I give a lot of guys, but that doesn't dilute the importance of it if you'll really hear what I'm saying:

If you need other's approval/attention/interest to validate your sense of confidence, then it's not really confidence. You're just running on fumes.

Women don't have to show interest in you for you to do something.

90% of the guys I've worked with find that their self-confidence improves sharply by JUST TALKING to a woman.

I'm not going to say you're off base, but you're looking in the wrong direction right now.

Your confidence is self-generated. You feel good about yourself to the degree that you take your own life under control and learn how to manage your romantic life effectively.

And not just your romantic life. It really starts with your own goals, hobbies, pursuits, career, etc. When a man is living the life he wants, the women will pick up on that energy and eat it right up.

By looking for a woman to give you a "look," you're saying that she controls your romantic life, not you.

Turn it around.

LOOK at women. Let them notice it. And then approach.

As a doctor of dating, let me tell you that my prescription here is going to be very simple:

Get The Secrets of the Alpha Man. It will put you on the right path to REAL male Self-confidence.

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