DATING ADVICE FOR MEN: Alpha Man Confidence

QUESTION:
I have all three of your books and some audio coaching. I have tons of other ebooks and audio CDs, but still use your stuff much more than the others. Probably like many of your customer/students I'm one of those guys whose doing well in all his areas of life except this one. Also, I relate to you better than the other authors in the sense that I take martial arts, did the relocation thing, live a complete life, self-improvement is a hobby, etc.


Could you tell me if I'm still a "nice guy" based on the following info?


-I'm normally polite and respectful to people. That is how I was raised. I sometimes say things at the end of a phone call like "take care" to a woman. It's not intentional. It's just how I am. I also like to pick up the tab sometimes when I'm with friends.


-At work I don't like many of my coworkers in the other branches and just keep to myself. They're much older and very difficult for the most part and my reputation at work is an "Asshole". Although the people who work in my branch all like me.


-I definitley don't supplicate or kiss a woman's ass. Actually, a woman a week ago emailed me on match.com, but when I asked for the # she said I don't give it out that easily, so I deleted her email and moved on. She wrote back a week later to follow up and I responded with "all the other women don't have problem with the phone. Good luck"(she was a 7/10, so no biggy)


-The Seduction Method suggested I post a picture on hotornot.com, so I did and my rating was 9.6.....but what does that mean??? I'm hotter than 96% of the guys on there is what it says, but what if all the guys are hideous? With that being said I had a girl email me at match.com and she writes I like your new pic. It's cute....Oh I mean handsome. Does cute mean nice? and does handsome mean masculine?


-Yesterday my karate instructor was asking me again if I would go to the seminar and I looked him in the eye and said that's asking too much of me to travel to LA from San Diego on a Sunday and that $$ is really tight right now. This is very true. It's not that I shot him down. It was how I did it and it was done with an attitude of I'd like to, but can't, so don't ask me again.


-I had a hot 19 y/o college volleyball player call me 3 days in a row after only speaking to her once. She left a message yesterday saying that she can't see me Sunday because she just got out of a 1 1/2 relationship and that her and the ex had a chat last night and things got heated and now I don't know what to do or what I want and I guess I need time alone.....but I liked talking to you and you seem nice. ......Ouch!!! on the "nice" part.


Anyway, I think I'm on the right path and since I've studied the Alpha Seduction book I carry myself differently.....like I'm the prize and I know it. My attitude toward the game has changed too. My skin is much thicker and I laugh at all the BS I experience these days.


When you get a chance some more details or examples of a what a nice guy really is that would be great as well.
Thx.
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CARLOS:

I read all those things you told me about yourself, and I'd have to say, NO, you're not a "nice guy" in the wimpy sense of the phrase.

BUT...

I can't be certain.

You know why?

There are a lot of things that communicate your dominance and assertiveness to a woman. She can figure out if you're an Alpha Man if you're just a little bit wimpy under all the bravado.

But I suspect you're probably not in danger of falling into this trap.

First of all, you ditch the women that play the stupid insecure games, like "earn my trust before I let you have my number."

Women love to pull this one out because they just love to get you to bow down and treat them like little princesses. American women have gotten this behavior down to a fine art, it seems.

So kudos to you for not falling for her game and cutting her off. That's the right posture.

As for your Hot or Not rating, don't listen to them when they say that you are hotter than X or Y people. It's purely a tool, just for figuring out which picture gives you the best presence. Don't get caught up in the comparative game.

Polite and respectful is absolutely fine, as long as you don't let others manipulate you into things like paying for the tab or things like that. Keep a good head about you and know when to say "NO" when it's in your best interest. But also remember that we're here on this rock together, and it's good to share the good times.

As for the hot volleyball player, I'd amp it up a notch with her if you still want to play with her ball. Her ex has the benefit of history with her, so you might want to sit it out, but here's another approach.

Get BAD BOY on her.

Call her up one night when you're in the neighborhood and get her out with you. Show her a fun time. Get a little wild with her. Shake her up. Show her that SHE is the one missing out by not being with you.

DON'T EVEN ACKNOWLEDGE THE BOYFRIEND!

Pretend he doesn't exist. When she talks about him, you change the subject and get her on a new train of thought and action. (I'll cover this more this weekend in the podcast.)

The only way to overcome an ex situation like that is to out do his electric charge on her brain.

Anyway, you're well on the way to Alpha Manhood. You're getting it. I'm really amazed at how the Alpha Man Program has changed things for so many guys out there.

Well... not really, I suppose. That's why I wrote it, after all.

(And if you're reading this now, and wondering, will the Alpha Program do this for me? YES. It will.)

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