DATING ADVICE FOR MEN - QUESTION:

Hi Carlos,

I think what you're doing is amazing, your book is a beacon of light in a stormy sea, the systems got pretty crazy with prickly picky women, decreasing birth rates we're well on the path to extinction and the people who should be booted out the gene pool are multiplying like bunny rabbits expect to see a blue fuzzy morlock in 10 generations! you should be nominated for the nobel peace prize for your work turning things around!!

But your dating black book is missing something, I've read it so many times, you need information on how to steal, not nice yeah I know, but competition is inevitable, it seems a beta thing to do backing down and sniffing around for scraps nobody wants! but it's important knowledge to have in case someone goes for the steal on a girl and learn counter moves. Can you write a chapter on it or something?

But what I really wanted to ask: I work as a postman I recently started a new round there's this shop where this really cute girl works. I want to get to know her better;) I was just going to say "hey thought you might make an interesting friend, I was wondering, do you want to go for a coffee sometime? then get her name, email/mobile number, sorted. I just keep it along the principles of KISS ( keep it simple stupid ) in and out quick before her brain clicks into gear and starts thinking, not trying smart cocky things.

Guess it is a bit like starting a car in second gear, once things get rolling then you kick it up a gear. I just wanted you're advice on the situation beforehand then I can't go wrong! What would you do! would this be the right way to approach in this particular situation ?

Thanks for your help, look forward to reading more of your books!

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CARLOS:

Actually, I do give a little advice on stealing. It's everything I teach in the e-book! You see, if you use all that advice and polish your presentation, girls with boyfriends WILL want you.

Now, normally, I won't go into too much deliberate advice on stealing away a girlfriend.

Why?

1. It's really pretty easy. Any guy that's in a relationship has been "chumped" out to the maximum. Chances are he's so wimpy after caving in to her every whim he'd cry at a late night showing of "Titanic."

2. It's tough to trust a woman you stole from another guy, because ... well... she LET herself get stolen. You see, it's not HIS fault entirely. No woman ever really gets stolen. She just unlocks herself and starts waving potential thieves over.

There are more reasons, but in all fairness, you're right in a lot of ways, too. Alpha Men don't wait for scraps, and they go after what they want. But with a fair sense of balance that keeps them from getting all chumped out.

Here's what I suggest.

First of all, NEVER ask a woman to do anything. Tell her what you want first. Let her tell you if she needs to make a change or refuse. (Funny enough, it's this one thing that guys are so scared of that they rarely make a move for fear of being turned down. More on this in my new program coming soon...)

You've got a good angle in that you don't want to hang around too long, so getting in and out quickly is advantageous to keeping your posture.

Forget the "interesting friend" line. I know it's meant to come across as a challenge, but it doesn't really have a lot of impact. It's not that good.

Instead, just leave it up to her to guess why you're wanting to get together with her. If she asks you why, you just tell her you're looking at her as a possible candidate for your "coffee girl of the month" club. One lucky girl gets to get a free coffee with you. If she pushes the point trying to get you to "define" things clearer, take it away.

"Wow, you sure are pushy. I bet your boyfriend hates that about you. If you can't take a cup of coffee with me, you must be scared your boyfriend will find out you dig me. That's okay, I'll act normal. Just don't try to play footsie with me. See you at 9:00."

Keep moving forward, and don't let her try and corner you with clarifying your interest. As long as YOU keep going, she'll be able to tell herself that it wasn't her fault.

Yeah.

Right.

Just remember, women want to be swept away...

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