Dating Advice for Men - How to Approach Women, Attract Women, and Meet Girls

CARLOS XUMA'S NEWSLETTER:

Carlos asks: "Was I too mean to this guy?"

Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
Because every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.

QUESTION:

Here is a long question. I am involved with this woman that we have been connected for a long time. We go back and forth with the fighting and such.She says were are friends but act like more. Then she says I disrespect her when I tell her I love her.

But when we are together she acts differently when we talk on the phone or email. What she says and what she feels is different. There is so much fear and anger from past relations that is trying to recreate those. I can recognize that now.

She wants to end the contact but in her emails there is so much energy that I know she really does not want to. She went away for about 4 months and then came back.

She always give me hint of the connection. What do you think is the best way to get past her head.When she is not in the head she can feel but when she is it is difficult.

Need some clarity.

CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Let me tell you something... Women have been playing this innocent dual-personality gambit for as long as time itself.

Hell, I used to get caught up in it before I learned what was really happening.

I'm going to be blunt here, since I'm in one of those moods. Plus, I just had a dental procedure. And since I don't do anesthetics, I'm in a nasty mood.

This woman is probably damaged. In technical terms, she's f*$&ed up. "Fear and Anger" are not what you want, are they? I hope not. Make better decisions for yourself, even she can't for herself.
Stop trying to interpret what she wants for her. You can't MAKE a person want you. If she really wanted you, she wouldn't be holding herself back. She'd be in your arms and in your bed.
Go out and meet ten quality women (i.e., no baggage), and take it to a romantic level with them. If you still want this stunningly messed up specimen after that, by all means, go for it. But you know what? You won't.
You're addicted to the variable reinforcement you're getting. Just when you are about to give up, I bet she gives you just the right amount of hope. It's classical addiction behavior. And if you don't watch out, it will ruin your Alpha Man attitude. (It already has made you waste time and energy in a relationship that has gone NOWHERE.)
The concept of sunk costs says that no matter how much you want to , you can't recover money that has been spent, or invested without giving a return. It's gone. The best thing you can do is to go find a GOOD place to invest. But most people follow their (wrong) emotions that tell them if they just hang on a little longer, they'll get the Big Reward. So they continue to throw good money after bad.

When the game you're in is costing you more than it is giving back to you, it's time to MOVE ON.

PERIOD.

And then you need to learn how to change your attitude to be the Alpha Man that women want.

Sure, books like Neil Strauss' "The Game" have brought this area into the public eye, but if all you do is copy a bunch of techniques from some forum somewhere, you're not going to do well. You'll get blown out by women and your attitude will go right down the drain.

I see this happen all the time in the field.

Instead, why not learn how to use your REAL personality to get women?

You can find out more about the Alpha Immersion here...

QUESTION:

I deleted my ex from my life. And as I said I'm meeting A LOT of women and it's a lot to keep up. But My Best Friend is still hanging out and talking to my ex. She stayed with him a week after we broke up. He and she said nothing happened but come on really.

But I've known this guy as a friend for about 12 years. I sent him an email saying its a slap in the face but how would you handle the situation?

Thanks for all your help.

CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

I'm sitting here with a wry smile on my face, shaking my head and sighing.

You can imagine what I'm thinking, can't you?

Your 'best' friend, huh?

Not really. Not if he "helps" a friend out like this.

Just imagine, a few years down the road, and you're hitting a tough spot with your wife. Your 'friend' says, "Hey, buddy, no worries. I'll help you out any way I can. You can even come here and stay at my place few days if you need to get away from her. I'll even go over and check to be sure your woman is okay, too. How's that?"

Wow. What a buddy.

NOT!

What I sense here is a guy who doesn't feel you're an Alpha enough to stick up for yourself, or the sanctity of the friendship. Even if nothing happened (which I'll admit is a possibility), he should have refused if he was any kind of THOUGHTFUL friend.

I think that HE thinks you're a pussy, and he can walk over your friendship if it suits him. Then he's going to bang your confused little girlfriend. Sorry to be blunt, but I tell the Truth here.

You know what I say? F*ck all this feel-good nonsense and make sure he knows EXACTLY how you feel, and EXACTLY what the repercussions are for taking your friendship for granted.

You sent him an Email?

Are you KIDDING me? What kind of scolding is that?

Call him up and give him a piece of your mind. He's playing you for a chump, or he's got all the awareness of a piece of astro-turf. Either way, he needs a good talking-to.

No one respects what they do not fear a little, my friend.

Or at least fear losing.

I discuss this and many other essential elements of being a dominant male in my program: The Secrets of the Alpha Man.

But once this has been resolved, please find a way to let it go and move on, for everyone's benefit.

For now, you should take a look at my Alpha Man Conversation & Persuasion if you want to get the vital skills for commanding power and influence in your communications - right now...

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Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.

"Carlos

"Not sure if this will actually get to you. Just wanted to say
'You KICK ASS!!'

"I honestly havent felt this confident and had so much control with a women ever... You're Bigger than life! keep it coming

"Sincerely, Ron S."

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I'll be back with more advice soon ...This is the year for you to get busy and get successful with women!

Your friend,

- Carlos Xuma

"I have purchased your Dating Black Book and Approach Women Now cd series. I have to tell you that after reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions and have responded to them instead of them responding to me. I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!

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"Thank you so much for your hard work for making it easier for the rest of us!"

- Richie from UK

Teddy Shabba of Dating Advice Coach Reviews The Dating Black Book:

"Too many books dealing with meeting and dating women focus on techniques instead of the basic fundamentals of what actually attracts women to men.

In fact this is the main reason why so many nice guys have problems actually getting any further than the first few dates with women and that's if they find the courage to actually use the techniques on women.

However, Carlos Xuma in his book The Dating Black Book shows men the basic fundamentals of attracting and being successful with women.

The Dating Black Book starts off explaining the importance of actually improving yourself and building self confidence to attract women.

If you are looking for a sugar coated version of what it is going to take then this is Not the book for you.

After covering the different aspects of your inner game as well as how to build your self confidence, Carlos moves on to actually show you how to find a girlfriend or women for a long-term relationship.

Many times men have a tendency to get comfortable with a woman quite early and end up in a relationship they do not want and do not know how to get out of.

The Dating Black Book helps you understand what to look for in a good woman and what to watch out for in a Not so good woman.

To finish off the book, Carlos quickly covers the basics on sex as well as some additional resources for men to read that will help improve a man's life in general.

Overall, if you have ever read anything that Carlos Xuma has written on dating and women then you already know that he has a lot of very useful information and knowledge to give men, and The Dating Black Book will help you get even more of that information and knowledge.

I would highly recommend this book to the majority if not all Nice Guys or Recovering Nice Guys out there who are struggling with some of the concepts and techniques that other guys teach.

If you want to just be yourself and attract women then The Dating Black Book by Carlos Xuma is for you..."

- Teddy Shabba - Dating Advice Coach.com

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