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  NEWSLETTER August 8, 2006

Dating Advice for Men: The Dating Truth

Curing Your Confusion ... With No Delusion.

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QUESTION:

Here is a long question. I am involved with this woman that we have been connected for a long time. We go back and forth with the fighting and such.She says were are friends but act like more. Then she says I disrespect her when I tell her I love her.

But when we are together she acts differently when we talk on the phone or email. What she says and what she feels is different. There is so much fear and anger from past relations that is trying to recreate those. I can recognize that now.

She wants to end the contact but in her emails there is so much energy that I know she really does not want to. She went away for about 4 months and then came back.

She always give me hint of the connection. What do you think is the best way to get past her head.When she is not in the head she can feel but when she is it is difficult. Need some clarity.

CARLOS ANSWERS:

Let me tell you something... Women have been playing this innocent dual-personality gambit for as long as time itself.

Hell, I used to get caught up in it before I learned what was really happening.

I'm going to be blunt here, since I'm in one of those moods. Plus, I just had a dental procedure. And since I don't do anesthetics, I'm in a nasty mood.

• This woman is probably damaged. In technical terms, she's f*$&ed up. "Fear and Anger" are not what you want, are they? I hope not. Make better decisions for yourself, even she can't for herself.
  
  
  
• Stop trying to interpret what she wants for her. You can't MAKE a person want you. If she really wanted you, she wouldn't be holding herself back. She'd be in your arms and in your bed.
  
  
  
• Go out and meet ten quality women (i.e., no baggage), and take it to a romantic level with them. If you still want this stunningly messed up specimen after that, by all means, go for it. But you know what? You won't.
  
  
  
• You're addicted to the variable reinforcement you're getting. Just when you are about to give up, I bet she gives you just the right amount of hope. It's classical addiction behavior. And if you don't watch out, it will ruin your Alpha Man attitude. (It already has made you waste time and energy in a relationship that has gone NOWHERE.)
  
  
  
• The concept of sunk costs says that no matter how much you want to , you can't recover money that has been spent, or invested without giving a return. It's gone.  The best thing you can do is to go find a GOOD place to invest. But most people follow their (wrong) emotions that tell them if they just hang on a little longer, they'll get the Big Reward. So they continue to throw good money after bad.
  

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When the game you're in is costing you more than it is giving back to you, it's time to MOVE ON.

PERIOD.

And then you need to learn how to change your attitude to be the Alpha Man that women want.

Sure, books like Neil Strauss' "The Game" have brought this area into the public eye, but if all you do is copy a bunch of techniques from some forum somewhere, you're not going to do well. You'll get blown out by women and your attitude will go right down the drain.

I see this happen all the time in the field.

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QUESTION:

I deleted my ex from my life. And as I said I'm meeting A LOT of women and it's a lot to keep up. But My Best Friend is still hanging out and talking to my ex. She stayed with him a week after we broke up. He and she said nothing happened but come on really.

But I've known this guy as a friend for about 12 years. I sent him an email saying its a slap in the face but how would you handle the situation?

thanks for all your help.

CARLOS ANSWERS:

I'm sitting here with a wry smile on my face, shaking my head and sighing.

You can imagine what I'm thinking, can't you?

Your 'best' friend, huh?

Not really. Not if he "helps" a friend out like this.

Just imagine, a few years down the road, and you're hitting a tough spot with your wife. Your 'friend' says, "Hey, buddy, no worries. I'll help you out any way I can. You can even come here and stay at my place few days if you need to get away from her. I'll even go over and check to be sure your woman is okay, too. How's that?"

Wow. What a buddy.

NOT!

What I sense here is a guy who doesn't feel you're an Alpha enough to stick up for yourself, or the sanctity of the friendship. Even if nothing happened (which I'll admit is a possibility), he should have refused if he was any kind of THOUGHTFUL friend.

I think that HE thinks you're a pussy, and he can walk over your friendship if it suits him. Then he's going to bang your confused little girlfriend. Sorry to be blunt, but I tell the Truth here.

You know what I say? F*ck all this feel-good nonsense and make sure he knows EXACTLY how you feel, and EXACTLY what the repercussions are for taking your friendship for granted.

You sent him an Email?

Are you KIDDING me? What kind of scolding is that?

Call him up and give him a piece of your mind. He's playing you for a chump, or he's got all the awareness of a piece of astro-turf. Either way, he needs a good talking-to.

No one respects what they do not fear a little, my friend.

Or at least fear losing.

I discuss this and many other essential elements of being a dominant male in my program: The Secrets of the Alpha Man.

But once this has been resolved, please find a way to let it go and move on, for everyone's benefit.

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"Carlos

"Not sure if this will actually get to you. Just wanted to say
'You KICK ASS!!'

"I honestly havent felt this confident and had so much control with a women ever... You're Bigger than life! keep it coming

"Sincerely, Ron S."

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