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QUESTION:
Hey Carlos. Steve here. Really & truly you hit
Home Runs time & again with your insights. I know, you've heard
it all before but dude..you HAVE DUG DEEP & extracted and mined SOLID
GOLD & DIAMONDS already finished to be procured by people who want to
learn..
I feel like we are friends too. Because you have opened
up about your family with personal info on the Alpha
program.
Carlos, like I said. you are a GREAT coach..and I
let you know my situation (90 hrs. work weeks.) so it's a challenge. I
have GAME but NO TIME..
I will order your Dating Black Book next... what can I say
dude.
Regards, Steve S.
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Indeed... what can you say.
I'm glad you picked up on my openness. A lot of so-called
gurus out there will avoid being vulnerable and REAL with
you. I'm not afraid to let you know that I'm an authentic man. With vulnerabilities
and faults.
(Ironically, it's these qualities that women find attractive.
Go figure.)
Just a note for you guys out there - remember that you must
have at least SOME time available for meeting women or you
will lose that Game you cherish.
You gotta stay in practice. Even if it's only practicing
on the women you work with, you gotta use it - or you WILL lose
it.
So find the time and get out there with the ladies...
Trust me. They're waiting for more Alpha
Men.
QUESTION:
Carlos.
Thanks again for your great work. Once again I have to tell
you how much I like your approach of dating and life as an alpha
male in general.
It is very close to my own beliefs.
You mention in this newsletter that you have worked in the
IT field. I have a question about this.
When women ask what I do in life and I answer that I work
as a telecommunication analyst, my answer is usually followed by either a
long, awkward silence or a eeeewwwww comment... not very sexy as a profession
to say the least...
How do you deal (or have dealt) with this?
Keep up the good work.
J. L.
Montreal
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Well, handling this situation comes down to the following
logic:
1) I kept getting this question from women: "What
do you do..." Hmm....
2) I would eventually tease them and joke
with the women that asked it. "What, are you a gold digger or something?
I only date VERY rich women. I'm looking for a sugar momma."
3) After funning with them for a bit, inevitably
I would still have to answer the original question in some way. (Or you look
like you're avoiding the question and, therefore, embarrassed about your profession.)
So after the umpteenth time of being asked this, I knew
I had to have my teasing/funny and cocky answer, and then my "blow them
away" answer.
Here's what I did:
1) First of all come
up with a way of looking at your job in a whole new way. Don't just look at
it as what it is (or appears to be) but what it COULD be... Example: My mom
worked with a guy who replaced light tubes in the classrooms of a local college.
He described himself as a "lighting design technician." He thought
outside The Box.
2) Use your passion as
your description of "what you do." It doesn't have to be your JOB.
(Unless the two are the same.) When I was working in IT (Information Technology)
I would describe myself as a technical artist, facilitating the communication
of people around the world. I was driven to create
3) Use either as your
answer. Or both. (Preferred.) Remember, it's not the answer that really
matters. It's HOW YOU PRESENT IT.
It's not that you're a telecommunications analyst. It's
that you didn't present it with the conviction and belief of an Alpha
Man.
QUESTION:
I'm really confused about this. Today, I did another marathon-session
of searching through two dating sites. Those two Dutch dating sites use checkboxes
in the profiles. You should mark if you (man or woman) want kids, yes or no.
Now this causes a big problem for me. I know for sure that
I absolutely don't want any kids. But nearly every woman on these sites marks
her checkbox with "yes" for kids. There are only 6 (!) woman in
a radius of 50 miles that said "no" to wanting kids.
Should I change my preference to yes instead? I am not fond
of lying to a woman but it will increase my responses a lot I think. There
are no doubt tons of women who discard me only because I don't want any kids.
I have no problem with a woman that already has 1 kid.
Can you give me your opinions on this matter?
Thank you very much on your info, hope to see you on the
Cliff's List 2006 DVD's.
- P.
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Okay, everyone. Are you ready for a big dose of reality?
Here it comes...
Most women want children.
Yes, it's true. That hard-wired genetic fact will someday
come to haunt all of you. I could tell you that some do and some don't, and
you just have to look, but the reality is that most will. Not all, but most.
Even the women out there reading this saying, "I don't
want children!" are really just a few years ahead of their biological
imperative (also known as an alarm clock) that will go off one day to the
tune of "Show me the Baby!" I've seen this happen so many times
it ain't funny.
Sometimes that alarm clock will wait until her early 40's,
too.
Yes, I sometimes sound like I'm exaggerating, and there
are always exceptions to the rules, but this is one that bears noting, because
if you go into denial and think that you'll just scoop up a woman that doesn't
want kids and that will never change - well, guess again.
So what you have to do is reconcile the following:
1) Why don't you want
to have kids?
2) Could it be that you
just don't want them right now?
3) If you found a woman
that met all your other needs, is this something you could accept and sacrifice
for her later?
4) Would you maybe want
a woman that has older children later on? (You said this was a possibility.
What if she wants more?)
Once you understand your decision, you can figure out how
best to search for a woman, and whether this may change in the future. Sometimes
it's enough for a woman if you just tell her up front that you don't want
children now, but you may later.
No one can see what the future will bring. You can't misrepresent
a future that no one knows for certain.
So, that being said, if you can't say with 100% certainty
that you will NEVER want children, you are not misleading her if you are up-front
later on. (I have seen that most dating sites let you choose "maybe" or "not
sure" as an option.)
She answered that question with a click of a mouse that
you weren't there to witness. She might change her mind later, too. Or, maybe
all the women who want children are using online dating right now. Consider
using more methods to meet more women. I'm sure there are more than 6 on your
area.
Open up opportunities for yourself, but do not mislead or
lie.
I'd consider joining more dating services to cast a wider
net. And if the prospect of a small pool of eligible candidates is scary to
you, consider changing yourself instead of the rest of the world. It's far
easier.
Oh, and you will most definitely see me on the next Cliff's
List seminar DVDs. Not to brag, but my presentation was one of the most popular
presentations of the seminar, so you'll be getting a real treat when this
comes out on DVD later this year.
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"Not sure if this will actually get
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"Sincerely,
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