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QUESTION:
Carlos, I followed your tactics to the letter "T" and
managed to get a few very attractive girl's phone numbers from Myspace.Com.
These
girls seemed to be blown away by my emails, which are simular to the ones
you send. All 3 girls denied the request to give me there number on
my 3rd email, however after a couple more exchanges via email/Chat, they all
gave it up. I always wait a minimum 2 days before I call and NEVER on
a weekend.
EXAMPLE 1: *First Girl (Taylor)*
I called last week and said hi, I'm Jim from Myspace. She
was like, "Hey". I
asked her what she was doing and she replied, " I'm bowling with my friends". I
figured there was no way I could hold a conversation with her when she was
having fun bowling with her friends. I said, "ok and that
I would call another time."
I called her 3 days later, and got her voice mail,
leaving a message that said, Hey Taylor this is Jim, I had a few minutes
and thought I'd see whats up. At any rate I'll call you some other
time." I called
a few days later only to her never answering the phone for me, so I left her
my last message that said, Taylor this is Jim, either your screening your
calls or playing hard to get, thats cute. I figured I would try you
one last time.
NO REPLIES.
EXAMPLE 2: *Second Girl (Kaitlyn)*
I got her number on Friday and decided to call it
tonight, late Sunday night. I called and said,
Jim: Heya Kaitlyn this is Jim from myspace.
Kaitlyn: hey
Jim: What are you doing?
Kaitlyn: Driving to a Graduation party.
Jim: Graduation Party in the middle of July, aren't they usually
held in June.
Kaitlyn: Yea and I have to babysit tomorrow.
Jim: That is going to be miserable for you tomorrow.
Kaitlyn: I can handle the mornings after party.
Jim: laughing....as you get a little older those mornings get rough.
Jim: so what is grotton like I never have heard of it.
Kaitlyn: Its a small boring town
Jim: no Macdonald's???
Kaitlyn: None
Uncomfortable silence
Jim: we had a block party here this past weekend,
It was neat. They
close the road and all the neighbors get together congregating in
the road playing beer pong and dancing. It was alot of fun
Kaitlyn: Cool........Im gonna have to let you go before
I lose cell service.
Jim: Ok I'll talk to you later
Total time on the phone 3:13 seconds. I wasn't
at a point to where I could end the conversation.
EXAMPLE 3: *Third Girl {Christina} *
Now I went at this a little
different, I didn't want to ask what they were doing to cut me off so short. I
shot into conversation mode, and failed.
Jim: Is this Christina?
Christina: yes
Jim: This is Jim from Myspace
Christina: oh hey, how are you.
Jim: how was your wedding?
Christina: Good
Jim: Did you get drunk like a bad lil girl
Christina:no my family was there.
Jim: Oh I don't believe they are really that hard on you.
Christina: laughing....oh they are
Jim: so do you have any brother or sisters
Christina: 3 half sisters.
Jim: who (got cut off)
Christina: Hey I am watching a movie so I'll call you tomorrow
or something.
Jim: ok Later
To summarize this Carlos, your methods to getting
their phone number is great. The
3rd email may not get it, but it appears the next email will. How do
we handle these first calls. Keep in mind they are 19-21 year old girls. I
am gonna have to at least talk to them on the phone twice before trying to
set something up.
Right now bro, I am discouraged. Pick me up!:) I need to be better
prepared to first phone calls and first meetings. I wish you have ALOT
more info on those 2 areas. After the second date, I think I can't take
it from there......
Thanks Bro,
Jim in PA
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Well, as for these girls you're hitting on... this is a
great example of dialogue that we can break down and look at applying my
Alpha Man techniques to.
First, you need to bust their chops more.
A LOT more. 19-21 year old girls need a LOT of energy
in the conversation or they’re going to check out. You just can’t
ask boring questions and get away with it.
AMP up the energy – big time.
Let's re-write example #2 the way to get her into the conversation:
EXAMPLE 2: *Second Girl (Kaitlyn)*
I got her number on Friday and decided to call it
tonight, late Sunday night. I called and said,
Jim: Heya Kaitlyn (NO REMINDERS of who
you are.)
Kaitlyn: hey - who is this?
Jim: Wow, you've got the worst memory... it's the fun guy
you met last weekend. I'm having your chat service shut off...
Kaitlyn: Oh, stop! You're so mean...
Jim: What are you doing?
Kaitlyn: Driving to a Graduation party.
Jim: Graduation Party in the middle of July, aren't they
usually
held in June? You must be going to get drunk...
Kaitlyn: I'll just drink a little....
Jim: Yeah, right...
Kaitlyn: No, really I have to babysit tomorrow.
Jim: That is going to be miserable for you tomorrow. No sympathy
from me. Just make sure you find a friend that can hold your hair when you're
barfing...
Kaitlyn: I can handle the mornings after party.
Jim: ...as you get a little older those mornings
get rough.
Kaitlyn: Older? Hey! I'm still pretty young.
Jim: Yeah, but you're not getting any younger. Before you
know it, you're 25 with 3
kids and an SUV. I bet you're on the hunt for a
doctor or lawyer, right?
Kaitlyn: U are SO mean!
Jim: So what's this place like you're going to?
Kaitlyn: Its a small boring town. Not even a McDonalds.
Jim: no Macdonald's? I bet you'll have to take a shower in
the town river because there's no running water, either...no way you'd get
me out there...
Kaitlyn: Maybe I should take you so you can get nekkid in
the river!
Jim: Tough sell there, hon...
THAT is how you tease and rile her up. See how this works?
Let's go back to my "REAL Game™."
Remember the "E" in R.E.A.L. is "Effective & Energized."
The one thing I see guys doing wrong all the time is that
they go into an interaction with a woman and have a lazy, too-laid-back, hanging-with-the-boys
attitude that is SO uninteresting to younger women.
Girls at this age have an attention span of a ferret on
crystal meth, as I like to say. They need more stimulation than an eight-year-old
that is hard-wired into his X-box.
Here are some new things to say. Start busting these girl's chops like this:
- Hey, are you one of those crazy chicks that sets up
her Myspace page just so she can look popular?
- Hey, I’m calling you because your Myspace page
looks like my kid sister put it together. Do you really like that band “XXXXXX”?
- Is it true that Myspace girls are all spoiled little
sorority girls?
Do you see what I did there? Get things riled up with them.
Don't let her think this is going to be another one of THOSE conversations.
Be brave. What have you got to lose but a couple of cheesy ex-cheerleaders
with no clue of how the world works.....
Seriously, you must look at approaches not as gems to be
handled with too much care, but as disposable learning experiences.
Only by going to the limits of bold can you ever know where
the limits really are.
QUESTION:
Carlos,
Man I know that someone has asked you this before, but for a refresher I was
wondering when and what questions are good to dodge from women.
I was good enough to meet her and get her number, then once we started talking
on the phone I felt as I was getting the third degree. For the most part I don't
offer to much information at all.
She asked me where I worked work, my age, my middle name???, and the normal stuff
you would expect when you get to know someone.
But I felt a few RED flags were raised on a few of the simple questions. Like
where I work. I basically let her pull the information out of me. She asked me
I told her the City, She asked again I told her the company, She asked again
I told her the department and then I moved on to me asking her what she did.
I don't think that I messed up too bad since she has called me again.
But, why should I have to apply and interview when I already have a job. I do
realize that people in general place value on material things and that drives
me crazy that I have to be something that I am not in order to win over a woman.
I would like to turn the tables and put them on the spot.
My question is really how?
- Tony
Washington, DC.
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Tony, I would love to give you a clear-cut, black-and-white answer for this,
but...
Knowing what to answer when you approach
women and she asks you a question is really more about MY question for you:
"Why are you letting HER get
the control of the conversation?"
That's what questions are, by the way. CONTROL.
Sometimes an interest
indicator (I emphasize SOMETIMES...), and sometimes a tool
of keeping you on the defense, but the reality is that the one who is asking
the questions controls the conversation.
You don't need to worry about ducking the questions if you're the one asking
them.
And you don't have to worry about them if you're the one answering them and
you feel confident asking them.
Natural conversation (something that is almost impossible to have in most
bar and club situations) mandates that it should flow nicely, back and forth.
Like waves on a pier.
But it so rarely does. Instead, it does tend to become a struggle for control.
The question is also not what questions to avoid, but can you just sit there
and not answer her, confidently?
The question is: WHY do you feel you must answer?
And your best defense is, how do you answer without answering?
Why not ask her something like:
"Wow, you sure are
curious. Is this a test? How am I doing? I sure would hate not to pass this
one." (With
an air of delicate sarcasm.) "Don't worry, Suzie. There's no need to
rush. I'll probably live in this city for at least another year or so." Smile.
Always go into a conversation with the knowledge that YOU control it, and
YOU can walk away at any time, and anything she says can NEVER challenge your
worth or sense of power.
Learn more about conversational control and how
to talk to women.
Powerful men don't try too hard. They know how to influence
a woman by demonstrating their internal strength in certain ways.
Do you want to start learning how to dramatically
improve your self-confidence with real, time-proven
methods?
Are you ready to drop that lame "Nice Guy" routine
and start showing her a real Alpha
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Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit
it.
"Carlos
"Not sure
if this will actually get to you. Just wanted to say
'You KICK ASS!!'
"I honestly
havent felt this confident and had so much control with a women ever...
You're Bigger than life! keep it coming
"Sincerely,
Ron S."
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