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Wow, it's been a cRaZy week.
No, really, unbelievably crazy. Just when I thought I
was on top of things, I get a call to do this ABC show in March, and another
guy calls me from New York for a reality television show they want to pitch
with me as the host.
CRAZY!
But very very cool. I feel truly blessed to have these
opportunities finding me.
And I'm not one to sit still for long, and I'm busier
than a one-legged man in an ass-kicking contest.
But that's life.
You gotta roll with it.
You see, the Old Me would have been inflexible and structured
about my time, but now that I'm a New
and Improved Alpha Man, I'm a bit more
on the relaxed side.
You might say I've hit my stride.
I'll also be interviewing Joe Quirk, author of Sperm
are from Men, Eggs are from Women, a fun and fantastic read. Joe will be sharing
his insights with me on the book, and I'll be sharing them with you on the
Advanced Coaching program.
Not to mention my recent interview with Big Will Hicks,
my man on the East Coast. That's also coming to an Advanced Coaching session
very soon...
This weekend I'm up in Lake Tahoe again, enjoying the new
snow and pow-pow-powder from heaven. If you're in the 'hood, look me up on
KT-22 Express chair to my own personal heaven at Squaw Valley, USA.
Or maybe you'll see me up on Granite Chief or Sibera Express...
I'll be the one on the lift sitting between the girls
and having a blast. And I expect you to be doing the same wherever you are!
On to the newsletter...
QUESTION: Enough
of those stupid emails ...
This woman I'm currently seeing often forwards me
humorous email video clips or jokes of various kinds, including an occassional
male-bashing one, that actually kind of gets under my skin just a bit with
all of the "wussification" of
the American Male in the media and beautiful women's false reality of power
going on.
I feel that I have to stick up for my gender by
bantering back to her something equally as insightful and playful, but without
making too big a deal about it, you know, like, "yeah that's kind of cute...for most guys, but I'm
waay more sophisticated than that you dork", kind of vibe.
Are there any good female-bashing sites that bust women's balls really good...you
know, to show her that we men know all about how screwed up women can be.
What would be a good come-back?
If nothing else, I thought about replying back with, "And don't forget
the beer", or "Hey that's interesting, those are most of the reasons
why I still let you come over".
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
This is a great question, because I find a lot of women like to play the
gender card and include guys on their lame emails. And they either do it once
in a while, or all the freakin' time.
The best response is simply to ignore
the emails (I do ignore them, but note
their content) and then, when the opportunity is right, I let her know that
I'm smarter and above having to have a comeback for them.
Say we're out having drinks and at some point I'll make it a point to say:
"You know, I really like hanging out with women.
There are a lot of guys out there that have a problem with women, some kind
of gender anger bullshit. There are even a lot of women with this issue.
It's nice to be around a person that doesn't feel like she has to constantly
belittle the opposite sex to give herself a sense of self-esteem."
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Then you sit back and watch what
happens next. She will either react weird,
depending on how she reads your statement and then contrasts it with herself.
- If she is a fairly cool chick, she'll probably roll with it, and hopefully
you won't hear any more of her nonsense anymore. Or get those lame emails.
- If she flinches, or even goes so far as to contradict what you say, you've
got a red flag to watch out for.
I believe in reinforcing the good behavior. If her poor behavior is not modified
by HER, then I won't be able to do much about it either.
The key here is to roll with it.
Don't let her annoying habit (and there
are a small but noticeable group of women that really get off on this 'laugh
at men' stuff) get in the way of you going after what you want. If you detect
that this is going to be an ongoing thing, you should consider whether you
have the patience to manage this issue.
Do not get caught up in the game of justifying men or defending men. That's
going to look wussy.
And you have to keep your behavior above reprisal. Meaning:
don't start mocking women as a way to put her in her place.
Live your life by principle, not manipulated reactions.
As I teach HERE....
QUESTION: So
what about your looks ...?
I have been reviewing your material and in a nutshell from what I get from
it is as long as you are confident and comfortable talking to women, and making
them feel comfortable and making them want to come back and see more of you,
you shouldn't have a problem. pretty much common sense.
I am very confident in all my abilities, I am a 24 year old university student
and aspiring architect, I get excellent grades. I am a part time entrepreneur
and I am happy with the money I am making. I have close friends which I know
I can trust. I can go out with people and be entertaining. I am emotionally
independent. I am in control of most of the aspects of my life. I am grateful
for what I have and can achieve.
I have noticed that I can talk to any woman on a platonic
level and she will feel comfortable, but once I try to talk to a woman on
a romantic level she starts to feel uncomfortable or tries to brush me off
with the nice guy bull shit. I'm not a nice guy, the manner in which I do
everything else makes me feel like I just brutally conquer things...
So far I guess you are wondering why I say you can't help me. I am a very
ugly man, and if you saw me you would probably say I am right. Since my latter
high school years to the present I have stumbled upon and eaves-dropped on
girls I know talking amongst themselves and laughing how ugly I am numerous
times.
I am tired of banging fat drunk cougars every two months.
How do I get a beautiful woman or even just an average girl my age to look
past the exterior. because what I noticed is a woman has to be at least mildly
physically attracted to you for it to ever develop into any balanced relationship.
I want to achieve but not by being a platonic fag for
three years, and then finally getting some for 8 months straight until I get
married and then I got to beg for sex while she's banging the mailman... or
just ending up a being a rich sugar daddy for some whore. I want something
balanced and real.
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
I get this question from time to time, and the tone
is usually the same: "My
situation is hopeless, I've identified my limiting factor and I'll never get
past it. Now please tell me how to get past it."
Do you see the contradiction here?
If it really was true that you are too ugly to get a woman, you would have
accepted it by now. But there's something deep inside you that knows that
this isn't true.
Here's a complete play-by-play on what you need to do
to get
yourself more success with women.
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Alpha Man Conversation & Persuasion
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HERE TO SEE MY NEWEST PROGRAM...
1) Drop the negativity, and FAST.
You think that the ugly part is on the outside, but it's
a bitterness that taints you on the inside, too. And I can tell it by your
tone. You're angry about this.
Instead of getting angry, channel that energy into constructive
change.
Ask yourself this: What if my worst suspicions were true...
What would I do?
Would I crawl into a hole and die?
Or would I accept the facts and figure out a strategy
to overcome it?
I think you know what the Alpha
Man solution to that problem
is, don't you?
2) There are different forms of confidence. It sounds
like you have some of the externally validated kind, but you don't understand
my concept of "ambient
confidence." I explain this in my Alpha
Man programs.
But you have to realize that confidence in one area does not always translate
into another. You must learn specific skills to be effective at dating. That
is what you'll learn in my programs. I don't just tell guys to be confident
- I show them HOW - along with the things you can do and say.
The difference is that I teach men HOW
to be more confident. Not just blowing smoke up your ass telling you that you just "need to be confident." Or "just
do it!" You have to know how to "do it."
3) You need to hold
up against a woman's first attempts to brush you off. This is the significant
turning point of your game where YOU appear to be
having problems. She will resist you initially, and it's how you handle that
initial resistance that will determine her opinion of you.
Do you make her feel comfortable with herself and you?
Do you put her at ease?
As a fellow advisor once said, if you at least put
some effort into grooming and style, you will AT LEAST be a "5" out of "10" to
a woman. Everything you do after you open your mouth either raises that
or lowers that baseline.
Your looks only matter when you let them overshadow your confidence
and persuasiveness.
I see ugly guys dating good looking women ALL THE TIME.
Yes, you say that this is all common sense, but common sense ain't so common,
is it?
I never say you "shouldn't" have a problem.
Lots of guys do. But it starts with following my game plan for improving
your own life at the same time.
Pursuing a woman has NEVER been the answer.
(At least, the ONLY answer.)
But becoming an Alpha Man always will be.
And if you want to learn the Advanced
Communication Strategies that I use to get women interested and KEEP them interested,
you should look at this: Alpha
Man Conversation & Persuasion
Chances are, you're placing too much importance on finding
a woman rather than finding your purpose here on this planet.
Paul Coelho describes it as your Personal Legend.
I call it your Alpha Man destiny.
You must find it - and it's not
a woman.
But a woman makes a great companion on the journey! Which
is why I show you how to find this destiny, AND attract women that you want
into your sphere of Alpha influence.
CLICK
HERE TO FIND OUT MORE ...
If you need to learn more about how to find your
Alpha Man Destiny,
then you need to get a look at this:
CLICK
HERE: The Secrets of the Alpha Man.
Women are attracted to the leader.
The Alpha Man.
Look, the reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying my own inner
psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things make a difference
and will genuinely help you improve your inner game
with women.
When a woman detects that you've got passions and direction in your life
- even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
Click here
right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
Discover your inner Alpha
Man now... Click HERE
to learn more...
Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
Learn more about R.E.A.L.
Game (TM) and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man: Take a look
at the original program that will put you on the path - Alpha
Immersion. This is the ORIGINAL Alpha
Man program that gives you the REAL Game with women.
Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
my advice and strategies ...
CLICK
HERE TO LEARN MORE...
Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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"The difference between
great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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