CARLOS XUMA'S DATING ADVICE NEWSLETTER:
This is Going to HURT...
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Saturday, 7:38 AM:
I guess it was only a matter of time...
I'm seeing a lot of guys writing in about how to be more
real in their conversations with women. By "real" they mean, how can I be
myself, and yet still attract women?
The fundamental flaw of may of the "seduction" systems
you see out there is that YOU are not attractive as you are. You must somehow
trade in your current personality and adopt a whole new act to get women interested
in you. This only sets you up to be even more disillusioned when your "pickup"
persona starts to feel like a Halloween costume you can't take off.
But there are guys out there that are finally getting
the grasp of how to manage and balance the tactics and
techniques that work
with a strategy of being true to yourself.
Since that's all I've taught here, I guess I'll
just keep on doing the same thing. (By the way, the US Patent office just
approved my REAL
Game system as a complete and unique process for transforming
men. I'm proud to say that REAL Game ® is now an official
trademark.)
You see, the major difference in what I teach is that
I don't want you to feel like a sneaky creep trying to coerce or manipulate
women. There are natural behavioral cues you can adopt that
will absolutely build
your confidence AND your attractiveness to women.
I'll tell you more about them in a bit.
But for now, I want to ask you something... are you coach-able?
Will you take advice?
Read on ...
QUESTION: A wicked
bitch slap...
Hi Carlos,
I have purchased the Secrets
of Alpha Man a few days back.
I have only read a few pages because right away I want to tell you I am in
a big problem, and I'm not being able to carry on. I'm sure it will look silly
to you but believe me, man, to me, it's really not.
I love a girl. She knows it. She is really beautiful and
gets constant proposals I guess. She knows I love her as I have already told
her. She was really in love with her ex and she had a big blow because he
cheated on her. She tells me that's the past and she wants to stay alone now.
Initially she gave me signs that she was interested
and she was, but then suddenly she will be seeming to back off. yesterday
she messaged me and told me that she is sorry and that she cannot
give what I am expecting from her, she recognized that she was a bit at
fault because she gave me some hope with her attitude and that she won't do
it now, and she is "sorry."
I told her I know that she is confused and indecisive.
She told me maybe yes and she wants to stay alone. I even asked her if she
is seeing somebody. She said no.
Guru, I know you'll tell me DUMP HER and find 5
other girls. The thing is that I really really really want to get her, man.
Please I would ask you to tell me what the things I can do in this context
to get her to me. I know her, if I stop contacting her for two weeks in
order "for
her to miss me" etc etc, its almost like me losing her for good.
Please tell me,what can I do to get her back. PLEASE.
Making it as if going to get 10 other girls is really out of question for
me.
I really hope you help me out.
Thanks.
A
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Congratulations!
You're completely obsessed. You've lost
control of your own thinking and you're letting yourself getting wrapped up
in one woman.
I smell crisis coming up for you, and I want to help you but...
Sorry, buddy, your mind has been hijacked, and you need
a bitch slap to get you back on track. Call it tough love, but I'm going to
rip into you a little here. If it's too much, you can always stop and blow
your nose, dab the tears from your eyes, and whimper for a while.
When you say "going to get
10 other girls is really out of question for me," here's what you're really saying:
1) "I don't have
the mental self discipline to control my emotions...."
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2) "I now think
I'm the advisor because I'm telling him what NOT to tell
me, even if I know it is true..."
3) "I am crazy, obsessed, and I refuse to take
the steering wheel of my own state back under my control."
Look, I hate to burst your bubble, but there's nothing
ANYONE can do to help you. You're so immersed in a scarcity mindset ("this woman is the only
one for me!") you'll be lucky if your testicles don't shrivel up and
disappear.
You want her?
Stop being a woman! That's why she doesn't want you. A man can walk away
from a woman that doesn't want him. All you're doing is further proving just
how much you're lost in her, how no other women want you, and the needy kind
of desperation that will NEVER attract her.
By the way, I forgot to tell you: You already lost her. She's
gone. You're
too late.
She backed off from you because you ran her over with your desperation.
Oh, and that part about her not seeing anyone else? Prepare yourself for
yet another merciless bitch slap...
She probably is seeing another guy.
And he's a jerk.
And he's banging her
right now.
(Sound of crowd: "OHHHHHHH!
That's GOTTA hurt!")
It sure oughta.
Now take that pain you're feeling and use it - use it as fuel to transform
your attitude from desperate clingy whiner to powerful
Alpha Man.
Rather than spend a thousand times the effort on this
woman to get her back, why not man-up and learn the
right mindset. If you resist my advice and continue
down this path, you're just saying you're un-coachable and stuck in a fantasy
land where you pursue women that have no attraction for you.
This isn't a magic spell we're casting over her. It's
practical human behavior. And once you've dropped the ball (or lost them)
it's next to impossible to regain the lost ground.
BOTTOM LINE: You better read the rest
of my program QUICK. The reason you're
not getting what you want is because you're turning into a wuss faster than
the speed of light. You can't understand the mindset of the Alpha Man if you
don't learn it from the inside-out. You have so much potential at your fingertips
right now, and you don't even know it! It's all in the Secrets
of the Alpha Man program.
But I have high hopes for you.
You think this is painful, imagine what will happen if you keep going further
and further down the drain? I'm throwing you a lifeline, my brother. Wake
up and grab it.
Here's a story you might appreciate:
There came a big flood, and the water around Jim's
house was rising steadily.
Jim was standing on the porch, watching water rising
all around him, when a man in a boat came along and called to him, "Get in the boat and I'll
get you out of here." Jim replied, "No thanks, God will save
me."
Jim went into the house, and the water was starting to pour in. So, he went
up to the second floor.
As he looked out, another man in a boat came along,
and he called to Jim, "Get
in the boat and I'll get you out of here."
Again, Jim replied, "No thanks. God will save
me."
The water kept rising. So, Jim got out onto the roof.
A helicopter flew over, and the pilot called down
to Jim, "I'll drop
you a rope, grab onto it, and I'll get you out of here."
Again Jim replied, "No thanks. God will save
me."
The water rose and rose, and soon nearly covered the whole house. Jim fell
in, and drowned.
When he arrived in Heaven, he saw God, and asked
Him, "Why didn't you
save me from that terrible flood? Did I not show you my faith?"
God replied, "What more
did you want? I sent people in two boats and a helicopter!"
Don't confuse your fear with your
path. If you let your emotions steer you,
we'll just wave to you as you go over the falls. But if you reach out, your
salvation is right in front of you.
The Secrets are Here...
QUESTION: The
Phone Rules ...
I have known this girl for a little over a week. We've gotten pretty close
and a little physical. But I was just wondering about how I should call her.
I know the rules for calling a girl that you just met: waiting a couple days
before calling, only calling once or twice a week, and keeping the conversation
limited. But what are the rules for talking to a girl that you're kind of
close to but not dating.
Should I call her every day or every other day and how long should I talk
to her?
Thanks,
T in VA
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
The rule is really "Do what makes the most
sense..."
Remember my new mantra:
Act according to principle, not for manipulation.
In other words, you do what's right because it comes from confidence
and character rather than a desired result.
The reality of the Alpha Man is that he's got too much going on to be too
concerned about any single woman, until she has proven herself a keeper. (And,
my friend, after one week, this woman is still a big MAYBE.)
He's so caught up in his own life and lifestyle that he doesn't really have
the time to worry about calling her. In fact, he will occasionally get so
caught up in his own busy lifestyle, passions, and goals that he forgets to
call her.
Imagine that!
CONTINUED...
And the Winner of the Alpha Communication
& Persuasion Contest is...
Ryan from Shorewood, WI!
He'll receive a free phone coaching
session direct with Carlos Xuma!
______________________
Right now, you're on the other side of this concept, where you don't quite
have the Alpha mindset and the lifestyle, but you're trying to emulate it
as best you can to get the best results. Hey, nothing wrong with that. That's
how you learn this game.
My suggestion is this: Call her when you want to setup a time to get together
with her. Don't get into long aching conversations about your childhoods on
the phone. The phone is simply a tool - a connector to get you from this date
to the next one. It is NOT about forging a relationship.
She needs to be totally jones-ing for your presence, like a drug addict that
is aching for a fix. By calling her, you take the edge off it and she gets
to feel less attraction.
Your first question should always be this: What is the right thing to do
from principle?
Then ask yourself: Does this drive her attraction
for me up, or lower it?
If you really think that through, you'll get the answer.
You see, women are attracted to the leader.
The Alpha Man.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying my own inner
psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things make a difference
and
I will genuinely help you improve your inner game
with women.
When a woman detects that you've got passions and direction in your life
- even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
Click here
right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
Discover your inner Alpha
Man now... Click HERE
to learn more...
CLICK
HERE TO FIND OUT MORE ...
Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
Learn more about R.E.A.L.
Game ® and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man: Take a look
at the original program that will put you on the path - Alpha
Immersion. This is the ORIGINAL Alpha
Man program that gives you the REAL Game with women.
Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
my advice and strategies ...
CLICK
HERE TO LEARN MORE...
Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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