CARLOS XUMA'S NEWSLETTER:
Don't React to Life - Grab it by the BALLS ...!
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Well, here we are again, at the end of another week.
Have you improved your skills with
women this week? Have
you gone out and used my strategies & techniques to improve your social skills?
Chances are, you haven't.
I'm not saying this to be a negative guy or a pessimist.
I just know that our lives have a funny way of running away with our best
intents. It's easy to get caught up in the apparent "urgency" of what's going
on right at the moment. We forget that as Alpha Men we're on a different path.
We act. Not RE-act.
It's quite easy to get caught up in what SEEMS like an
emergency, only to get through it and feel like you need to catch up on whatever
that crisis interrupted you from, and then - just as you're about to get caught
up - another "urgent" situation comes up.
Life is filled with things that appear to need our immediate
attention, but you have to recognize the difference between "urgency" and
"importance."
URGENT is something that must be handled because
it seems like it cannot wait, like an urgent request from your boss, or an
email from a woman.
IMPORTANT is something that will take longer to accomplish,
but will have far-reaching effects on your life. Like getting your college
education, or researching the company you're about to interview for.
Don't let another week go by where you let the imaginary
crisis of the moment stop you (or give you a lazy excuse to stop you) from
doing what you need, and developing the skills you need to get
the success you want.
Remember, self-improvement almost never seems URGENT until
you bottom out and reach a crisis in your life. Don't let it get that far.
If you want more information on how to get on this Alpha
Track of life, you can just click here: Alpha Man
On to the newsletter...
QUESTION: It's
Groudhog Day all over again ...
I am running into a situation sort of like the Groundhog Day Movie where
the same situation keeps happening to me as if destiny is throwing it at me
over and over again. I haven't seen this question covered before. I have been
using your materials and am finally starting to feel like I have at least
a fair playing field when it comes to women. Anyways, here is my question.
For the last few dates with my girlfriend someone has been exceptionally rude
to me.
For example: We are setting in the drivethru area
at a chicken joint that we had never been to before. I wasn't sure if we
should keep driving after the waitress took our order (to the window or
not). Well, a young dude dressed in red and yellow looked at me and said "move up to the window" in
a tone of voice that sounded like an order. My girlfriend even said "that
sounded like and order"... Cars were behind me, the order had already
been given and our kids in the back seat were waiting for their food. So,
I moved up to the window.
A similar situation happened last night when I took
my girlfriend home. Her babysitter started bustin' on me. This one was tricky
because I had to keep some decorum and I busted her back but the reality
is that the sitter took home the trophy and I felt chagrin. My girlfriend
even said "wow, she
likes bustin' on you - it must be that cocky streak you have that she is after".
The ealier part of the night was incredible and to end on a wuss note is not
a great feeling.
Trust me. I would very much appreciate any advice you have and I will use
it.
- Robert
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Now that's what I like - a guy who will take advice and USE it.
Okay, let's see what's going on here.
First, you're feeling a bit pissed off by the fact that these people are
getting the better of you.
GOOD!
That means you still have a pair and you haven't been
castrated down to a she-male girly-boy. It's perfectly natural for an Alpha
Man to feel a bit
spunky and enlivened by the challenge. It's when you start
letting this stuff go that I would worry about you.
Second, you realized that this was a repeating pattern, and you needed to
resolve it.
EXCELLENT!
The "Groundhog Day" example you mention
is an awesome analogy to how you can approach this. Just like Bill Murray,
you need to find out how to handle it so you don't go out of your freakin'
mind by the same situations coming up over and over and you not being able
to manage them.
I'll give you one way you can deal with this. I
call it a "Wild Card" gambit.
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Do you know what
is?
CLICK HERE TO LEARN
What is a Wild-Card Gambit?
It's simply something you can say to end things on your
terms, and it doesn't matter what they said. You can use it almost anywhere
and at anytime.
What I like to use is something like: "Yeah, that sounds like a good
one..." and then I throw them a VERY cocky and knowing smirk (a smirk
is half a smile - think: James Bond). This throws them into a loop where it
appears that I gave them the "win" but I maintained a smug and unspoken
internal victory.
That never fails, but only when I have the ATTITUDE to back it up. If you
say that with too little attitude or come from a weak posture, you'll lose
again because you appear incongruent.
Look, it's tough to come up with the right thing to say on-the-spot. You
have to have some of these gambits to pull out when you're just not feeling
up to verbal sparring.
But if you'd like to learn how to spar the right way, and keep conversation
going on your terms no matter what, you need to see my Alpha Man Conversation
and Persuasion program.
QUESTION: What
does she REALLY mean ...?
I was hoping you could be kind enough to give me the benefit of your insights
on a situation I was confronted with recently. I have been seeing this girl
for a few weeks now and after a while I invited her over to my house. In the
course of our conversation she, out of the blue, said I was just interested
in getting into her pants than in true love.
Truth is I really didn't know how to handle it. Please could you advise me
on how to defuse this kind of tricky situation. Please.
Yours sincerely,
J.O.
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
The key here is to not get caught up in the trap of answering her questions.
When you think you owe her an answer, or you have a tough time coming from
a place where you know this answer in your heart, you'll shake her confidence
in you because you're not quite there in your own confidence.
When I got questions like this, I would always take some time afterwards
to think through my answer for the next time I was asked.
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You see, she's not asking you that question for an answer. She just wants
to know she can feel safe and confident with you.
This is a classical "test" question from
a woman. You'll hear it in many different ways.
What she's saying is, "Are you just some guy
looking to get quick sex from me, or can I trust you?"
And under that question is this most basic question: "Am
I special?"
When you can understand a woman's TRUE question,
you will no longer be fooled with these tests. And the faster you can tell
her what she's really asking, the faster she will be yours...
Learn the Secrets
of Alpha Conversation & Persuasion...
CLICK
HERE TO FIND OUT MORE ...
If you need to learn more about how to find your
Alpha Man Destiny,
then you need to get a look at this:
CLICK
HERE: The Secrets of the Alpha Man.
You see, women are attracted to the leader.
The Alpha Man.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying my own inner
psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things make a difference
and will genuinely help you improve your inner game
with women.
When a woman detects that you've got passions and direction in your life
- even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
Click here
right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
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Man now... Click HERE
to learn more...
Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
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Game (TM) and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man: Take a look
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Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
my advice and strategies ...
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Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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"The difference between
great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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