CARLOS XUMA'S NEWSLETTER:
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Ah, you're back...
And so am I.
I just got done watching "Borat" and laughed
my ass off. Seriously, I can't find my ass anywhere. If you see it, send it
back, because I don't like wearing suspenders.
If you haven't seen this movie yet,
it somehow managed to totally disgust me and make me laugh
hysterically. (Go ahead - try not to lose it when Borat and his friend
have their knock down fight ... uh, naked.)
Anyway, it's good for 70 minutes of something like "Jackass"
meets ... well, hell, I don't know.
And for you crazy mo-fo's out there that like your humor
as stupid and fun as it comes, may I recommend "Robot
Chicken." Brought to
you by Seth Green (Scott from the "Austin Powers" movies) and some other dude,
their bite-sized skits are also pretty damn funny. The one with Real
World: Metropolis was pretty hysterical.
Well, that's my viewing recommendations for this week.
Friday it's off to the symphony, and Saturday I'm partying
up with Bart Bagget. No, he's not a hobbit; he's the guy that brought you
handwriting analysis, and it's something I recommend for every Alpha
Man worth
his salt.
Now...
On to the newsletter...
QUESTION: You
need to get out of the house, dude...
Well about 6 months ago something happened and I decided not to go out with
friends and just stay inside my house and train in martial arts for 6 months
straight. About 3 months into my goal I met this girl that goes to my school
and we started talking and I find out she also takes martial arts and we started
talking. She gave me the obvious signs of interest but I didn't move it further
because there was no point because I am staying at home and dont go out.
Her friends tell me that she was interested in me but
I stopped talking to her.
Well 6 months is almost over and I havent talked
to her in a couple of months and she still gives me signs (smiling at me during
the halls.) She probably thinks I'm scared because I didn't ask her out.Should
I just move on after my 6 months because she will probably think im scared
or still try to get the number after 6 months is over?
Your products helped me sooo much, she probably wouldn't even look at me
if I didnt have these techniques. From your extensive yet easy to understand
manuals, to the depth of knowledge your products provide. You definitely have
passion. During the past few months I have purchased 2 of your products, both
of which have exceeded my expectations.
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Well...
Hmm...
I'm trying to find a nice way of saying this.
I think your self-imposed seclusion has a price,
my friend. I appreciate that you had a goal and wanted to accomplish it, and,
yes, it is sometimes necessary to swing the pendulum way over and get extreme
...
Sometimes.
This does seem a bit much. As a martial arts instructor,
I appreciate your dedication. However, keep in mind that true
martial arts training (if it's to be effective in real combat) would
require you to work with a partner. And you'll still need to be training on
an ongoing basis. (There is no
substitute for interacting with a live human being.)
But again, I salute your dedication.
The reason this girl still smiles at you is because it
would be socially awkward not to acknowledge your previous conversations
or connection.
Here are your options:
CONTINUED...
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is?
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1) Tell her what you're
doing with your training, and then tell her you want to see her when your
goal is complete. This is a great way of letting her know that you have your
own life and path to follow. This is a turn-on to women.
2) If she isn't responsive
to you later, chalk it up as the
price you pay for sequestering yourself inside. Sometimes you
can't rebound back into someone's life. Women are expecting ACTION.
In evolutionary terms, women know that the men that make decisions and
take action are a better survival bet for her.
Does she want the guy that
will protect her with his life, or the weepy guy who pees in his bear skin
when the mammoth attacks?
Look at it this way, you've got nothing
to lose by asking, right? You don't have her now, and the worst
case is that it will be exactly the same after.
The very least you can do is to go
talk to her and see how it goes.
But if you'd like to know how to handle this from the
beginning and approach
women so that you don't lose their interest, I suggest
you click
here and read about how...
QUESTION: Can
an Alpha Man really walk away ...?
I have made it about half-way through the Secrets
of the Alpha Man program and listen to the CD's while driving to work. I've
been using the Alpha Exercises to refocus on what I want and really need
to be doing. I'm seeing a huge improvement in my ability to get things done
at work and home by prioritizing and goal setting.
A 2 month old project was completed in 4 focused days because I set the goal
of 'done in 1 week' and then I filled in the steps to get there, and just
did it. Amazing stuff that's really well put together. By getting that project
out of the way, I've had time to think about more important things - namely
women, which brings me to my question.
When I read your "Rules for Women", I
realized I'd been using the same rules for women as my other activities
like work and volunteering. Many of us are passionate about what we do or
who we are with - and it becomes part of how we explain who we are. When
you decide to leave a situation to protect your priciples, and you find
yourself 'between passions' or in that 'dry spell' - how do you explain
that to people from a point of power, rather than sounding like you ran
away?
For example - if you were a martial arts teacher and discovered the owner
was afraid you were going to steal his students - so he lied to you to protect
his business - or disrepected you by bouncing you around so the students couldn't
find you, or you got passed over for a promotion so they could hire a buddy
instead... there's usually a gap between leaving and starting over.
Same is true with women. If more than one of these
happens at once, it leaves a big gap that may take a while to recover. As
soon as you say, "Well,
I was doing this because I enjoyed it... and I left." They always ask, "Why
did you leave? What are you doing now?"
Even when confidently stating "I left to pursue other options." some
women reply, "I don't believe you. It's inconsistent to leave something
you say you loved."
Thanks for all the hard work. I can feel the positive changes starting.
- DS in Arizona
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
Great observation here.
When a woman says: "I don't
believe you. It's inconsistent to leave something you say you loved."
It's because women don't have the Alpha
Man self-control
to be able to walk away. Their emotions rule their decisions.
Not us. We Alpha Men must rule
our emotions.
By the way, you never need to explain yourself to
others. Feeling obligated to "explain yourself" shows that you're
more concerned about their opinion than your
own judgment.
BUT, if you want to give them a reason, you tell them the truth.
CONTINUED...
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interested, you should look at this:
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"I had to move on to do what was right for
me. I'm sure you understand that."
If she says she doesn't believe you, you shrug and walk
away. Why should I care if she believes me or not?
Act on PRINCIPLE, not for manipulated results. We don't need her opinion.
As the saying goes: Opinions are like butt-holes. Everyone's
got one.
And they usually stink.
Now, this same Alpha
Man wrote back about his experience
with yet another woman:
After I sent you the question, I remembered calling one
of the (~5) women on her body language... she was lying about it being inconsistent
and couldn't look at me when she said it. Her body language said she was the
one who couldn't handle it...
I was frustrated with her being
the fifth [woman] in a row to walk away, and without thinking, I said something
like, "That's not true...
you're protecting yourself by walking away now from someone you know will
walk if you lie to them, aren't you?" She kind of slumped her shoulders
and said, "Yes." She
then looked at me and asked, "You really are alpha, aren't you?" I
just shrugged and she said, "Too alpha for me." and we each went
different ways.
What you said was RIGHT
ON. You called her on her bullshit in the
right way. And she basically admitted to you that she was low self-esteem
and not up to the task of being a woman in your life. I'll bet that felt pretty
damn good.
I would be saying a quiet thanks to the cosmos that I
eliminated her now rather than months down the road when her weak sense of
self-confidence pulled both of us down a black hole of despair.
The single most important choice you will ever make is
which woman will be your companion.
Don't mess it up!
You can find out more about how to approach and meet women here...
Chances are, you're placing too much importance on finding
a woman rather than finding your purpose here on this planet.
Paul Coelho describes it as your Personal Legend.
I call it your Alpha Man destiny.
You must find it - and it's not
just a woman.
But a woman can make a great companion on the journey!
Which is why I show you how to find this destiny, AND attract
women that you want into your sphere of Alpha influence.
CLICK
HERE TO FIND OUT MORE ...
If you need to learn more about how to find your
Alpha Man Destiny,
then you need to get a look at this:
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HERE: The Secrets of the Alpha Man.
You see, women are attracted to the leader.
The Alpha Man.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying my own inner
psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things make a difference
and will genuinely help you improve your inner game
with women.
When a woman detects that you've got passions and direction in your life
- even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
Click here
right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
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to learn more...
Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
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Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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