CARLOS XUMA'S NEWSLETTER:
"You're too young! Don't do it! "
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Did you survive?
No, not the apocalypse.
THAT day. Valentines Day?
Hopefully you did. And without a trace of guilt if you
either DID or DID NOT have a woman to share it with.
I was just up at Lake Tahoe indulging myself in some serious
downhill thrillseeking... It was a blast. All except for the part where I
caught an edge in the terrain park and did a 360 degree somersault in the
air, landing on my head.
Thank God for my helmet, sports fans, or Carlos would
be sporting a smashed melon.
It was such a wicked crash that even teenagers
were coming over and saying, "Dude! Are you alright?" I even
got some cheers from the people on the lift chair overhead. Gotta love it!
But you have to love the rush... the adrenaline thrill...
Not to mention, it allows me to talk to a couple new people
every lift ride up. You meet some pretty interesting folks. Lawyers, men,
women, whoever.
It's part of the social identity that I enjoy and invest
my time and energy building.
Even though I'm an...
I'm an...
INTROVERT.
Yes, you heard that right, dawg.
But for those of you who know what this means, it's not
the same as "antisocial," or "shy."
Introvert just means that I recharge
my batteries by being
alone.
So it is possible - yes, even PROBABLE - that you can
be successful with women, and socially, just by being yourself.
Don't fall into the pickup trap of believing that it's
all about "getting laid fast..."
It's about making your life what you want it to be.
I'll be back with more on that in a minute. But now, on
to the mailbag!
QUESTION: Ready
to get a Steady ...
Hmmm, my situation. So I have no problem getting
women into bed, however, I think this takes away from my wanting to be with
them long-term, they're too easy. Currently [I'm] seeing 3 women, but thats
it, theres nothing more there.
It's been a while since I've met one that I
actually wanted to stay with long term. Think I have a hard time trusting
women, heck if they slept around half as much as I did that would still be
substantial.
So I guess my situation is that I'm meeting all the wrong types of girls,
possibly looking in all the wrong places. At my age, 29, I'm ready to finally
settle down, well sooner than later...
Any feedback would be appreciated on this short summary.
Thanks,
-K
CARLOS XUMA'S ADVICE:
"At your age"??? You're laying an artificial expectation
on yourself. You don't have to get married unless you REALLY want
to get married.
One thing I've discovered is that the attitude of "I want to get married" very
often makes you very undesirable to women.
You're going to carry this aroma of "I'm ready ladies... let's get going..." And
it will ultimately repel the women you're looking to find.
The attitude you should have is just that of EXPLORATION.
You just don't want to hop on every woman like she's the last chopper out
of Vietnam...
Another problem you should
address is your double standard. You said: "if they slept around half
as much as I did that would still be substantial."
What does that say about you, my friend?
If you're saying it's okay because it's you, you're
making a classical error. (In fact this is a fallacy I blow wide open in
my new program, Alpha
Man Conversation & Communication.)
Think about it this way: If you're having a tough time
trusting other women because of what you imagine their sexual past to be,
can you imagine what other women feel for you with your REAL sexual
habits?
Don't kid yourself. Women can tell.
If the women you're seeing aren't doing it for you, or aren't what you want,
you need to start cycling your inventory, chum. The more of your life you
fill with what you DON'T want, the less room there is for what you do.
Figure out where your lack of trust is coming from, because that's your limiting
factor right now. Until you rid yourself of it, you won't find (or keep) a
good woman because you'll undermine it with your fears.
And also forget about your need for "sooner" or
having a timeline. If you could look into a crystal ball and see that you
wouldn't get married until you were 50, what would you do?
Go on living your life, learning, and improving at being an Alpha Man.
That's all you can do. Getting married doesn't change that. It's just a legal
document that works about 50% of the time.
My guess is that you're placing too much importance on finding a woman rather
than finding your purpose here on this planet. Paul Coelho describes it as
your Personal Legend.
I call it your Alpha Man destiny.
You must find it - and it's not
a woman.
But a woman makes a great companion on the journey! Which
is why I show you how to find this destiny, AND attract women that you want
into your sphere of Alpha influence.
CLICK
HERE TO FIND OUT MORE ...
If you need to learn more about how to handle
conversation and persuasion with women, then you need to get
a look at my new program:
CLICK
HERE: Alpha Man Conversation & Persuasion.
Women are attracted to the leader.
The Alpha Man.
Look, the reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying my own inner
psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things make a difference
and will genuinely help you improve your inner game
with women.
When a woman detects that you've got passions and direction in your life
- even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
Click here
right now to find out what I'm talking about, or just read on...
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
Click here to read about the Alpha
Man program.
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
Discover your inner Alpha
Man now... Click HERE
to learn more...
Listen
to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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Remember what Carlos says:
"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
Learn more about R.E.A.L.
Game (TM) and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man: Take a look
at the original program that will put you on the path - Alpha
Immersion. This is the ORIGINAL Alpha
Man program that gives you the REAL Game with women.
Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews. And then download them now to see why more men get success with
my advice and strategies ...
CLICK
HERE TO LEARN MORE...
Listen to what this guy says about his experience
learning the Truth:
"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now cd series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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"The difference between
great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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Teddy
Shabba of Dating Advice Coach Reviews The
Dating Black Book:
"Too many books dealing with
meeting and dating women focus on techniques instead of the basic fundamentals
of what actually attracts women to men.
In fact this is the main reason why so many nice
guys have problems actually getting any further than the first few dates
with women and that's if they find the courage to actually use the techniques
on women.
However, Carlos Xuma in his book The
Dating Black Book shows men the basic fundamentals of attracting
and being successful with women.
The
Dating Black Book starts off explaining the importance of actually
improving yourself and building self confidence to attract women.
If you are looking for a sugar coated version of
what it is going to take then this is Not the book for you.
After covering the different aspects of your inner
game as well as how to build your self confidence, Carlos moves on to
actually show you how to find a girlfriend or women for a long-term
relationship.
Many times men have a tendency to get comfortable
with a woman quite early and end up in a relationship they do not want
and do not know how to get out of.
The
Dating Black Book helps you understand what to look for in a good
woman and what to watch out for in a Not so good woman.
To finish off the book, Carlos quickly covers the
basics on sex as well as some additional resources for men to read that
will help improve a man's life in general.
Overall, if you have ever read anything that Carlos
Xuma has written on dating and women then you already know that he has
a lot of very useful information and knowledge to give men, and The
Dating Black Book will help you get even more of that information
and knowledge.
I would highly recommend this book to the majority
if not all Nice Guys or Recovering Nice Guys out there who are struggling
with some of the concepts and techniques that other guys teach.
If you want to just be yourself and attract women
then The
Dating Black Book by Carlos Xuma is for you..."
- Teddy Shabba - Dating Advice
Coach.com
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