NEWSLETTER:
The Relationship Zone
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
QUESTION: Getting
into the Relationship Zone ...?
Hey Carlos,
I'm encountering a little problem that isn't very complicated, and neither
serious, but it is blocking me from entering the relationship zone.
You see,I have no problem at all attracting women and keeping them interested;
neither do I have a problem meeting women and such. But after this attraction
has been built, and her interest has been taken to a higher level, I get completely
stuck as to how am I to start a relationship.
In my side of the world, the East, where things are still somewhat conservative,
how do I get a girl to be my girlfriend?
I don't want to take a rose and ask her to be my girl, no matter what her
attraction level for me is. I think she would then get the upper hand from
me and things would go nowhere, just as they were before I took the alpha
path.
What do you think I should do?
Things are a tad different in this part of the world, and even though I agree
that the attraction process is same everywhere, this transition process, from
attraction to relationship, is a bit different here.
What is your take on this? What would you do to start a relationship with
such girls?
I tried to let the attraction process go on, and get intimate with the girl,
but it just doesn't seem to happen. I'm in a fix.
What do you recommend?
CARLOS ANSWERS:
I think you're attributing too much to the difference in cultures. You're
not on Planet Altair IV in the Omega quadrant, after all. You're still on
Planet Earth with the human race.
And in the human race, we have these strange creatures
called women. And these women
want relationships - when
they're with a man they don't want to lose.
Read that last line again! That's important to realize.
After all, what woman was it you wanted to keep? The one
you felt you were LUCKY to have.
So the key to your strategy, if you want to start a relationship,
is to first of all, continue to be an Alpha
Man. That never changes. If you wuss out,
you're flushed down the toilet faster than a cat's hairball.
The next thing you should do is to see her
a couple times a week, while still being the Alpha.
Get her out with you and used to having you around. Studies have shown that
we become attached to the people that we see often, and we yearn for them
when they're absent.
You see, the hidden secret behind starting up her relationship engine is
simply to increase the FREQUENCY of your meetings. The more you see her, the
more she'll slip into relationship mode.
The mistake I think that's being made is that you assume you have to actively
change gears to get into relationship mode.
NOPE.
If a woman is attracted to you, her feelings are still crystallizing for
you. The transition will occur naturally if you let it.
So don't try to directly manipulate the nature of the relationship. Just
let it happen.
Continued ...
No, you don't have to bring her flowers. Although,
it couldn't hurt to bring her an OCCASIONAL gift of some kind. Just as long
as your actions say, "I'm
doing this because I WANT to, not because I have to," you'll be fine.
As long as you keep being the MAN in the relationship and not let her lead
you, everything should be great.
But also recognize that until she asks you about the nature of your relationship
or tells you her feelings for you, you have nothing to say about the rest
of your life or how you feel for her. She doesn't know if you're seeing other
women, or what is going on. You are fun and exciting when you're with her,
and practically a ghost when you're not around her.
Let her experience the full effect of the "dance" of
attraction that I map out for you in the Secrets of
the Alpha Man program.
That, my friend, is how you go into the relationship zone...
QUESTION: Don't
Be Lazy ...
hey carlos i dont know what to say about ur products they are not good but
they are....great! really let me confess....
well before using ur products i was a wussy guy crying for a decent girl
to get married.as i dont know wat to do with the girls i was tottally frustrated
by the use of the material that was available in the book stores...really
it was all rubbish and believe me i have cried a lot for having a decent girl
friend in my life it was pathetic and then suddenly a miracle has happened.
one day from google i have checked ur site and was totally skeptical whether
ur material work on indian women or not? but i have no choice except trying
ur products and sir believe me after trying ur products i have made 2 girl
friends in a row who are just begging to have date with me and now a year
has gone in using ur products and i am an alpha man....thanks a lot (tears
in my eyes)
for ur favours may god bless u a long and peaceful life.
regards
S
CARLOS ANSWERS:
I appreciate the kind words. Great job turning your life around! THAT is
why I created these programs. To show men another way to live - a BETTER way
to live.
And, for once, I'm not using this letter to toot my own horn.
Well, sort of...
What I really want to point out here is something that every guy out there
must resist. It's a temptation that seems to lure every guy under the age
of 30 (and a great many who are over.)
What is it?
It's the call of the "IM-speak."
That's right. We're all starting to shorten our words and find any excuse
to type less. As a result, all of our written communications are starting
to look like a vanity license plate.
Please don't fall into this trap, guys. SPELL YOUR WORDS OUT!
I'm not trying to rag on this guy for his email, because
his message still came through. There are, however, many things to watch out
for when using electronic communication like email and text messages.
Emails with shortened spellings like this make me feel
like I have to have a decoder ring to figure out what is being said.
If you want to email your buddies this way, fine.
But do not, under any circumstances, use these abbreviations (ur, 2 instead
of "too", etc.) Your is spelled "Your" not "UR."
The other temptation is to not capitalize. Whenever
the letter "I" is
used, it must ALWAYS be capitalized. The first letter of proper nouns and
the first letter of a sentence should ALWAYS be capitalized.
(And the word "God" when
used to refer to the deity should also be capitalized.)
Why am I making a big deal out of this?
Well, it's because women are interpretive
creatures. If you make a woman
read into this, I'll tell you what interpretations she's going to make:
1) You're a lazy typer
2) Therefore, you're probably a lazy person
3) Therefore, you'll probably not put much work into your meetings with her
4) Therefore, you'll probably give up on the relationship and not put much
effort in and you'll always be looking for short-cuts
5) Therefore, she shouldn't be very attracted to you.
Continued
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Of course, this is very simplistic, and she won't necessarily make this deductive
leap in words, but she will FEEL IT. And you'll be out of the game before
you even started.
Spell out every word, no matter how long, if you're texting, emailing, or
instant-messaging. Yes, I realize that it may require you to type, but that's
a good skill to have.
Hey, it is nice to know that my techniques and strategies have been field
tested and proven on Indian women. :)
In reality, what I teach is how guys can be better, stronger, more assertive
ALPHA MEN. And that works with EVERY woman out there.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't good at calibrating to this "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
You don't have to go to one of my bootcamps.
You can simply get my home-study
course of the same Alpha
Immersion program I use to train my students (and instructors) in the
field.
It's my
latest DVD program, and I just got some new stock of them in the warehouse
this week.
Again, the reality is that if you're only reading the
newsletters or listening to my podcast, you need more. It's like meeting up
with a group of people who just attended a seminar. You can sort
of understand
what they're discussing - BUT you don't have the same foundation they have
from attending.
Take a look at the Alpha
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There's an old saying: Everybody wants to get into heaven,
but nobody wants to die.
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
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I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
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Take a look at the original program that will put you on the path - Alpha
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This is the ORIGINAL Alpha
Man program that gives you the REAL Game with
women.
Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews.
And then download them now to see why more men get success with my
advice and strategies ...
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"Carlos, my man!
I can't thank you enough for the valuable information you have shared
with me and how open my eyes have become to the tests and challenges
that women have put on me all my life.
"I would have to
say that your Alpha
Man Program is one of the
best solutions to getting this part of your life in order, as well
as, getting you where you want to be mentally to attract more of the
caliber women we all want in our lives. I hope we have a lasting relationship
in the form of mental growth for many years to come and thanks again
buddy..."
- Javier
"Hey carlos, thank
you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course.
I think I must've listened to the cd's four or five times now !
"The
confidence I've gained in meeting da ladeez at work and socially has
been tremendous. I was never skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned
as how I would notice the changes in myself. The clincher was when
several of my closest friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence
in so many ways!
"Thank you so much
for your hard work for making it easier for the rest of us !"
- Richie from UK
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Teddy
Shabba of Dating Advice Coach Reviews The
Dating Black Book:
"Too many books dealing with
meeting and dating women focus on techniques instead of the basic fundamentals
of what actually attracts women to men.
In fact this is the main reason why so many nice
guys have problems actually getting any further than the first few dates
with women and that's if they find the courage to actually use the techniques
on women.
However, Carlos Xuma in his book The
Dating Black Book shows men the basic fundamentals of attracting
and being successful with women.
The
Dating Black Book starts off explaining the importance of actually
improving yourself and building self confidence to attract women.
If you are looking for a sugar coated version of
what it is going to take then this is Not the book for you.
After covering the different aspects of your inner
game as well as how to build your self confidence, Carlos moves on to
actually show you how to find a girlfriend or women for a long-term
relationship.
Many times men have a tendency to get comfortable
with a woman quite early and end up in a relationship they do not want
and do not know how to get out of.
The
Dating Black Book helps you understand what to look for in a good
woman and what to watch out for in a Not so good woman.
To finish off the book, Carlos quickly covers the
basics on sex as well as some additional resources for men to read that
will help improve a man's life in general.
Overall, if you have ever read anything that Carlos
Xuma has written on dating and women then you already know that he has
a lot of very useful information and knowledge to give men, and The
Dating Black Book will help you get even more of that information
and knowledge.
I would highly recommend this book to the majority
if not all Nice Guys or Recovering Nice Guys out there who are struggling
with some of the concepts and techniques that other guys teach.
If you want to just be yourself and attract women
then The
Dating Black Book by Carlos Xuma is for you..."
- Teddy Shabba - Dating Advice
Coach.com
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"The difference between
great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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