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QUESTION:
Carlos-
Was out dancing the other night, and started up
a conversation with a cute girl... went very well... things got a little
strange after I asked for her number.
She gave it to me, and said 'don't
get all freaked out and think I'm a horrible person if I don't call back
right away. You may have to call a couple of times before I get a chance
to call you back since I am so busy".
Obviously, that's not what I wanted to hear. So, here's the question - my
instincts tell me call once, and then if no call back let it go (I don't have
to beg - plenty of fish in the sea)... what's your take?
Your program kicks major ass; provides an invaluable service to dudes to
let them know it's not about pickup lines and 'outer game' only. Well worth
every penny.
Keep up the great work - I look forward to every
coaching session and podcast.
-Tom
CARLOS ANSWERS:
She was just trying to inoculate you against her flaky personality. Nice
of her to try to keep your image of her pure and clean, but she's just playing
a game.
Now, when you say "that's not what I wanted to hear," I'd
be willing to bet that it LOOKED like that to her at that moment, too. That's
going to let her know right off that you're easily
jerked around by disappointment,
which also tells her that you're probably lacking self-confidence at the game.
Your response should be something teasing to her for every insecure little
tic and test she throws at you.
She says: "Don't think I'm a horrible person... I'm
so busy..."
YOU say: "Well, I think you'll make the time for
my call. It's not like you're going to have anything nearly as exciting as
me happen to you for some time. You're a smart woman. You'll answer." Big
cheesy grin.
Call her. Be persistent without being needy.
(continued ... )
Keep calling her until you either get tired of it, or you get
the date.
One try isn't enough. Hell, it will take her 10 minutes just to FIND her
phone in her purse. Do you really think that's enough to get through to her?
Work it a little, but only if you
can let go of the need for an expected result to make yourself feel good.
But if it makes you feel good, ditch her number after
the first call. (Just don't expect a whole lot of results there.)
An Alpha Man doesn't need a woman to answer the phone, he simply hopes she
will - for her sake - so that he can show her the kind of magic he can bring
to her life.
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QUESTION:
I bought your Alpha
Man program a little over a year ago and have been getting
fantastic results...
I have one question though... if you can help me.
I have been talking to a girl at work. Should I ALWAYS answer her phone calls?
I want to show interest and such. and I know [people]
fall for [people] when they are not around them. thus, I want to create
and environment of scarcity... cause I don't want to be "too available"..
know what I mean?
Like I say, we have talked to each other and seen each other for a few days
in a row and then she calls the next day. should I answer? I feel I need to
know when to be available and not. but, if she is interested and calling...
should I always answer?
CARLOS ANSWERS:
This is a common question that is asked by guys early on, when they first
realize that they can control attraction with women.
When you realize just how deep some of these
psychological principles run,
you start to become very alert to their presence.
The first you realize is how much your availability affects a person. If
you're available all the time, they don't feel your value. If you're never
available, they'll forget about you.
Where do you draw the line?
Well, my first suggestion comes from my R.E.A.L.
Game (TM) method. If you
want to attract a woman on a genuinely powerful level, you must be as close
to YOU as possible. You never need to use fake lines or hypnosis to attract
women. You only need to use certain principles with your REAL personality.
Cool, huh?
Let's face it: no man wants to be a fake guy just to attract women (or get
laid.) Even if you use clever manipulation up front, you sabotage your self-esteem
and self-image over the long run.
One way or another, you'll be back with me again working
on your confidence.
But what do you do when you're trying to learn what this confidence feels
like?
That's what you use strategy for. Understanding that being around too much
for a woman will kill her attraction is just a start. You have to know the
RIGHT way to demonstrate UN-availability.
What I always tell you guys is this:
Don't act hard to get...
BE hard to get.
Have the lifestyle of a man who is in demand.
Get out and get an active social
life. And then
you don't have to "fake" it.
You don't have to duck out calls TRYING to make yourself
look popular (and just reinforcing the inner suspicion that you're not.)
Get it?
(continued ... )
In answer to your question about should you ALWAYS answer her calls... I
say, NO. Answer if you WANT to.
But don't not-answer just to manipulate things.
One comes from a place of personal power. The other comes from need
and insecurity - and a desire to get validation.
But you have to trust that doing this will reinforce your confidence over
the long run.
When you have enough women and action in your life, you won't feel like you
want to answer every call that comes your way. And that's a good thing. You're
doing it because you've got a sense of abundance in
your life.
When you understand the Secrets
of the Alpha Man, this becomes more and more
clear...
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
It's all in the Alpha
Man Immersion program.
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
Discover your inner Alpha
Man now...
Do you want to start learning how to dramatically
improve your self-confidence with real, time-proven
methods?
Are you ready to drop that lame "Nice Guy" routine
and start showing her a real Alpha
Man? And it doesn't require you to be some fake "pickup artist" to attract
women. It's actually about bringing out more of YOU than you have before.
And if you'd like to learn more about R.E.A.L.
Game (TM) and the successful attitudes of an Alpha Man, you should
take a look at the program that will put you on the path - Alpha
Immersion.
This is the ORIGINAL Alpha
Man program that gives you the REAL Game with
women.
If you want to hear what everyone has to say about
these books, go to the site and read the reviews.
And then download them now to see why more men get success with my
advice and strategies ...
"Carlos -
"In the short time that I've been tuned in to your advice in
its many forms (newsletters, podcast, blogs, etc.) I've seen real
(or is that R.E.A.L.?!) tangible results in my life that go above
and beyond success with women.
"When I saw that you were offering the Alpha
Immersion DVD set, you had me at "Hey, check out my new program...".
"Wow. I have to say it's by far the most comprehensive set of
tools - hell, attitudes - I've ever come across in my foray
into the "data advice/guru" quagmire. And it is a
quagmire - there's so much out there, and so much of it lacking. I liken
a majority of it to the quick fixes peddled by snake oil salesmen in
the old west.
"Building a lifestyle and a mindset based in the Alpha principle
has turned out to be life-altering. Attracting women is but a mere -
albeit welcome - side effect.
"While into the program, I can't tell you how many times I found
myself going, "Ahhhhh...." as in "Eureka" even when
you would relate the smallest detail (everything from, "so THAT's
what I've been doing wrong," to "oh, THAT's what women think.") I've
made it through the
4-DVDs once so far, and I'm already looking, feeling, and acting
better... being a better MAN...
"The biggest thing I've gotten out of the
Alpha Immersion program - thus far - is the philosophy of "Just
act...now". There is no substitution for ACTION. And it's incredibly
effective when coupled with the skills and knowledge - both the basic
and the advanced - that you relate. One can watch and read all he wants,
but it's useless without action. Your inspiration and tips on HOW to
just act have made it worthwhile.
"In closing - thanks. I have to say, also, that my purchase process
was quick and easy, and my materials were delivered promptly. A pleasant
suprise. I've done my best to keep this brief, and just can't seem to!
I could go on and on...
"All the best,
J.D.
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