How Do You Ask Out An Old
Friend?
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Carlos Gives You the Truth About Dating and Attraction...
Every man is
self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
QUESTION: How
do you ask a woman out that you haven't seen in a while?
I was living in a dormitory a couple of years
ago, where I knew this girl, I was really interested in. She had a boyfriend
back then. I have found out that she is single now living in her own apartment
like me. How should I go about this? Is it wrong to write her an SMS?
How exactly am I going to convince her to go out with me, when I can't achieve
face to face contact first?
J.E.
CARLOS ANSWERS:
I would tell you to definitely get in contact with her.
But don't call her with your agenda all set like
that. You're already thinking about "convincing" her to go out
with you.
(Insert Carlos shaking his head here...)
Remember, your posture going in determines your outcome. If you are in it
for your own gain (your agenda - to get her to go out with you), she'll sniff
you out.
Let me give you a universal translation here.
Selfish, agenda-seeking behavior is something
a woman translates to mean:
"He
will only be looking out for #1 - himself. He won't see to any of my needs.
I won't be satisfied with him."
So, back to your question, how do you go in with
the "goal" of
getting a date?
An SMS is a WEAK way to communicate with someone until you've already established
some connection, attraction, and rapport.
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Instead, CALL HER. Obviously if you're considering SMSing her, you must have
her number.
Call her up and be fun, witty, charming, and get her attracted to you. (Hint:
Use the strategies I outline in my Approach
Women NOW program to get her started.)
Once you've got her interest, end the conversation with one of my effective
closes for a quick coffee or tea somewhere. Do it soon and do it convenient
to HER.
Even if it's under the pretense of getting in touch just to catch up, that's
better than nothing.
Personally, I'd be a little hesitant first.
Remember something very important here: SHE might have changed quite a bit.
She could be a totally different person. 50 pounds heavier.
Crazier.
Louder.
You just don't know. You need to screen her for suitability FIRST.
This is a far different posture than "Golly,
I gotta get her to like me so she'll see me!"
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comes to attracting women and getting more dates, check out my Approach
Women Program. You'll be damn glad you did.
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ALPHA MAN COMMENT:
Carlos,
I would like
to personaly thank you for creating this book and being an expert on "Alpha Men".
I am currently reading you ebook, "Secrets
of the Alpha Man", and I am loving all of it. I have read some other
ebooks in the past that actually have a lot useful information in them, such
as David Deangelo's books and the latest book by Simon Heong (which is how
I found yours).
But those books only taught great techniques and things to do when picking
up a women. However, yours gives a complete guide to the alpha
male attitude.
I now have a basis that I can start form, and can combine the information
I've gotten from the books. I can already tell a difference in how women perceive
me just by the way I act, walk, and talk now.
Just the other day, after I started walkin
and talking confident, I was sitting in class and just asked a pretty attractive
girl who had never spoke to me before what chapter of the book we were on.
She told me and then I kept noticing glancing over at me periodically throughout
the remainder of the class. Then two days later, her and one of her friends
came over to my dorm room uninvited. They just said they were bored lol!!!
But man I can't thank you enough for what I'm learning, and I'm not even
halfway through the book yet.
Thanks,
T in VA
QUESTION: The
Name is Xuma. Carlos Xuma...
I am a 28-year old Nigerian chap in dire need of your profound insights on
the dating scene to enable me break out of the rut of my dateless existence.
I work in one of my country's biggest banks located in a university town
and my job affords me the opportunity to meet on a daily basis hot female
students from the university close-by. However, I almost always never get
to make anything out these encounters as I am always afraid of blowing it
once I open my mouth. So I just act cool and laid-back and go home to rue
missed chances.
However there is this one girl that I feel I have a connection with that
I need your help on how to proceed with. She's a student of chemical engineering
in the university, and I first noticed her like over a year ago in the banking
hall. Initially, as usual, I played it cool and pretended I wasn't interested.
Later on, I summoned courage to show some casual interest. First, I surprised
her on one of her visits to the bank by wishing her a happy birthday. She
was shocked I knew of her date of birth and asked how I came about it. I first
said I got it via magic, but later said it from her biodata in her file in
our records. That single incident significantly advanced our 'association.'
However, I have not really been able to capitalize on it as I haven't yet
been able to ask her out.
Sir, I am fed up of living in this rut and the misery it causes me. What
has really broken the camels' back is the fact that another guy in my office
who is noted for his 'women skills' seems to be aiming for her too. In your
professional opinion how do you recommend I handle this situation?
Sir, I am prepared to pay any price for your opinion. Please help sir. Please.
Yours sincerely,
J. O.
CARLOS ANSWERS:
First of all, great use of the English language, but please
don't call me sir. My dad didn't even make me call him "sir." I'm
just your friendly neighborhood dating advice guy, changing the world one
Alpha Man at a time. Thankyouverymuchhhh.
Secondly, stop begging! Your email
sounds like a wussy cry of help from the wussy headquarters where all the
Super-Wusses hang out.
In Wuss-ville.
On the ... uh... planet Wuss.
You get the point.
Third, there's some really good news in your email:
You've reached rock bottom.
What?? Rock bottom is GOOD?
Most people think this place
sucks, and they're both right AND wrong.
You see, most significant change in your life will come from when you've
reached the point of total disgust - when you bottom out. Because now you
have something to push off from - the bottom. It doesn't get any worse, so
it can only get better.
This is the point of ultimate enlightenment
and decision. If you make the
right choice (to change your behaviors, to work for what you really want)
you'll get it.
But if you make the wrong decision, to cave in and admit defeat, you'll drown
in a pool of your own self-pity.
I recommend you get off your ass and start taking ACTION in your life. Right
NOW.
You took the initiative and learned some information about her (which might
have been creepy, but you made it work) and then you took it to the next level
of going to see her.
As Tony the Tiger would say, Grrrrrreat!
Now what?
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It's time to get up the stones to contact her on a more
personal level and get together with her outside of work. You need to ESCALATE.
That's one of the key Alpha Man skills that many men never really get.
But you also need to get out and MEET MORE WOMEN.
Don't put all your hopes on this one woman, because if it doesn't work out,
you're going to lose a lot more emotional money on this one stock. Instead,
spread your investments out a bit. This is called "hedging" and
it works for dating as well as money.
Lastly, my professional opinion is that you ABSOLUTELY need
my Secrets of the
Alpha Man program. If you want to "pay any price," why not the
price of education and self-improvement?
It's going to be a lot better than crying into your pillow
or whining about being unable to get a date, or wanting to do something but
not knowing WHAT to do.
There's an old saying: Everybody wants to get into heaven,
but nobody wants to die.
When you read the e-book and listen to the program, you'll
KNOW what to do next.
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
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"Carlos, my man!
I can't thank you enough for the valuable information you have shared
with me and how open my eyes have become to the tests and challenges
that women have put on me all my life.
"I would have to
say that your Alpha
Man Program is one of the
best solutions to getting this part of your life in order, as well
as, getting you where you want to be mentally to attract more of the
caliber women we all want in our lives. I hope we have a lasting relationship
in the form of mental growth for many years to come and thanks again
buddy..."
- Javier
"Hey carlos, thank
you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course.
I think I must've listened to the cd's four or five times now !
"The
confidence I've gained in meeting da ladeez at work and socially has
been tremendous. I was never skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned
as how I would notice the changes in myself. The clincher was when
several of my closest friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence
in so many ways!
"Thank you so much
for your hard work for making it easier for the rest of us !"
- Richie from UK
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great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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