What do you do when the dating
advice seems confusing?
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QUESTION: What
do you do when dating advice seems contradictory?
I've bought Simon's IAP
and Instant Dating Success (my first seduction materials),
but there's one problem I have for a long time. Every 'guru' has it's own
opinion, and it all makes sense, but different tips contradict with each
other. I already have my preferences, but it stops me from listening to
other authors.
Should I use all of the advice? How do I choose wisely?
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Great question!
Sometimes you'll see certain tips that seem in contradiction to other things
we may have said. In fact, you might even see times when it seems like we're
contradicting OURSELVES.
Rest easy, my friend. It doesn't mean that we're all full of crap.
It just means that this area is not all "Black & White" as
some people would like you to believe.
I personally suggest certain strategies and tactics as a way of getting understanding
of the principles, the way you learn scales in playing guitar. But after you
learn those scales and patterns, you can then learn how to break the rules
to make MUSIC.
You see, life is filled with apparent contradictions, and the skill of attracting
women is no different.
The key is to use your own CRITICAL
THINKING to determine the best solution
in any given situation.
Use your head, and try everything. But don't just throw something out because
it didn't work. Figure out WHY and you'll know what to do next time.
I show guys REAL Game. Which means that
I show them how to build attraction with their own authentic personalities,
not trying to be a fake pickup artist with a bunch of scripts.
Learning how to do that is the ultimate evolution for the Alpha
Man that
wants to learn how to attract women anywhere, anytime.
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Men stumble over pebbles, never over mountains
- Emilie Cady
QUESTION: Long
distance? Or just scarcity?
Your advice seems the best out there. After buying David D's and
Mystery, I found you focus the best on inner game. You deal best with real
situations...
... My question is over long-distance relationships. You
said they don't work. Why?
I have been talking to a girl over long distance for over
4 months. For the longest time I thought it wouldn't last, but it has. We
had only spent 2 days prior to that together. She has told me I love you,
which I later reciprocated. I do need to work on spicing it up with cocky
returns which your last email mentioned. I like this girl, but know I must
not let it get to my head. Recently I have been boring and too nice. So I
will fix that.
My other question is how does one respond to this
over the phone or aim, "what
else will I get from you other than a massage when we see each other?"
It
seems cocky funny is a good response, but it can't be used all the time. I
think. How do I and should I give hints of what I'd do? Hopefully I will see
this in a future newsletter.
Peace,
Reb
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Well, LDRs (Long Distance Relationships) can work,
but it all depends on how you define "work."
Look, there are some realities you cannot overlook:
1) If you are not seeing a person regularly, both quantity and quality, you
are not getting the REAL picture of what she's like. Isolated get-togethers
are not a good way to get to know someone - if you're looking for something
longer-term. But if you're only looking for the short term, that could suit
you just fine.
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2) Being far away from someone SIMULATES excitement and desire to your nervous
system, just because you cannot just go over and watch a movie with her, or
get together whenever you want.
Take it from a guy who's been there - unless you already have a bunch of
girls in your vicinity that you can date, you have no business going after
ones that are further away.
But if it's working for you, then keep going. Just recognize
that the odds are against you. The thrill and desire you feel is because of
what you CAN'T have, not what you can. What does that say about the quality
of the relationship?
It's just scarcity thinking of the worst kind.
As for your second question, just have her tell you what SHE would want.
Don't answer unless she satisfies your needs:
"What's in it for me, honey? Here, I'll give
you a challenge. Write me an essay on 'what I want you to do with me after
you're done with the massage.' I'm not saying it will come true, but I'll
definitely consider it... :)"
Get creative... but don't get obsessed.
ALPHA MAN OBSERVATION: This
is what an Alpha Man understands - your girlfriend is illogical, but predictable
COMMENTS FROM A READER:
Over the last year, my current girlfriend has "triggered" many of
the negative emotions I use to feel going back ten-fifteen years.
This is interesting, because these emotions I would feel would trigger the
beta male within me. You know who I am referring to, that part of ourselves
we just hate to admit wants love and approval from women.
Well, yesterday, my girlfriend was just being her
natural sweet self but her behavior triggerred that awful feeling in the
pit of my stomach where I "felt" I had to stop what I was doing
just to cater to her needs, I even sensed from her that she was getting
slightly pissed off.
In a flash, I realised the emotion and saw it as
a demon from my past, I decided to slow down and take my time to finish
what I was doing. In fact, I deliberately took even longer. I noticed she
went into a "stroppy" mood
which I found interesting. I decided not to enter her world but to leave her
alone. No talking, just carried on what I was doing, putting my needs first.
Within twenty minutes she came over to me started
the "I love you" routine.
Knock yourself out on that one.
I thought about it afterwards and I have come to the realization that women
are the most illogical species on the planet and my communication with them
will be based on that illogicality as will my behavior.
For me this was and is a significant breakthrough in terms of healing the
negative associations from my past. Your material has helped me to see a totally
different frame of behavior, totally awesome.
I hope this helps some of the guys out there who can relate to this in some
way.
Slow down guys, keep your composure and put the smile on your face first.
M
London
CARLOS ANSWERS:
A-HA!
He has a moment... an epiphany ... and now he is forever changed.
My thoughts are that I've gone through this EXACT same situation before, and when you realize that handling her "illogical" behavior with
an understanding of how this "illogic" works, you come to a new
place in your game.
This is where having an Alpha Lifestyle will boost your self-esteem through
the roof once you realize that CHASING WOMEN is actually hurting your posture.
It's crazy, but when you get to this point, where you just intuitively understand
that a woman's disapproval will NOT affect you in any way, that is when you
start to have women turn their own attitudes around and become more loving
and approachable.
She will be able to open up more with you because she can trust you more
to be the Alpha Man.
I cover this completely in the Secrets
of the Alpha Man program which you can review HERE.
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
If you could learn secrets to attract women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
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I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
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"Carlos, my man! I can't thank you enough for the valuable information
you have shared with me and how open my eyes have become to the tests
and challenges that women have put on me all my life.
"I would have to say that your Alpha
Man Program is one of the
best solutions to getting this part of your life in order, as well
as, getting you where you want to be mentally to attract more of the
caliber women we all want in our lives. I hope we have a lasting relationship
in the form of mental growth for many years to come and thanks again
buddy..."
- Javier
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course.
I think I must've listened to the cd's four or five times now !
"The
confidence I've gained in meeting da ladeez at work and socially has
been tremendous. I was never skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned
as how I would notice the changes in myself. The clincher was when
several of my closest friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence
in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for making it
easier for the rest of us !"
- Richie from UK
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waiting to see where life takes them next."
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