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QUESTION:
Hi Carlos,
Your newsletter is very informative, but I'd like to run a problem by you.
The advice given of not doing dinner on a 1st date is regularly given, but
I get a problem with this when I suggest a drink or coffee meetup with a girl.
Simply put, from several women I get strong Indicators of Interest; both
strong and repeated [indications of interest] over say four/five short conversations
each lasting perhaps 5 minutes.
When I suggest a drink they look insulted or outraged and stalk off or go
into a huff.
I am 40 years old, the women are between 20 and 22. Also I do have good looks.
Is this combination of age difference and looks going to cause this? Is this
combination going to force me to offer dinner or is there something I am missing?
Regrds
J
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Honestly, I think they're looking at you as a meal ticket, Big Daddy. You're
picking the cheap, superficial gold diggers that want you only for the free
dinners.
You're not really missing out on anything, if you get what I mean.
A woman that will only want to be with you because
you're feeding her is what I call a "meal whore." You can do far
better, J.
And it's not your suggestion, it's the context you're putting it in.
I find it hard to believe that they all give
you this response. If any woman gave me that kind of reaction, I'd cut her
down to size with some humorous teasing about her looking for free food.
Guys
often get tested like this (yes, it's probably a test to see if you're a suck-up
that will give everything for once-a-month sex.)
Keep looking.
And you should seriously consider going for chicks that
are a few years older and don't still listen to Britney Spears. You'll be
amazed at the difference in maturity and satisfaction you'll get from the
upgrade.
(continued ... )
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QUESTION:
What's up Carlos,
I ride the local city bus quite often during the week. One of the bus routes
that I take is roughly a 25 min. ride. (Depending on the driver.) I'm not
in a rut by no means. But if I see a woman that I want to talk to, I can't
engage and disengage like you say that we can do.
Because I'm stuck in a seat for 25 min whether I'm close or far away from
her. (Not all the time, but typically all the seats are occupied.) But this
is what I thought up of. If there is a vacant seat next to, or behind her,
I could do it at the end of the ride last 5 to 7 min or so. Then I can engage
and disengage. But here's the problem. If all the seats are occupied, then
I could get off at the same stop as her. But that's hardly, and never guaranteed,
(Because I have my own stop to get off at.) It's possible, more likely even,
that I could get off before or after her.
Like I said, I'm in no rut, I'm not going to sweat it. Neither am I creating
excuses for myself. As you see above. (Now if you see any excuses, tell me
please Carlos!
) If I don't get to talk to her, then oh well, next! But my question is giving
what I told about this little, ah how do I say. A very well appreciated puzzle.
What would you think up of Carlos?
Oh and by the way this buzz before approaching women is more tolerant, actually
by me invited, to the point I wouldn't think of it as crazy to approach. =Fun!
One way I made myself get tolerant is to say, hello, good morning, good afternoon
etc. That, a few things, and then everything else you of course.
Isn't that great. Thanks a lot my friend.
CARLOS ANSWERS:
That is a great observation, and I'm not sure you realize how important this
is.
The very process of approaching women should give you a slight buzz. It's
a natural high of energy that can't be beat. You don't need drugs or alcohol
to get an altered state of mind.
What do most guys do with this energy?
They suppress it or shame it away. Which is only done out of FEAR.
Which is a shame in itself because the energy you get from this experience
is a real juice.
Just last night I was sparring with some of the students in my martial arts
school. They were all well below me in terms of rank, but I wanted to give
them a little experience in what they might experience on the street. (As
if they're going to be attacked by a black belt anytime soon, right.)
When I got done, I was tingling with the energy
of INTERACTION. It was a blast! And even one of the students came up to
me and said, "It's a bargain
to PAY for this kind of experience."
I agreed.
The other point here is that you're doing the right
thing by warming yourself and getting "tolerant" as you said.
Getting into the groove by just saying hello to people is a good way to
dissociate yourself from all those worries about other people's opinion
of you. You start to realize that YOU are in CONTROL of the world.
Most people are far too scared to put themselves out on the line like this.
And the sad fact is that you're risking NOTHING.
You have NOTHING to lose, but we're all so afraid of being rejected, we hide
in our little cocoons.
As for your bus riding dilemma, I used to encounter this myself. It's a unique
situation if you're on the bus with somebody for that period of time.
(continued ... )
I would start by positioning yourself in a way that you can encounter them
either getting on or off. Then you can say hello and gauge their reaction
to you a little and decide if you want to go further with it.
I do not recommend going uncomfortably out of your way (i.e., getting off
at their stop) just to meet her. Too contrived.
Instead, why not make it a point to stand, even if there are seats, or offer
your seat to her. This will position you to talk to her and give you a reason
to talk to her.
Be brave. There isn't always a clever way of talking to her, and that's what
most women appreciate anyway.
Directness. It's flattering, and confident.
To be direct and confident, you need to be an Alpha Man.
If you want to check out for yourself whether or not you're
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If you won't change now, what makes you think it will
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It's easy to find an excuse, but it's more Alpha to find the motivation.
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"In closing - thanks. I have to say, also, that my purchase process
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I could go on and on...
"All the best,
J.D.
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