NEWSLETTER:
Stop Letting Your Friends F**k With You...!
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
QUESTION: How
do you re-connect with a woman to get a "date" ...?
I have been reading your emails for about a month
now and I feel I've really learned a lot so far. The one thing is I've been
having a hellofa time meeting new people and everyday I just see the same
ol‚ people.
Yesterday morning I was driving along to school as usual and I guess I hadn't
really become awake yet because I bumped the car in front of me. Luckily there
was no damage, but the driver of the car steps out and I almost passed out
when I saw her. She was a bombshell and she gave me her name and telephone
number and I gave her mine as well.
I was thinking of calling her and I looked her up on Facebook and it said
she's single and goes to a different college. Later however my dumb ass friend
added her as a friend and said I'm friends with the kid who hit you. Do you
think I still have a chance with this girl?
I was wondering what you think is the best way to approach her or contact
her for a date. Thanks so much I'd really appreciate any help you can give
me.
- Steve
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Wow. I've been getting a TON of letters
lately from guys with problems with their friends messing with their game.
Seriously, guys, if you've got a friend that's pulling this crap, your Alpha
Manhood requires you to pull him aside and FIX THIS
NOW.
A dominant, confident man does not let his friends pull this crap.
Remember what I say: You teach people how to treat you.
Your behavior tells them what they can and cannot get away with. I do not
tolerate this sort of thing from any of my friends, and neither should you.
Step 1: Call out your friend on this and let him know this is unacceptable.
Then clear the air and get a beer together. (Watch how Tony Soprano handles
these kinds of touchy situations. He's harsh, but effective.)
Step 2: Whatever you do - DO NOT let this girl know you did all this research
on her. It's not romantic - it's actually a bit creepy.
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Step 3: Contact her however you have to (probably
email through Facebook) and joke with her about her "backing up" into
your car. Make sure she's not too miffed about being banged from behind.
Uh, you know what I mean.
Step 4: On the next email, you tell her to give
you her phone number. TELL HER. Don't keep up what I call "E.C.C." (That's
Electronic Chickenshit Communication.) Just get her number.
Step 5: Call her the next day. Take her bowling. Take her someplace fun.
Just get her out.
And I do want you to get rid of this concept of "dating"
women. You put yourself in a one-down, supplicating position by adopting this
frame of thinking. You are a man who takes women out to have fun and screen
them for possibly including them in his cool lifestyle.
"Date" means you're trying to get into her pants.
Big difference.
Step 6: Ignore your stupid-ass friend. Act on your own initiative.
Hopefully I've caught you in time before you get yourself locked into a spiral
of doom where you cease to make any decisions because of a fear of doing the
wrong thing.
Doing SOMEthing is always better than NOthing when it comes to initiating
the relationship.
And if you need the full training on how to approach
women anywhere, anytime, you should get this information right away:
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QUESTION: What
is the missing element from your game...?
Am an avid reader of your newsletter but not bought any products. (yet) The
biggest thing I have learnt from you is about developing inner game/alpha
man. I seriously started looking at this a year ago, in fact I made it a new
year resolution. This time last year women looked at me as a bit of a joke.
I now work out, visit a boxing gym and have upgraded my wardrobe and generally
started acting a lot less 'nice'. Strange thing is this particular girl has
started looking at me differently since then (along with a lot of other women.)
She asked me to go out with her a couple of times but then always backs down
and always has an excuse when I suggest we go and do something.
She has an on/off relationship with some wussy guy outside work who she complains
to me about but I get the feeling she doesn't really want this guy. (Over
the last two years they have never even had more than a 5 minute conversation)
Carlos I feel that I am 90% there but just missing that additional something?
HELP!!!
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Funny, isn't it, how women always complain to you about
that guy on the side, but ...
... she's still seeing him.
... she's still having sex with him.
And the bottom line, my friend, is that you are NOT.
Remember, you're hearing about this "wussy" other
guy second-hand. In court they would yell "Objection, your honor! Hearsay!" Meaning
that you're getting someone else's interpretation and speculation that could
be total horseshit.
There IS a reason she's with him. And it's probably not one she's telling
you about.
Right now, you're on the right path. You're making some improvements to your
visible lifestyle, and that does matter (though not as much as some internal ones I'm going to tell you about.)
You are noticing that women do NOT like guys who
act "nice." Not
because they want to be mistreated, but because they want a man that they
don't suspect is being nice just to get what he wants. (Most "nice guys" are
anything but that, and women know this instinctively.)
There are a lot of women out there that pull this "hot/cold" thing
with guys because of a variety of reasons. Here are a few of them:
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1) She's got low self-esteem and some personality issues.
Very common!
She has some damaged beliefs about herself, and when it comes to actually
getting what it is in life she wants, she self-sabotages and avoids that fulfillment.
Yes, it's twisted.
Yes, it's sick.
NO, you do not want to pursue her if you suspect this may be the case. (I
sure wonder about her.)
2) She's unhappy that SHE has to be the one to ask YOU out.
Hey, the woman I'm seeing right now gave me HER number. It was a business
situation where I couldn't be the pursuer, but she was gutsy enough to come
get ME.
But at the start, she asked me no fewer than 4 times: "If
I hadn't given you my number, would you have asked me for mine?"
Yeah, talk about a minefield on that one.
YOU are supposed to take the initiative. Not her.
Make it happen if you want
it to happen.
3) She's unsure about you and suspects that you're still a wuss.
Hey, she saw your transformation, so she's got every right
to wonder if you're still the wuss you were before you became more of an Alpha
Man.
She's dipping her toe in, not so sure she wants to go for a swim.
You asked me if there was something additional that
you're missing. Well, I hate to say it, but that missing "something" is
that you haven't gotten one of my programs yet.
Look, the reality is that True success with women requires a firm
sense of self-confidence.
Now, you'll hear that bit of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of improving that confidence.
That's where Carlos Xuma enters the game for you. (That's
me, by the way...)
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying my own inner
psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things make a difference
and will genuinely help you improve your inner game
with women.
When a woman detects that you've got passions and direction in your life
- even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
You don't have to go to one of my bootcamps.
You can simply get my home-study
course of the same Alpha
Immersion program I use to train my students (and instructors) in the
field.
It's my
latest DVD program, and I just got some new stock of them in the warehouse
this week.
Again, the reality is that if you're only reading the
newsletters or listening to my podcast, you need more. It's like meeting up
with a group of people who just attended a seminar. You can sort
of understand
what they're discussing - BUT you don't have the same foundation they have
from attending.
Attraction is NOT logical, my friend. So you need to learn
a whole new system of thinking.
Take a look at the Alpha
Man Immersion Program HERE.
There's an old saying: Everybody wants to get into heaven,
but nobody wants to die.
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
If you'd like to create your plan for making your life what you want, develop
confidence, attract women, accumulate wealth, find happiness...
Click here to read about the Alpha
Man Immersion program.
I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
time...
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Take a look at the original program that will put you on the path - Alpha
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This is the ORIGINAL Alpha
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women.
Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
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reviews.
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"Carlos, my man!
I can't thank you enough for the valuable information you have shared
with me and how open my eyes have become to the tests and challenges
that women have put on me all my life.
"I would have to
say that your Alpha
Man Program is one of the
best solutions to getting this part of your life in order, as well
as, getting you where you want to be mentally to attract more of the
caliber women we all want in our lives. I hope we have a lasting relationship
in the form of mental growth for many years to come and thanks again
buddy..."
- Javier
"Hey carlos, thank
you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course.
I think I must've listened to the cd's four or five times now !
"The
confidence I've gained in meeting da ladeez at work and socially has
been tremendous. I was never skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned
as how I would notice the changes in myself. The clincher was when
several of my closest friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence
in so many ways!
"Thank you so much
for your hard work for making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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Teddy
Shabba of Dating Advice Coach Reviews The
Dating Black Book:
"Too many books dealing with
meeting and dating women focus on techniques instead of the basic fundamentals
of what actually attracts women to men.
In fact this is the main reason why so many nice
guys have problems actually getting any further than the first few dates
with women and that's if they find the courage to actually use the techniques
on women.
However, Carlos Xuma in his book The
Dating Black Book shows men the basic fundamentals of attracting
and being successful with women.
The
Dating Black Book starts off explaining the importance of actually
improving yourself and building self confidence to attract women.
If you are looking for a sugar coated version of
what it is going to take then this is Not the book for you.
After covering the different aspects of your inner
game as well as how to build your self confidence, Carlos moves on to
actually show you how to find a girlfriend or women for a long-term
relationship.
Many times men have a tendency to get comfortable
with a woman quite early and end up in a relationship they do not want
and do not know how to get out of.
The
Dating Black Book helps you understand what to look for in a good
woman and what to watch out for in a Not so good woman.
To finish off the book, Carlos quickly covers the
basics on sex as well as some additional resources for men to read that
will help improve a man's life in general.
Overall, if you have ever read anything that Carlos
Xuma has written on dating and women then you already know that he has
a lot of very useful information and knowledge to give men, and The
Dating Black Book will help you get even more of that information
and knowledge.
I would highly recommend this book to the majority
if not all Nice Guys or Recovering Nice Guys out there who are struggling
with some of the concepts and techniques that other guys teach.
If you want to just be yourself and attract women
then The
Dating Black Book by Carlos Xuma is for you..."
- Teddy Shabba - Dating Advice
Coach.com
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actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
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