Being a "try hard" with women - handling a woman's testing

Carlos,

Your advice has been right on in the past. I am feeling a little pressure at the moment because my girlfriend is displaying some control tactics.
I know that if I just call her on her behaviors that this would slow down because I am aware that she is reaching out for boundaries and testing to see if I am an Alpha. Last night I feel that she got away with TOO MUCH. I won't be seeing her for a couple of days and I didn't want this to slide too long. My thoughts are to send the following letter pieced together from some of your newsletters. Any advice?


Jenny,

I almost called last night to chat about your chronic
control freak thing and that you really are skating on
thin ice with that one. Well, maybe a young thing or a rich
older woman would hit the spot. Anyways, I think the PRINCESS ;)
thinks that I am full of it. Maybe she IS testing me...

   "OK, why don't we hook up in Vegas and get
married, this way we'll know each other well
enough for you to want to stop playing control games and relax.

   Or, we could just keep enjoying ourselves with  
enthralling pleasures as you realize that dating doesn't
have to be about power plays - but instead just having fun.

   I personally like the Vegas idea..."


- S

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CARLOS:

This is too much.... It sounds like you’re taking her too seriously.

Sometimes the best thing you can do is to ignore her completely. When she plays her tactics, sometimes the best thing is to NOT try and put her in her place.

The key to this situation and handling it effectively is to NOT deal with it AFTER the fact. If she got away with too much before, you’re now in the danger zone. The reason you’re in this situation is because you didn’t nip this in the bud.

Instead of stomping your feet, just ignore her next call or two. Let her know that you’re still the prize, and she needs to work to keep you.

And consider that if she’s a control freak, or needs to test you too much, you’re in a high maintenance relationship.

Not good.

Consider the cost while you’re at it...

But if you MUST set things straight, do it in person. Don't send an email. This will set off her "chickenshit" radar. It will come across as weak and incongruous.

A REAL Alpha would just sit her down and set things straight. No anger. No ranting. Just a clear statement that this is unacceptable behavior.
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