When She Giggles...

This question actually happened to me a while back when I was on vacation at the beach. I was at the hotel swimming pool, & a group of 3 somewhat cute gals that I didn't know were sitting in chairs on the other side of the pool from where I was. We were the only people at the pool at the time. When I took off my shirt & got in the pool, they kinda giggled & smiled a little bit to each other. I'm almost certain the giggling was because of me, because of course 3 gals are gonna look at a guy when he undresses like that & I was the only guy there. I lift weights, run, & do martial arts, so I'm somewhat on the buff & fit side, but on the slim side as well (5'10, 170).

It wasn't like they broke out in full belly laughs or anything, I just noticed they giggled a little bit. Not sure how to interpret it. Don't really care all that much, but I'm asking because another situation came up yesterday that reminded me of this. This kinda fat guy was in my store bending down looking at tools, & 2 cute gals were standing with me as I was cashing their checks. The guy's jeans fell down revealing about 8 inches of his ass crack, & the girls busted out laughing. The guy turned around & saw them & pulled his pants back up. This whole thing got me thinking about how girls react when they like a dude's body vs. how they react when they don't like it.

If a group of gals you don't know is hanging out at the same pool you are, & they giggle when you skin down & get in the pool, is that a good thing or a bad thing? I know that in my guy thinking it would be a bad thing, but in a lot of things chicks are just the opposite of what a guy would think.

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CARLOS:

Ah, yes... when girls laugh. It sounds like a Fox TV special... "Tonight, right after When Alligators Attack, we'll take a look at the most bruising ego event: When Girls Laugh."

I wish I could say that was all joking, but it's not. I can think of nothing more bruising to the male ego than female ridicule.

This all started back in high school when a girl might giggle or laugh, and we guys were mostly too insecure and anxious to walk up and say, "So, ladies, what's got you laughing?"

As with everything I preach, I want you to realize that it all comes down to how willing (and secure) you are to call things as you see them. To confront situations WHEN THEY HAPPEN.

You see, most guys will watch something like that, not know what to say, and fail to act. And they'll keep on doing this until they figure out a solution to the dilemma.

WWCD?

What Would Carlos Do?

I'm glad you asked...

I'd first realize that no matter WHAT the hell they were giggling about, it couldn't affect me negatively in any way that mattered.

Then, I'd be curious.

You see, the insecure guy would think, right off the bat, "Oh, no! I must look strange/silly/weird/whatever..." and immediately lose confidence. He has no core to his inner game, and so he will fail immediately.

The Alpha Man would walk over and say, "Hey, ladies. I just wanted to see what was happening over here. Did you hear a good joke? Share!"

All with a very relaxed, non-offended manner.

What I'm trying to get you guys away from is interpreting things.

That's for those guys with weak frames.

Alpha Men don't care what someone else thinks it might mean, or even what they're thinking. He comes from his own reality, where he makes a situation mean whatever the hell he wants it to.

If you come from a strong enough frame, even if they were laughing AT you, you could turn it around with your confidence and poise. You'd be able to assert yourself over their weak little giggly school girl frame in about a minute.

Instead of me trying to convince you or over-explain this, why not sit back for a moment and close your eyes... imagine yourself there in that situation, and what would you do about it?

How would you feel?

What would it matter if they were laughing at you?

Could you hold your ground?

Would you run away and cry?

Would you be able to smile, walk over, and expand your frame over them?

WWYD?

What Would You Do?

If you want to know more about these frame skills, take a look at the Secrets of the Alpha Man.

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