Ten Times Zero is Still Zero

THE JEALOUS GIRL:

How can I tell how serious things are? I think she's at least interested but how can I tell how interested she is. She always gives me the 3rd degree about every woman I mention, especially a female friend of mine who she references always.

When I ask her what her problem is with me and other women she'll say she doesn't care and that she's just joking but others times she's dead serious and once said "sorry if I care about you talking to other girls",

Do you think me knowing these other girls really bothers her or is she just joking? Like I mentioned before she calls me every day and keeps me on the line sometimes for over an hour and on V-day she even called me from a friend's house after they had class just to say hi and got mad when I didn't wish her a happy v-day (which is one of the most corny days of the year in my opinion) but lately it's been difficult to set up a date with her because we've both been so busy.

Basically what I'm wondering is A) Based on the information I provided how interested do you believe she is and B) How should I handle her jealousy?


MR
Canada

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CARLOS:

Her jealousy is not your problem unless it’s a constant insecurity. And if she acts like this a lot, she’s got self-esteem issues that will be an issue for you later on.

You can tell how interested she is by how many times you get together with her and have a fun time. If that’s still zero because of her ‘schedule’ then you have nothing.

Act, don’t sit back and try to interpret everything.

Jealousy doesn't mean shit if you're not actually having something happen between you two. It's her little imaginary drama camp in her head where she gets to validate her own shortcomings.

Jealousy is a common reaction of the insecure. And we're all insecure about something.

The question is how much?

Offspring said it best: "Yeah she's got issues, and I'm gonna pay..."

You only address this ONCE with her, and you say: "You know, I choose to spend my time with you. I've got no feelings beyond friendship with these other women, and you know it. So let's get past this B.S. and talk about what's really bothering you."

Let her know in no uncertain terms that this constant feeling of jealousy is unacceptable, and she needs to find a resolution.

Remember, some people just want to wallow around in their own negative feelings because it either validates their low self-esteem, or it's the only entertainment they have.

And when it's time to find a woman with better issue-management skills, here's the manual on how to do it:

The Dating Black Book

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