ENGAGE HER SEXUAL INTEREST FIRST:

Carlos first of all thanks for helping men out, your newsletters are great and you are doing a heck of a job.

Carlos i need your advice here. I have been talking to this girl over the instant messenger, got her phone # and I have been talking to her for a few months now. I have talked to this girl about almost every topic imaginable and I feel that we get along really well. She said that she likes it when we communicate and talk about different topics. I also heard that if you engage her mind and not focus putting moves on her that I can get almost any girl.

Last night over the phone I told her a dirty joke, I thought that it would make her laugh. I think she took offensive and it seems to me that she thought that I only care about sex and nothing else. That is complete bullshit i thought since I have spent all this time engaging her mind and finding out everything about her. She told me she isnt looking for a relationship or casual dating. My gut feeling is that she isnt only focused on getting sex but i might be wrong. How do i find that out?

If a girl says that to a guy does that mean friends forever? should i tell her that i want to become her friend and that i am not looking for a gf right now? IF we become friends can we still end up as a couple?

I heard a lot of women complain that guys only care about sex, so does that really mean that they would prefer men to become friends with them first and then show sexual interest? or not show it until she does?

Carlos, I would like to take this girl out this weekend but im at a loss for words, how can i fix the situation? I appreciate your help once again.
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CARLOS:

Uhhhhh.... sorry, man.

That thing about turning her on through her mind is only applicable if you're also generating some sexual tension along with it. Women aren't turned on by your knowledge of fine cheeses and art.

They're turned on by thinking that you could eat that cheese off her firm buttocks while painting her in the nude...

Big difference. There has to be a sexual charge to the conversation.

And that interpretation you made from what she said about guys only wanting sex is one of the biggest destroyers of Men's sex lives. Absolutely.

That woman wants sex more than YOU do. I can almost guarantee that (unless she's damaged goods.)

When a woman says stuff like men only want sex, it's a kneejerk statement that has nothing to do with her inner reality. Most guys hear this and make the catastrophic mistake of believing women. I made the same mistake.

It really means that she's frustrated with guys who are typical, not that they want sex.

This is something I clear up completely in my Secrets of the Alpha Man program.

I'm really concerned about the questions here, because they are missing some CRITICAL points that must be understood to go any further with her. As it stands, things aren't going very well for you based on the things you've told me.

The big problem I'm seeing is that you're relying on the newsletters to give you the understanding of the correct mindset, and that's not going to be enough for you, dude.

You really need my Alpha Man program.

Stop standing on the sidelines, afraid to take a risk. Put some skin in the game.

I'll show you how this game is played.

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