SEDUCTION - DATING ADVICE QUESTION:
Hey Carlos,
I just want to comment on the article you wrote "LOSING YOUR RELIGION", I can really relate to that young man, because I can still remember when I was 19 years old even though it is almost 3 years ago (I'm 22 now, I had a birthday 2 weeks back) when I was going through the similar confusion of religion (ideal world) verses following the "real word" of what works.
Although I am not Catholic and Filipino like that guy was, however, I can still see through the fluff of these religions... And I felt very miserable like I was suppressing a part of me that wanted to evolve and show my true identity who I really am as a person (and being a true alpha man). Painfully, I also had the "nice guy syndrome" which led me too feeling more anger and resentment.
Until I stumbled to the "THE SEDUCTION METHOD" website and check it out of curiosity, where I started reading your newsletters and buying your Audio Sessions, where I was blow away at the your most profound knowledge of sociology as well psychology.
I still got work to do, and I got the "Seduction Method" as present form one of my friends and your book is awesome so far, and I should by the end this week.
Now I got serious questions, although I am working on myself for a better life and future, I have been being encountering harsh criticism with my family, especially female relatives. My mother has been confronting me a few times of why I continue to read your stuff it's trash (she nicely puts it), because she found some of the printed newsletters that read coming home from school (I attend a community college - no dorms still saving, so I can have my own palace), and sometimes she taken my rubbers from my former private hiding places.
The lectures they give is this, "All you have to do is be 'nice and sensitive' and have a job/six figure income/affluent house and the girls will come to you" another is, "If I have a relationship with God, she will send me that special one" and they annoyingly say have only monogamous relationships, because that is what women want.
How do you handle these situations? Where you are being hounded left and right by friends and family to the point, where think you need therapy and your negative and insane just because you want to have a new way of thinking and at looking things (for what they are, not what they should be - REALITY) and refuse to embrace social/cultural/religious traditions?
Wisdom appreciated,
C.
__________
CARLOS:
There are some times in life where we need to make some very important decisions.
Sometimes they may lead us to do things that are not what we'd like, but what we MUST do for ourselves.
Let's get one thing straight:
The ONLY person who has the greatest investment in you is YOU. You have to take care of yourself.
I'm not saying to become some sociopath who disregards all others. (Because that's what the people who can't take care of themselves and rely only on others and their dysfunctional relationships will try to tell you you're doing if you don't go along with them.)
I'm going to urge you to read a book that had a profound influence in my life, and is a MUST read for every guy who wants to improve the quality of his life.
It's called "Pulling Your Own Strings" by Wayne Dyer. It is the most important book for handling the kind of pressure that your family and friends are likely to put on you when you break away from their way of thinking.
There may come a time when you may decide that you must separate from them (physically and mentally) to pursue the intelligent Alpha Man path.
I'm not saying to forget your family, because family is VERY important to me.
I'm saying that in order to live your own life, you may have to get away from them to find what you're looking for.
Remember: No one is a hero in his own home town.
And also remember that any person who would hold you back or encourage you to do anything besides explore life and look for your own answers is actually trying to get you to live THEIR AGENDA.
Either you will influence others, or they will influence you.
Your choice.
Hey Carlos,
I just want to comment on the article you wrote "LOSING YOUR RELIGION", I can really relate to that young man, because I can still remember when I was 19 years old even though it is almost 3 years ago (I'm 22 now, I had a birthday 2 weeks back) when I was going through the similar confusion of religion (ideal world) verses following the "real word" of what works.
Although I am not Catholic and Filipino like that guy was, however, I can still see through the fluff of these religions... And I felt very miserable like I was suppressing a part of me that wanted to evolve and show my true identity who I really am as a person (and being a true alpha man). Painfully, I also had the "nice guy syndrome" which led me too feeling more anger and resentment.
Until I stumbled to the "THE SEDUCTION METHOD" website and check it out of curiosity, where I started reading your newsletters and buying your Audio Sessions, where I was blow away at the your most profound knowledge of sociology as well psychology.
I still got work to do, and I got the "Seduction Method" as present form one of my friends and your book is awesome so far, and I should by the end this week.
Now I got serious questions, although I am working on myself for a better life and future, I have been being encountering harsh criticism with my family, especially female relatives. My mother has been confronting me a few times of why I continue to read your stuff it's trash (she nicely puts it), because she found some of the printed newsletters that read coming home from school (I attend a community college - no dorms still saving, so I can have my own palace), and sometimes she taken my rubbers from my former private hiding places.
The lectures they give is this, "All you have to do is be 'nice and sensitive' and have a job/six figure income/affluent house and the girls will come to you" another is, "If I have a relationship with God, she will send me that special one" and they annoyingly say have only monogamous relationships, because that is what women want.
How do you handle these situations? Where you are being hounded left and right by friends and family to the point, where think you need therapy and your negative and insane just because you want to have a new way of thinking and at looking things (for what they are, not what they should be - REALITY) and refuse to embrace social/cultural/religious traditions?
Wisdom appreciated,
C.
__________
CARLOS:
There are some times in life where we need to make some very important decisions.
Sometimes they may lead us to do things that are not what we'd like, but what we MUST do for ourselves.
Let's get one thing straight:
The ONLY person who has the greatest investment in you is YOU. You have to take care of yourself.
I'm not saying to become some sociopath who disregards all others. (Because that's what the people who can't take care of themselves and rely only on others and their dysfunctional relationships will try to tell you you're doing if you don't go along with them.)
I'm going to urge you to read a book that had a profound influence in my life, and is a MUST read for every guy who wants to improve the quality of his life.
It's called "Pulling Your Own Strings" by Wayne Dyer. It is the most important book for handling the kind of pressure that your family and friends are likely to put on you when you break away from their way of thinking.
There may come a time when you may decide that you must separate from them (physically and mentally) to pursue the intelligent Alpha Man path.
I'm not saying to forget your family, because family is VERY important to me.
I'm saying that in order to live your own life, you may have to get away from them to find what you're looking for.
Remember: No one is a hero in his own home town.
And also remember that any person who would hold you back or encourage you to do anything besides explore life and look for your own answers is actually trying to get you to live THEIR AGENDA.
Either you will influence others, or they will influence you.
Your choice.
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