ALPHA MEN GET WOMEN:

Hey, thanks for the bonus book Carlos! I have been reading the secrets of
the Alpha Man e-book for the past two days and have already started to feel
more like a leader. I was so used to using alcohol as a crutch, that every
time I didn't get the girl I wanted I would get all upset about it.

I realized this is a big problem for me because last night at a party, I was
the first to go up to all of the girls and carry a conversation with them
and they respected me for it. I was drawing in girls' attention all over the
place, but when I started drinking, I took myself out of the game and the
girls were acting aloof. I was being needy, clingy, instead of acting like
the MAN I was before.

Is there any way to make sure I don't drink too much at parties, because I
work my magic so much better when I am sober. The thing is, I have a stomach
condition and my body can't handle the sugars in beer, but it can in hard
alcohol so that's what I drink a lot. Any suggestions?

Also, this condition doesn't allow me to eat complex carbohydrates more than
twice a week and I will be leaving for school in a month. I hate having to
explain to everyone who looks at me weird when I eat burgers with no buns in
the cafe. Is there a good way to play it off?
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CARLOS:

Two days? Not too bad.

As far as the alcohol thing, I can totally relate. You see, I used to be a BIG party guy. I mean, I got drunk with my friends all the time. I, too started to see that it was a crutch.

That's why I call alcohol "Liquid Balls."

It allows you to fake a certain level of courage and ability. And it does give you the lowered inhibitions to attract women and meet girls.

Now the cool thing about becoming an Alpha Man is that you can identify these behaviors more easily and start to make ... healthier choices in your life.

You're seeing that drinking can be a crutch, and that your opinion of your own personality is almost always off the mark after you've had a few.

I figured out the hard way that I wasn't nearly as funny as I thought I was.

So one way to reduce the whole alcohol dependency thing is to STOP BEFORE YOU START.

No, I don't mean that you have to pretend you're an alcoholic and quit completely (although you should seriously consider this if your drinking gets in the way of any other areas of your life.)

I mean that you need to keep your hand on the emergency brake from the very first drink. The tough thing about mixed drinks is that you can't take your time with them like you can with beer, so you have to balance it out.

Have one glass of water with ever drink you have. It will help you metabolize the alcohol faster, and it will slow you down on consumption. That will help you match the women you're with much better. It's hard to attract women when you're practically falling over them.

Also, you might consider wearing 4 or five of those Lance Armstrong "Livestrong" bracelets that were so popular. Move one over from your right wrist to your left for every drink you have. Then you have something to track it with.

Now, I want to address something else that you need to do to turn your attitude around. It has to do with your whole view of how you are perceived by others.

If you have a stomach condition, you have a condition. It's NOTHING to be paranoid or ashamed of.

And you are ashamed. I can tell by what you said. You're interpreting looks of curiosity as that of "weirdness." As if YOU are weird for having to eat burgers without the buns.

No no no.

Oh, no.

THEY are the weird ones for not being able to handle a situation out of the ordinary, or that they haven't encountered on a reality television show.

I know a LOT of people who are avoiding the buns and carbs just for the whole Atkins diet thing. And a LOT of bodybuilders do it for the massive intake of protein their bodies require during training.

You need to turn around your fundamental thinking and belief system from:

"I'm looked at as weird and different for doing what I need to stay healthy, and I'm ashamed that my being different means that others won't accept me."

TO

"I am who I am, and other people will just have to accept me like this. I eat this way because I'm CHOOSING to. If they want to know why, they can ask, but I'm different. Tough sh*t. Accept it, or lose me as a friend. Now get over it."

Do you see the difference here?

You said: "Is there a good way to play it off?"

Play WHAT off?

Stop trying to NOT be yourself. Be who you are, and other people will just have to accept that or lose out on your accompaniment.

You have to get a little arrogant about who you are, and stop making excuses for it.

There's nothing wrong with just eating the burgers without the buns. If anyone looks at you weird because of it, they're just seeing if they can dominate you by making you feel inferior.

Just point to your meat patty and say, "Diet."

That will say it all for them.

Make sense?

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