C&F isn't everything...

Just found out about this entry from BG, reprinted here.

Essentially, guys, keep in mind that C&F (Cocky and Funny) is not the be-all end-all of stimulating female attraction. You know that I preach a balance of teasing and learning how to calibrate to women.

So be careful about following anything too closely to the word. It's the SPIRIT of the words.

Read this:

BG writes:
Watch out for the Double Your Dating eBook guys. There's some advice in there that's simply false, incorrect, incomplete or confusing.

For instance:

David DeAngelo says to not touch a girl when you meet her. Act distant. This is hard to get for wussies!! A 10 knows you want her. Be a man, show her that you're not afraid to touch her.

David DeAngelo says to stay cocky and funny all the time (throughout the first ten dates or so). What the fuck!? "Never drop that social mask, because she'll see the wussy". For AFC's this might be true, but not being C&F doesn't equal being a wussy. Just be relaxed, try to make a connection, create a comfortable situation where the two of you learn to trust each other. That's rapport! Staying on C&F is just lame and can come across as: insecure, 'too cool for her' (over-qualification), or coming across as a jerk who's actually not interested in her. C&F can blow you out.

There's one post where I am in a club.. And I'm looking for some girl, because I'm leaving and I have to ask for her number. So I walk around, spot her on the dance floor, but I'm too afraid to go up to her, because she had already spotted me. I actually thought that going right up to her would come across as NEEDY and desperate! Haha. And that's what I learnt from DYD.. So it actually turned me into a bigger wuss on some areas.

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