NEWSLETTER:
Happy New Year!
Here's a Lesson in Alpha Attitude...
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Happy New Year, guys!
Here's a great way to start off 2007...
Don't make any "New Years" resolutions. They rarely stick.
Why?
Because most people make them in the spirit of the moment, but they don't
last.
Instead, why don't you make a real
change in your life?
I'll tell you more after we handle some of this week's questions...
QUESTION: Is
she really
THAT special...?
Carlos,
First off, Happy New Year!
I had a great party at my house last night that
my parents let me throw and it was a blast. Since restarting the Alpha Man
Program, I feel so much better. My good friend's cousin was here last night
and she was really hot.
We hit it off well, but what really turned me on to her
was her personality. This may be the first time I actually mean it when I
say it too. She was so noble and modest, almost a different breed. Way more
mature than any girl her age (20). I told her out of instinct I thought her
passions were sexy and went in for the kiss. She told me I was cute and bold
(thanks to the Alpha Man Program).
Anyway, we scheduled a day two this week, but a couple things.
1. I admit to a slight jealousy when she was flirting with another friend,
but did my best to do my own thing when it happened. How can I get back on
a woman's radar when this happens?
2. I leave for school in two weeks and most likely
won't see her again. But, where can I meet more women like her? The girls
at bars I meet are so immature. This one doesn't like getting "Fucked up" or
smoke weed or any of that stuff.
Thanks,
P.
CARLOS ANSWERS:
Yes, you'll meet a lot of women out there. But the
biggest mistake you can make is to get fixated on any one woman as being
too special or "different." And
especially if she really IS special or different!
It's important to not get too carried away with this idolizing.
The reason is that you'll start to lose focus and make some pretty dumb mistakes.
First of all, there's a saying: "You are unique
and special... just like everyone else."
And this goes for her, too!
The Big Mistake happens when a guy makes the decision
that one woman is somehow "different" and
needs to be treated differently.
In the end, what happens? He simply overcompensates by
fixating on her, obsessing, and then ruining it.
Almost EVERY time.
The girl I'm currently seeing is special to me, and the
way I got her was to give her just as much space and time as I did with all
the other women in my life. I treated her NO DIFFERENTLY than
any of the other women.
And now that we're into each other, I can NOW treat
her more special than
the other women that weren't lucky enough to get me. You gotta be patient
and relaxed at the start.
So in answer to your questions:
1) Slight jealousy happens when you don't have options.
Scaring off a woman happens when you "TRY" to get back on her
radar.
Instead, do your Alpha
Man role well. Show her the things
I teach you in the Secrets of the
Alpha Man program. When you've done that
well, you get her number, stand out in her mind, and re-connect later.
IF you haven't already found that the other women in your life haven't monopolized
your time. Hey, if you spread the Alpha Love, it will happen to you. I have
options options options.
And so should you.
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2) More women like her are probably NOT going to be at the bars. But you
know what? You don't go to the bars to meet the special ones, though they
MIGHT be there.
You go there to get the practical experience that allows you to feel comfortable
approaching ANY woman, so that when the special one comes along, you won't
mess it up.
And if you want to make sure you don't mess it up, review your Secrets
of the Alpha Man strategies daily.
It's the path to strong inner AND outer game.
QUESTION: Let's
examine a field report from Mario the Pimp ...
Hey C,
I got a question and/or problem. Yes believe it
or not, Mario the Alpha Pimp still has problems from time to time. Yes I'm
a ladies man, and get called shady cause I'm a lot of ladies man....no seriously...
There is a warm contact. My friend from work and his girlfriend's friend
Katie. We met at his house when he had us over for a house party. Nice. Was
teasing his gf, and her friend the whole time, calling her a lightweight for
bringing light beer.
The 2nd time I ignored her and played games with my friends,
even after in the kitchen she tried to strike up a conversation by asking
if the food was good. I was short with her, but then at friends admonition
went out and talked to her a little bit. We exchanged words on Myspace, and
I was even invited to a party, but had to work.
But recently I decided I just had to take action. I'd been out of the game
for a while due to not being emotionally available because of some issues
at the time. And because I'd put on some weight and figured I want to get
in shape first. So it was starting out bumpy as it always does when you haven't
practiced your game in a while actually IN the field. For me it was congruence
as follows:
She works at a supermarket near where I work, where
I have the option of stopping by if I decide that I would like to shop on
the way home. I stop there and notice she worked there. (Which I didn't
know). I sent her a myspace message asking if she worked there, and she
said yes and that I "should
have stopped by and said hi." So the next week I stopped by, and we chatted.
I bought some things.
And then I said, "It's been good talking to you, but I've got to get
going..." and I turned from her and she said bye, but then I turned back
and said, "You know we should get together sometime and do something." She
agreed so I handed her my cellphone. But one big problem: MY HAND WAS SHAKING.
Damn that sucked dude, and it ain't the first time it
has happened. So she gave me the number, to her HOME, but here are the problems:
PROBLEM #1: MY HAND WAS SHAKING!! Ok what is this all about? My nervousness?
I know I violated the R in R.E.A.L. How can I relax enough to do that without
shaking. I've not yet conquered a club sober. I aspire to. Any ideas to help
with this? It is also a problem she OBSERVED this.......
PROBLEM #2: When I told my friend that I had her number when he was joking
telling me that he told her this weekend that I had a wet dream about her
(that bastard), but claims he is just kidding. Dunno. It was because I told
my friend I did have one of her, but he is distorting it. But he is saying
he is keeping it a secret. That's not the problem. The problem is I heard
from him that Katie told his girlfriend that I was NERVOUS when I met her.
Is this time to throw the towel in and move on to the
next woman? I kind of did like her, but will go NEXT if it is time. Do I think
it is? Not necessarily, which leads me to one more question....
Since we've met like 3 times if you count the mini-visit
at work....would I be still shooting for the same coffee meeting, or maybe
to the first "date?" Is
this the day I have to kiss her, presuming the nervousness thing hasn't all
ready blown me out of the water. Thanks C for not being fake and keeping it
R.E.A.L.
-Mario
CARLOS ANSWERS:
First off, I want to point out something for all the readers:
NEVER put your game on "hold." For any
reason!
It's tempting to go and give yourself an "out." An
OUT is a reason to not do something that you make up - or even seems completely
justified - when it's really just a COP OUT. Underneath the clever rationalization,
it's just a fear that's getting in our way. The usual fears of being rejected
or not living up to some pre-conceived image of ourselves.
Your game is ALWAYS on. When you allow yourself to have a switch, you'll
never get the consistency and identity you need for doing approaches and talking
to women.
There is NO SUCH THING as an Alpha
Man on "hold."
Which is WHY your hands were shaking, Mario! Yes, you were nervous, but you
were only nervous because you had been out of the game for a while.
Next time, just say, "Oh, damn, I've been drinking
WAY too much caffeine."
Remember, NOTHING is a problem unless you MAKE
IT A PROBLEM.
Capisce?
Nervousness isn't a problem if you ACT
ANYWAY. Women will cut you some slack
if you're nervous just because it's flattering. It's when you act nervous
and do nothing that they look at you as truly pitiful.
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Your other problem is your friend. You see, he senses your insecurity and
is playing it off you. He's obviously picking up on your vibe
of insecurity and using it on you.
Keep your mouth sealed about this girl around him. He's acting like a punk
and trying to mess up your game so that you don't succeed or do better than
him. (Guys can be really petty.) The more you engage him on this level is
the more that you buy into his reality.
As for your question about what to do next with her, don't worry about the
WHAT. Just get her out with you and having fun. Go out for drinks. Go out
to a bowling alley. Just don't sit here in indecision
and inaction while you
figure it out. Call her up and tell her you're both going out on Saturday.
Ba-da-boom.
Now for you guys that are looking to improve your game
and learn the right
Alpha Mindset, you should know that there is a path for you
to follow. You don't have to go it alone, or wing it. 2007 can be the year
you finally learn the art of attraction.
For those of you out there reading this right now
that aren't sure how to calibrate to the "Alpha
Man" ideal, I have
something for you that you will find LIFE-CHANGING.
You don't have to go to one of my bootcamps.
You can simply get my home-study
course of the same Alpha
Immersion program I use to train my students (and instructors) in the
field.
It's my
latest DVD program, and I just got some new stock of them in the warehouse
this week.
Again, the reality is that if you're only reading the
newsletters or listening to my podcast, you need more. It's like meeting up
with a group of people who just attended a seminar. You can sort
of understand
what they're discussing - BUT you don't have the same foundation they have
from attending.
Take a look at the Alpha
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There's an old saying: Everybody wants to get into heaven,
but nobody wants to die.
A lot of the situations
guys write in about are a bit unclear because many guys delude themselves
as to their real level of success with
women. The reality is that most guys DO
NOT get what they
want from their interactions and relationships with women.
Shitty as that is, there is a cure for the common Lonely
Single Guy.
It's called EDUCATION.
It's the only way to stop being a whipped,
scared, beta guy and get your love life under your control again.
If you could learn secrets to attract
women, would you?
Can you see past
your ego defense mechanisms and embrace the power of the Alpha Man?
When you have enough women and action in your life, you
won't feel like you need to analyze or chase every chick that comes into your
sphere of influence. And that's a good thing. You'll act on it because
you've got a sense
of abundance in your life.
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I know there are some guys who won't understand how these concepts go together,
but all success in life is linked together by some common
principles.
If you're not getting what you want from life, you need to make some changes.
Stop putting your destiny off until some other 'convenient'
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Take a look at the original program that will put you on the path - Alpha
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This is the ORIGINAL Alpha
Man program that gives you the REAL Game with
women.
Prove it to yourself - If you want to hear all the great
things everyone has to say about these books, go to the site and read the
reviews.
And then download them now to see why more men get success with my
advice and strategies ...
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"Carlos, my man!
I can't thank you enough for the valuable information you have shared
with me and how open my eyes have become to the tests and challenges
that women have put on me all my life.
"I would have to
say that your Alpha
Man Program is one of the
best solutions to getting this part of your life in order, as well
as, getting you where you want to be mentally to attract more of the
caliber women we all want in our lives. I hope we have a lasting relationship
in the form of mental growth for many years to come and thanks again
buddy..."
- Javier
"Hey carlos, thank
you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course.
I think I must've listened to the cd's four or five times now !
"The
confidence I've gained in meeting da ladeez at work and socially has
been tremendous. I was never skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned
as how I would notice the changes in myself. The clincher was when
several of my closest friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence
in so many ways!
"Thank you so much
for your hard work for making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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Teddy
Shabba of Dating Advice Coach Reviews The
Dating Black Book:
"Too many books dealing with
meeting and dating women focus on techniques instead of the basic fundamentals
of what actually attracts women to men.
In fact this is the main reason why so many nice
guys have problems actually getting any further than the first few dates
with women and that's if they find the courage to actually use the techniques
on women.
However, Carlos Xuma in his book The
Dating Black Book shows men the basic fundamentals of attracting
and being successful with women.
The
Dating Black Book starts off explaining the importance of actually
improving yourself and building self confidence to attract women.
If you are looking for a sugar coated version of
what it is going to take then this is Not the book for you.
After covering the different aspects of your inner
game as well as how to build your self confidence, Carlos moves on to
actually show you how to find a girlfriend or women for a long-term
relationship.
Many times men have a tendency to get comfortable
with a woman quite early and end up in a relationship they do not want
and do not know how to get out of.
The
Dating Black Book helps you understand what to look for in a good
woman and what to watch out for in a Not so good woman.
To finish off the book, Carlos quickly covers the
basics on sex as well as some additional resources for men to read that
will help improve a man's life in general.
Overall, if you have ever read anything that Carlos
Xuma has written on dating and women then you already know that he has
a lot of very useful information and knowledge to give men, and The
Dating Black Book will help you get even more of that information
and knowledge.
I would highly recommend this book to the majority
if not all Nice Guys or Recovering Nice Guys out there who are struggling
with some of the concepts and techniques that other guys teach.
If you want to just be yourself and attract women
then The
Dating Black Book by Carlos Xuma is for you..."
- Teddy Shabba - Dating Advice
Coach.com
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actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
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