CARLOS XUMA'S DATING ADVICE:
Waterfall Method
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
Because every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit
it.
Thursday, 7:20 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk
Okay, so you want a more detailed explanation of the Waterfall
Method?
I first created this technique many years back, and I
describe it in my e-book "The Seduction Method."
Simply put, this is a way of balancing your lifestyle
in such a way that you maximize your attitude while getting rid of the false
expectations of One Night Stands.
In this version, I'm including my graphic of the Waterfall
Method so you can see for yourself how this works in a more complete
visual manner.
Enjoy!
A lot of the "Game" out there has been hardwired
with a certain beliefs about the "ONS." Otherwise
known as the One Night Stand.
i.e., The Fast Lay.
Now, let me start by telling you that I am NOT here
to judge guys out there who make this their goal. If that's all you want,
fine. Go for it. But I'm here to tell you about another option that you'll
want to consider when all's said and done.
I call this the next evolutionary step after you've gotten
past your get-laid-quick approach. I call it ...
THE WATERFALL METHOD
First, let's discuss why you DO want
this goal of a One Night Stand, and the reasons why you actually DON'T.
Why you DO want a quick lay:
A) You're in need of
sexual release.
B) It validates your
masculinity.
C) It's a challenge
for 95% of the guys out there who don't get to experience this as a regular
part of their life.
Great. Once we've gotten past each of these very TEMPORARY desires
(and ones based more on an unstable self-image than real confidence) we find
that the success you feel at sleeping with women quickly is fleeting. So now
the other side...
Why you DON'T want a quick lay:
A) You'll have much more
difficulty in keeping her long term.
Now I've read that this isn't true from a lot of "gurus" in
da house, and I'm here to tell you that the natural reaction for women is
to avoid confronting an uncomfortable image of themselves - i.e. SLUT.
Even if you rock her world with great sexual technique (still a rarity out
there, sad to say), she's still going to be very disinclined to turn
it into an LTR - long term relationship - primarily because
of the way you got together.
B) You'll have much
more variety and experience with women, and be better able
to create the kind of short OR long term relationships.
C) Guys who go for
and get quick lays defeat their own biological programming against this kind
of behavior and will find it harder to keep their own feelings alive
longer than that one night.
But again, if that's all you want, hey, that's all you
have to get.
I interviewed an author who presented me with a pretty
interesting concept in the evolutionary psychology arena with men and women.
(Actually, several brilliant concepts, which you can hear in my Advanced
Coaching, but this one is particularly relevant here.)
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The revelation was this: Psychologically
speaking, men feel less attracted to women who sleep with them quickly.
Why?
Because we are programmed by evolution to *avoid*
promiscuity. Since men (up until the last 50 years or so) could not be certain
that a child was really theirs, they would only pair-bond with women
they felt demonstrated traits that showed monogamy and faithfulness to
their mate. Hey, no guy wants to sink 20 years of his life and resources raising
someone else's child, right?
Now guess what behavior clues a man in on a woman's promiscuity...
"Uh, Alex, what is 'time-to-intercourse'?"
You betcha .
D) You'll give yourself MORE
OPTIONS.
One of my rules of life is that the Alpha Man knows
that his power in life is usually in direct proportion to the OPTIONS he
has available to him at any given moment.
Fewer options = More frustration and scarcity
thinking.
More options = Less frustration (i.e., more relaxation)
and abundance thinking.
E) Guys who shoot for
(pun intended) one night stands eventually get over it and want the whole
enchilada. A relationship.
That's right, on the other side of this skill set is a
dreaded admission by even the most Alpha of us, that we get tired of it and
realize we need something more - CONNECTION. Hell, even guys
need it.
You're challenged by the next obstacle you face in the
game, and for most guys, they think it's the ability to take a girl home the
same night and sleep with her. I submit to you that this goal is a superficial
one. You will discover that you need the next goal after that. And so on.
A man needs challenge.
I did.
I went through countless short term flings that left me
more and more empty inside until I turned those into what I term "beneficial
serial monogamy."
This is where I could have as many women in my life as
I could schedule, and it was always a mutually beneficial situation.
So what is my "Waterfall Method?"
CONTINUED...
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Do you have to buy one of my clever CD programs to find
out?
No. I wanted to give you this as a concept that you could
use right away to improve the quality of your relationships and
get you past what I consider to be the false goal of getting One Night
Stands as soon as possible.
Here's my Waterfall Method of pickup
and dating:
1) Meet more women. MANY women.
The more women you meet, the better your ratios.
2) Stack them in such a way
that you maximize your options and your enjoyment.
3) Delay gratification. At
the end of the day, you'll have greater success by delaying than rushing.
For example (and yes, this is a big example), let's say
you've got 8 women on the line (Woman 1 through 8), and all
of them are at least interested because of your sparkling Alpha
Man personality.
- Woman 1 you meet or contact on day
1-6. Stays overnight on Day 2. She's gone on Day 6.
- Woman 2 you meet on day 1-7. On Day
7 she sleeps over.
- Woman 3 you meet on day 1-11. Sleep
with on Day 6, 7, 8, 11. Possible long term relationship if you come back
to her later.
- Woman 4 you meet on day 1-7. She goes
psychotic on Day 7. NEXT!
- Woman 5 you meet on day 1. One night
stand. She never returns your calls. NEXT!
- Woman 6 you meet on day 1-3. Personalities
conflict, and you part ways. NEXT!
- Woman 7 you meet on day 1-5. She sleeps
over on Day 4, but you have an argument on Day 5. You stick to your guns (abundance
mentality) and she comes back to you on Day 8-10.
- Woman 8 you meet on day 1-12. She
takes until Day 10 and Day 12 to get intimate.
So after all is said and done, take a look at the "summary"
line where the overall pattern is laid out.
You get an intimate connection on Day 1, 2, 4,
6, 7, 8, 10, 11, 12.
You rascal!
Had you tried to get a one night stand with all of
them, you would have had a much lower success ratio.
Of course, this is an over-simplification - though not
by much. What I'm trying to encourage you to do is think Big Picture.
Now for those of you wondering why I called this a "Waterfall
Method," well it comes from project management methodology,
and simply indicates how your successes can stack up if you look at the Big
Picture.
One side benefit of this approach (and one that I use)
is that you can make it clear to the woman up front that you're NOT looking
for quick action - even if she wants it! By delaying her gratification and
stealing her frame by doing a role reversal, you tip the balance of
sexual power back to you, because now you're not needy or desperate.
This then enhances your confidence for all other women you
meet. Woman 1 to infinity.
What we're talking about here is a pipeline of
women that will enter your life and keep you happy,
and this actually takes LESS energy to start and maintain
than simply pickup for a quick lay does. And when you discover that a relationship
is what you want after sowing your wild oats, you'll have abundance and
deeper skill rather than a quick hit mentality.
Remember what I say: "You'll
learn more about yourself and grow more in the context of a relationship
than you will in any other way. If you choose."
Don't fall victim to a "McDonald's" mindset.
Fast rarely means quality.
If you want to learn more about this concept, I suggest
you learn about REAL
GAME …
And
learn the Alpha Man Rules.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident."
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of guys out
there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying
my own inner psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things
make a difference and ...
... I will genuinely help you
improve your inner game with women.
When a woman senses that you've got passions and direction
in your life - even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to
benefit from my experience. There's no reason you should
have to take as long as I did to make these changes to your own life.
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"I've read every book and studied every system on dating and
seduction. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're
not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change
your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the tactics
and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually,
it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos
Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner
game.' From there, he'll give you the complete set of tools
for approaching women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill.
If you're in this game to win it, these are the rules you
need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
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what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
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And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
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"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk,
Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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says:
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and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
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