CARLOS XUMA'S DATING ADVICE:
Drop All the Clever Techniques...
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Carlos Xuma and the TRUTH About Dating and
Attraction...
Because every
man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Thursday, 1:29 AM: Carlos
Xuma's Desk
Why Your Techniques Aren't Working - And they're probably
killing your 'game'...
You need to free yourself from the shackles of technique.
Why would I say this?
I give out a sh*tload of techniques because they do help you out.
Training wheels, right? That's how they're supposed to be used, but that
analogy doesn't begin to cover it.
Techniques have a MUCH deeper
impact on your game than you realize.
I'm going to tell you first about "The Gap." I spoke about this
concept at the seminar in Montreal, and I want to pass this on to you right
now so that you won't be lost down the path of "Lonely
Pickup Artist."
Techniques fulfill an important purpose that many guys don't realize.
Techniques allow you to be another person, to leave
behind the faulty belief systems, damaged self-confidence, and other limiting
behaviors and step into
the shoes of your alter ego. It's a bit like putting on a super hero outfit
and becoming Spider-man or Batman.
Just like Halloween, for a few hours, you can let go of all that crap in
your head and just play the part.
"Hey ladies, who lies more..."
"That reminds me of when I was in Europe and I met this..."
"You know, you have a really great energy about you..."
"Have you ever heard of the Cube?"
Yadda yadda yadda.
Eventually, though, the clever dialogue runs out, doesn't it?
It ALWAYS does. The first part of most guy's outer game is just staying in
set long enough to make it go somewhere deeper than a phone number. I see
this as being the biggest developmental hurdle for most guys at my seminars.
Techniques allow you to escape yourself a little bit, but guess what?
You can never escape yourself forever. Like they say, wherever you go, there
you are.
And The Gap hits you in the face when you've been chatting and running routines,
and running kino, and eventually you feel the space between this pickup persona
you've been crafting for yourself, and the REAL man inside you.
You see, your mind knows when you're playing this alter ego, and when you're
true to yourself.
Even though it sounds like I'm dismissing the use of techniques, I'm not.
I'm warning guys about the over-use and reliance on schtick and routines to
carry their personality.
Just like drugs, it's easy to become so over-dependent on this false persona
that you wake up one day and realize you were being a one-dimensional guy.
Trust me when I say that all the (you-know-what
between a woman's legs) in
the world cannot help your cataclysmic meltdown when you build a lifestyle
on such a superficial and fragile belief system.
It's like the woman who's a 9 or a 10 waking up one way with crow's feet
in her eyes, and a saggy, aging body. Her self-confidence
crashes horribly as she realizes she never had any REALIZED inner
value. It was all based on
the junk bonds of her appearance.
CONTINUED...
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Of course, your "techniques" can be made
into yourself, and they MUST if this skill of att raction is to stick. But
eventually, all guys feel the need to get back to who you REALLY are. We
can only be an actor for so long before it haunts you.
You know what... ?
It's coming, guys.
There will be a day very soon when women are well
versed in the lines and the standard openers, and your "game" will
be over faster than the XFL.
In fact, if you haven't been caught yet, you probably haven't been approaching
women in the real world as much as you should. (i.e., outside a loud, alcohol
saturated bar environment.)
So here's how you bridge that great divide between
the "pickup artist" and
the "REAL Alpha Man" inside you:
1) Stop using techniques that are working great for you.
Why would I say this?
Because it's not the technique or the "opening line" that's
working for you.
It's only your belief, polish, and confidence in it that makes it work.
What you need to do is substitute something of YOU that you can pull off with the same attitude and frame. When you accomplish
this, you'll really have transcended "pickup artist" and become
an Alpha Man.
2) When you can open sets consistently, Start asking questions that REALLY matter to you.
Stop opening conversations with mindless fluff like "Who lies more" and
others like it. Especially if you have no real concern except for the outcome
of getting her started talking to you.
It's time to put a few more plates on the barbells.
Tap into your inner beliefs and desires to come up with things that you REALLY want to know about her. Find your real curiosity for what makes her tick.
My social worker ex-girlfriend used to call this "breaking them down" and
it's a priceless method of cutting through the social B.S. and demonstrating
your Independent Value.
I've had incredible experiences seducing
a woman's soul instead of just trying
to trigger a few unstable defense mechanisms by making her feel insecure.
True confidence is when you walk up and open a group without saying a single
word. Try it for yourself.
3) Start exposing your TRUE personality when you go out there.
This is what I called demonstrating
vulnerability. Having the personal power
to show your own emotional depth is ten times more authentic and sincere.
And women KNOW it.
You'll find yourself achieving new levels of attraction
with women that will make your old makeout-in-the-bar situations
sound as lame as a George Lucas' love dialogue.
The one thing that vulnerability demonstrates is
POWER. This is the little known factor that most guys miss because they're
locked into "insecurity
armor" mode. This is where he is too busy protecting his insecurities
and lack of confidence with his bravado.
(Bravado is nothing more than simulated courage.)
Get past technique so that you can create your own style of masculine identity.
"Men are anxious to improve their circumstances,
but are unwilling to improve themselves. They therefore remain bound."
—JAMES ALLEN, AS A MAN THINKETH
If you want to learn more about this concept, you should
learn about the Alpha
Man Rules.
The reality is that True success with
women requires a firm
sense of direction in life, and self-confidence.
But you hear that all the time, don't you?
"Just be confident." Like
you can turn it on and off at will.
You'll hear that nugget of advice from a lot of
guys out there, but the difference is that they'll say "be confident," and
not give you ONE single method of actually improving
your confidence.
That's where I will help you.
I spent years trying out various self-help programs, studying
my own inner psychology (and inner wuss, too.) I figured out which things
make a difference and ...
... which things are currently holding
you back from being more successful with women.
When a woman senses that you've got passions and direction
in your life - even if that passion is to improve to be more attractive
to women - then
they'll want to come along for the ride.
I saw it over and over again as I went down this road.
Now, I also mapped this development, and I want you to benefit from my
experience.
There's no reason you should have to take as long as I did to make these changes
to your own life.
For those of you out there reading this right now
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Listen
to what the gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating and seduction.
The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching
men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal
belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the tactics and techniques
in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like
learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos
Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner
game.' From there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching
women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in
this game to win it, these are the rules you
need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success
with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his
craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y
Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about
creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the
needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams.
I love his game, its 100% real."
- the dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS
what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond
the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use
and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical, valuable
advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many,
many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive
man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot
babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you
not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at
work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded,
self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just about anything.
And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How
to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction'
community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction,
and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his
character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to
the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women
truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO
- net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior.
You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How
do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics -
it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find
sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author
of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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"NO WOMAN has the self-control to STOP pursuing that
which she TRULY desires..."
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Listen to what this guy says about his experience
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"I have purchased your Dating
Black Book and Approach
Women Now CD series. I have to tell you that after
reading the book and listening to the CDs I could help but feel
like the dorkiest man alive. I have let woman control my emotions
and have responded to them instead of them responding to me.
I always came off as a needy unconfident pervert!
"... I have learned to set standards and
not let a woman test me without busting their balls. I hope that if
I keep this up I will eventually find a woman that qualifies to be
in my life.
"One big thing too, if a woman sees that
I have things going on in my life, they tend to be more interested
instead of the bore I used to be. I have the motivation now to follow
my dreams and if a woman wants to be part of that then so be it, but
I have learned not to let a woman pull me off course of where I want
to go and do in my life..."
"Hey carlos, thank you for the Secrets
of the Alpha Man course. I think I must've listened to the
CDs four or five times now !
"The confidence I've gained in meeting
da ladeez at work and socially has been tremendous. I was never
skeptical at your
program, but was interested/concerned as how I would notice
the changes in myself. The clincher was when several of my closest
friends ... pointed out to me that I had confidence in so many ways!
"Thank you so much for your hard work for
making it easier for the rest of us!"
- Richie from UK
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great people and everyone else is that great people create their lives
actively, while everyone else is created by their lives, passively
waiting to see where life takes them next."
- Michael E. Gerber
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