Scarcity Thinking - How to Attract Women

I listened to your interview with David Deangelo and found your advice very helpful. I have this situation at the moment and wondered if I can ask your advice. I really need the help.

What is the best way to handle a situation if a girl sends you a message saying
that she loves you?

When a girl does this she is putting herself on the line, putting her feelings out there, so how do you respond if you really care about her, and want to be with her and want to continue the relationship, yet you dont feel like you quite 'love' her yet, and dont want to just say 'I love you too' to make her happy, but at the same time you dont want to hurt her feelings and want to give her reassurance?

I didnt respond for the first hour after the message, and then she called me and asked if I got the message and what I thought. I told her that I didnt know..and asked her if it was true.. I am not quite sure what she wanted to hear..and then she said that she was shy now..also when I didn't know how to reply she said is something wrong.. I reassured her that nothing was wrong, and told her that I miss her and wanted to be with her... and then she had to go because someone had come in the room and she couldnt speak so we decided to speak tomorrow..

I really dont want to screw this up, please help if you can.

What can I say to her .

Duraid
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CARLOS ANSWERS:

The first thing you need to realize is why you feel compelled to answer her.

I'm reminded of the Seinfeld episode where they talk about getting the "I Love You return." You put it out there, and it's a pretty big bomb. You hope they'll say it back.

But isn't it funny how you never see someone LOSING attraction because the other person doesn't answer...

In fact, they often become ten times more fascinated with them.

Hmmm.

Why is this?

It's because that person is demonstrating their independence and non-neediness in the biggest way possible.

I'm not saying it's nice or polite to leave someone hanging like this, but it's very important to realize that you don't need to say anything at all.

The last thing to notice is that you said: "I really dont want to screw this up..."

The second that this becomes your primary focus - NOT screwing it up - you have probably made it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

When you focus on NOT losing - protecting - not risking, etc., you're setting yourself up for a scarcity mindset that will haunt you, and make you prone to do the very things that she will find clingy, needy, and insecure.

It's only when you find yourself truly liberated from the need to worry about "success" or "failure" with a person that others will be drawn to you. It's a charismatic attraction that few men ever discover because they're too busy trying to make sure they DON'T LOSE.

But I can show you how to minimize your risk in the best way possible.

Go take a look at the Secrets of How to Attract Women ... anywhere, anytime...

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