Do you want to be a player, or do you want to play for keeps?

Carlos, is it okay to sleep around if I am married?

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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

I'm not going to peddle any moral judgement here. The answer is actually very simple...

If you are doing this without your wife's knowledge, NO, it's not okay.

If you two have agreed on this little arrangement, then YES, do what floats your boat.

But since you asked me, I can only guess that you are probably just sleeping around without her knowledge.

And the fact that you're asking me this question only shows that you are aware of your moral dilemma and you need to resolve it for yourself.

You see, the important part here is what is going on in your own sense of self-esteem and self-image. By cheating on your wife like this, you're lowering your own standards and internal sense of honor, and that's the most damaging thing.

Get straight on what you stand for and what you want from life.

THEN you can make a better decision as to what you want to do about your marriage.

My feeling is that if a relationship is not fulfilling you, then you need to fix it or get out and look for what works. Don't stay in a relationship out of fear and complacency.

If you want the right mindset that helps you get this figured out, I recommend you read my new book:

The Alpha Rules - Lessons in how to live the Alpha Lifestyle.

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