Avoiding Porn and Rosie Palm

I love your book Carlos... we see eye to eye and you've helped me more than you know.

I need to know though. Do you advocate to completely stoping looking at porn and masturbating all together? I did it for about 5 years (Complete cold turkey, looked at none, nor did it) and know that I had tremendous energy and self-respect. So please help me out on this one.

Thanks,
Andrew
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CARLOS ANSWERS:

I'll have to say, 5 years is a hell of a dedication, my friend. You don't have to be THAT devoted, but it sure does prove you have self-control, doesn't it?

As a matter of fact, I do recommend that most guys cut back on their use of porn and their urge to self-satisfy.

Here's why:

1) Porn is a simulated girlfriend. It does nothing to improve your skills with women, and only serves to create a "fantasy world" of women in your head that does not really match reality.

This is never a good thing.

It also serves to further alienate you from women because you are only learning how to see their bodies, and not their minds.

(And I DO NOT mean that in the cliche way you hear women saying, "I want him to see my mind..." Let's be very clear here: Women WANT you to see them sexually. The women that say otherwise are lying or gay. What they're trying to tell you is that they will self-judge themselves if you use her solely for sex, and that is a way of shifting the responsibility from her to you.)

When I say see their minds, I mean INTERACT with a woman as a woman. She has a whole fascinating and complex head full of thoughts going on in there, and it's worth exploring.

2) Too much masturbation drains your life force and vitality.

I've had a few friends say this isn't true, but I don't buy it. Want to test this first hand? (So to speak...)

Go masturbate before you do a weightlifting workout.

What do you think?

Will you do better or worse?

I don't need to tell you that any man that has tried to exercise vigorously AFTER shucking his corn finds it incredibly difficult. This is why I do not have sex on the morning of a workout. My girl understands this is the way it is. I'll give her what she needs, but I'm off limits until after I've completed my workout.

AND keep in mind that sexual frustration motivates us to get off our ass and DO something to get laid. That's Mother Nature's way of saying, "You a lazy mo-fo, and you ain't never gonna get any if you sit home all weekend and spank it!"

Yes, I actually talked to Mother Nature on the phone, and she said those exact words.

So exercise some self-control and self-discipline. Throw away the spank rags and stop spanking 'dat monkey!

Go get the REAL women instead. Live a real life of growth and fulfillment instead of the fast-and-easy path...

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