Dating Advice for Men Newsletter - Advice for the Alpha Man

The Truth about Women ... for the Intelligent Guy

Did you catch my radio interview on Satuday? If so, thanks for
listening. It was an AWESOME interview. I even received some
comments from the hosts on how much they want to do another one
like that.

If you missed it, you can still hear the show. I'll tell you where
to go to hear it near the end of this newsletter...

On to the mailbag!

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ALPHA MALE QUESTION:

My name is M and I'm 19 yo. I recently read your dating e-book
"Secrets of the Alpha Man", and I find it really really good.
Never has advice been so powerful to me.

But here's my question, as I said before I'm 19, can I take this
advice too or are you only referring to older guys? I know I'm
still young but I really need to work on my dating life. Thank
you...

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CARLOS: Actually, my Alpha Man program will probably work BETTER
for you because you're younger.

Why?

Because:

1) You're still able to change.

2) You're able to learn the right habits earlier rather than later.

3) You'll have more fun for more of your life than the guys who
learn this stuff after a marriage or two that has failed.

And by the way - congratulations on doing what most men will NEVER
do: Take control of your future.

If you go out and ask 10 guys if they need some help understanding
how the attraction game REALLY works with women, I'd bet you'd get
(maybe) one guy that might say yes.

But probably not.

You see, we're GUYS.

We don't admit we need help. Just ask a woman who's been with us in
the car when we're lost.

And the Alpha Man Program is so much MORE than just a guide to
pull pretty women...

It's a guide for LIFE.

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QUESTION on Women's Tests:

Carlos,

Today I approached a girl on campus and started talking to her,
busted her chops, made her laugh etc. When it was time to go I told
her to give me her number and she said, No that's okay, I'm sure
I'll see you around. I was stunned because she didn't pull out the
boyfriend card. She said just look for me, I'm sure I'll see you
around I basically just smiled and walked away.

WTF? Any insight here? I guess it's good to get rejected every once
in a while anyway, but I would at least like to know what happened.

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CARLOS:

My first guess is, she's testing you. And she's playing a little
hard-to-get.

AND she didn't feel enough HSV (high social value) from you to want
to give you her number.

Hey, she knows she'll see you around, and by refusing to give you
it, that drives up your interest level in her.

And, yes, she KNOWS this.

Hey, you're emailing me about her, so it must have worked, huh?

Clever girl.

And it's not a rejection.

It's a wake-up call to meet 10 other women and watch how fast this
woman will suddenly want to be with you. When she senses that
you're a true ALPHA, she will be interested.

Sometimes it has NOTHING to do with you. Some women will not help
themselves. They will, in fact, sabotage their own happiness to
play silly little chick games.

Such is life.

And the next time a woman says to "look for her," you tell her that
will be tough with so many other people out looking for YOU.

Turn it around, dude. It's your life.

Your reality.

Now, what are you going to do with it?

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ALPHA DISCOURAGEMENT:

I love your audio coaching ... I am trying to catch up to review
your new content.

As I told you before I went through a divorce that I never thought
I'd get over and your tapes have been very inspirational for me to
listen to. I am writing today because I am discouraged.

I have a bad neck for a young and still athletic age (25). I
decided one day at the mall to go to this massage therapy for a 1
hr treatment. Well, the therapy is slowly helping my neck.

I began talking to the therapist who is my age. She is very cute in
my opinon. She told me she is married and just had a baby. This was
last November. I told her about what had happened to me because of
my ex-wife. Six months passed and I went to get another massage
from her. She is in the proccess of "trying" to get a divorce from
her husband (he doesnt want to and they still live together).
Apparently her husband has cheated on her now 8 times and she is
tired of it. Because of this, she seems to be scouting the
marketplace.

I see her regualarly for my appointments and we always have very
good conversations. She flirts with me and I flirt back. She is a
very nice girl and I must say I have started to like her alot. I am
sure she is starting to have similar feelings for me. It is this
uninterupted interaction that has allowed us to build attraction. I
can tell this just by techniques i have learned from you.

Now my problem is this girl who I do like is unavailable, still
married and lives with husband. And she also has a 15 month old
baby. I'm sure your well aware of some of the pitfalls that come
from dating people who have kids.

This girl and I seem to have very similar goals and values in life.
I enjoy her personality as well as her looks and conservative nature.

My problem is I would like to meet this same type of girl except
kid-less and available. I am not quite sure on how to go about
this. I would be conquering all this alone. With my massage therapy
we have time to talk for an 1hr with no interruptions. Because of
it we both gained knowledge of one another. I am not sure how to do
this again in a different setting.

Carlos, I know you're laughing. But I am 25 and the longer I wait,
more girls keep having kids taking them off my market. Another
issue is that most women I come across all seem to have a
commitment with someone (we live in small area). If it is not that,
they are wilder girls who want to stay up and go to bars all night
long trying to get undue attention. I am not looking for that type
of girl.

How do u suggest I place myself in the types of situations to find
an available girl who matches my concept of what I am looking for.
I can't move my location because I am growing my own successful
business.

In a nutshell, I want to find situations like my massage therapy
where I can interact with a woman so we can get to know one another.

Thanks for the help, J

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CARLOS:

No, I'm not laughing at all. When you're stuck in one place, it can
seem like your options are incredibly limited.

What you have to watch out for, though, is scarcity thinking. That
will get you into trouble more than anything.

I've covered this in the e-books and audio so many times now, but
it bears repeating.

If you feel as if you have no options, you'll start to lower your
standards.

Jeeez, dude. You're 25. Not 65. You've got your whole life ahead of
you. Don't sink it like this.

You don't HAVE to settle for the first down-on-her-luck massage
chick that comes along with more baggage than they had on the
Titanic.

You have OPTIONS.

CHOICES.

I wrote about this a short time ago in the blog and in the
newsletters I've sent, but it bears repeating.

Remember, the most valuable thing to a man is CHOICES.

All things being equal, the person with the more response potential
(meaning the more choices of responses and alternatives available
to them) will probably come out on top.

And that's what you need most right now.

You're focusing on scarcity, and what you're going to LOSE. You see
time as LIMITED. You see life as CLOSING instead of OPENING.

In short, it's not reality. It's your PERCEPTION OF IT.

The old glass is half-empty or half-full.

It's what YOU make of it. The world is our mirror.

You want some opportunity to meet the woman you REALLY want instead
of settle for someone else's leftovers?

- Get online, start a profile. Recognize that you may have to drive
to another town to meet them, but if you want to play, you got to
pay.

- Get my Secrets of the Alpha Man program. I kid you not, it is the
single most influential thing you'll do for your attitude. I
funneled all my secrets of self-confidence in there for you to
have. Use them.

- Stop seeing this chick, and stop indulging in fantasy. The only
way to motivate yourself to something you want is to get out of
your comfort zone. If you just hang with this gal, you're going to
have to keep her. And that doesn't sound like what you want.

Do what you have to, but start making some adjustments to the
influences you have in your life right now. That's a big step in
the right direction.

And for you reading this right now, why don't you get started on
this path now?

First of all, you need my e-book - The Dating Black Book. I've
packed this e-book with HUNDREDS of examples, tips, strategies,
explanations, what to say, what to do, how to interpret situations,
and how to clean up that stinkin' thinkin' ...

Don't ignore that little voice inside you right now that's telling
you to take action. It's the one part of you that you can trust.
Most guys will let their egos stop them from learning the things
they need to, and they'll live in regret later on for it.

All the good stuff is inside the Dating Black Book. And you can get
it here:
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Just go check out the site, because I've put up a link so you can
hear my radio interview from the weekend, in case you missed the
show.

Oh, and I've got an e-book and 6-CD audio program you'll want to
see, and this new program covers every part of your self-confidence
and INNER game.

This program covers ALL aspects of overcoming your shyness, fears,
and insecurities with women (and with life) and gets you on the
path to TOTAL self-confidence.

Listen to what this guy has to say about it, and how he's learned
from the program:

"The negative self-talk was killing me for decades, that's my
motivation for doing this. No woman is going to give me s*x out of
pity. s*x is just a mindless fat-burning exercise like climbing the
StairMaster; it's the skill I want so I won't become co-dependent.
Being desired is the prize I'm looking for, and I need to accept
myself first.

"I had a very attractive woman 6 years ago who was even needier
than me... like a small child hanging off my arm... it mirrored my
own insecurities and made me very uncomfortable. That's how I made
other women feel and they left or never felt attraction, not
because they were confirming my cooked-up negative fantasies I
thought was their impression of me.

"As for my past, WHO CARES!!!!! Those are the two most relieving
words I have ever adopted.

"Glad to be in your bootcamp.. - C.H."

There are more testimonials at the bottom of this article for you to
read...

This new e-book and audio will guide you through exercises, tips,
and strategies for changing your life RIGHT NOW. It's not just
about getting more women (even though that's a really great
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successful LIFE - business, family, social, financial... everything!

I've even thrown in a few extra bonuses that you're going to want
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game together with women.

You can see the complete list of contents here at:
http://www.alphaseduction.com

If you get the program right away, I'll send you the 393 page e-book
RIGHT AWAY so you can get started... AND I'll even send you a link
to join the Alpha Man Forum - a special user group where you can
exchange information and tips with other Alpha Men.

Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL
admit it.

I'll be back with more advice soon ...

- Carlos