THE WORLD'S RECORD FOR THE MOST MISTAKES IN ONE DATE:

QUESTION:

I met this 19 year old girl ( I am 38) and we really hit it off. She asked me one day to go riding with her and we went to dinner and then we went to her house so she could change as we were going out to drink. We left her house and she realized she forgot her cellphone. She said she had to go back and get it because her parents would freak if they couldn't get in touch with her-if they called she was going to tell them she was at a friend of hers-so she also said she would drop me off at my car (which was at a bookstore) because if her parents were home she may not be able to come back out.

I looked and sounded very disappointed by this and maybe slightly upset. She had told me she didn't do anything on the first date-and had given me a little friendly rebuff when I kissed her neck out of the blue earlier- and I told her that was okay.

I admit I was upset because she had a bag packed to stay at my house when we came home from the club. We got to my car and I was determined to kiss her before she left and I leaned in to do this and she sort of ducked her head and said, " I told you I don't like to be pushed." I asked her if she was mad with me and she said yes, but it would be okay.

She went home and I called her an hour later and confirmed she wasn't going to get to come back out. I said," I guess you're in for the night?" and she said, "yeah." I said, "I wish you a goodnight then." She said, very quickly." Okay, goodnight." I thought she sounded a little standoffish and so I said,"Are you still miffed at me?" and she said,"You broke my rule." and I said,"One mistake and I can't be forgiven for it." and she said,"When you break my rule that's kinda it for me." I said,"So, you don't want to go back out?" And she said, very nicely,"No." I said okay and we hung up.

I knew her for a little while from talking to her in the booksore where she works-that how we got to know one another and we were really into each other on the date so what happened and how can I fix it? I really do like this girl. Thank you

CARLOS: This is one of those letters that I have to read while leaned over the toilet, hurling my cookies and flushing every few seconds.

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A short list of errors: 1) Asking HER for permission 2) Calling her within an hour of a bad date 3) Living by HER rules 4) Getting upset with her - no emotional control 5) Asking her if she was mad at you, and caring

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