Much Response on My Tough Love
A lot of guys have been writing in on my post from yesterday regarding the "tough-love" situation.
And all of it overwhelmingly positive.
One of the letters stood out, and I wanted to share it with you...
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Carlos,
I’m glad you decided to publish the letter and your response to the 37 year old ex-addict. It comes at the right time for me as it reinforces my resolve.
I’m 57 years old. In my 20’s I was a completely clueless AFC and married the second girl that showed an interest in me. By my 40’s I’d reached the top of my field as a traditional animator at a big studio, had a beautiful house in an exclusive part of LA, a second home in Taos, New Mexico and a bitchin BMW Z3.
A few years ago, everything in my field went digital and my 25 year career came to an end. I became ill, my lavish lifestyle ended and so did my 30 year marriage.
The truth is, though I’ve enjoyed animation, I’m an artist first and didn’t have time for my own artwork that would satisfy my soul. The truth is, my affluent lifestyle was nice, but it didn’t make me happy. The truth is, I “settled” for the woman I married and for years ached for a relationship with a woman that I never thought possible because I just wasn’t “good with women”.
The truth is, though I’m still reeling from the blows life has given me, I’ve actually been blessed with an opportunity to rebuild my life without compromise.
I’ve availed myself of information on women and dating and am an Advanced Audio Coaching subscriber. Though I’ve been working at it, my return to health has been slower than I’d like so I haven’t really been dating. Like you suggest, my primary focus is on getting my own life in order. Right now, as far as women go, I’m just going about my daily life making girls smile every chance I get and it makes me feel like a million bucks. I’m listening to audios of inspirational speakers that you recommend and have started bringing more positive people into my life. I’m on the path of making my own artwork that satisfies my soul.
I’ve been through allot of what he’s been through. This fellow needs to take contrary action. That is, if you feel like staying in bed, you get out of bed one foot at a time. If you feel like staying home and watching TV, you pull the plug on the TV (literally) and go out and interact with the world. Those who have been slammed by life circumstances have a tendency to become selfish and self-centered. This is deadly. If you’re an ex-addict, that means you can join a 12 step program and help other addicts get sober. Instead of thinking “how can I get a woman”, focus on what you can GIVE to others. It’s just like how you got sober: It’s just a matter of, one day at a time, choosing life instead of a living death of self-pity and isolation.
Carlos, it’s clear to me that you walk like you talk; that what really counts is living a life of meaning and purpose. It’s clear to me that you truly do care about helping us men build a better life for ourselves. And for that, I thank you.
Gratefully,
R.H.
And all of it overwhelmingly positive.
One of the letters stood out, and I wanted to share it with you...
______________________
Carlos,
I’m glad you decided to publish the letter and your response to the 37 year old ex-addict. It comes at the right time for me as it reinforces my resolve.
I’m 57 years old. In my 20’s I was a completely clueless AFC and married the second girl that showed an interest in me. By my 40’s I’d reached the top of my field as a traditional animator at a big studio, had a beautiful house in an exclusive part of LA, a second home in Taos, New Mexico and a bitchin BMW Z3.
A few years ago, everything in my field went digital and my 25 year career came to an end. I became ill, my lavish lifestyle ended and so did my 30 year marriage.
The truth is, though I’ve enjoyed animation, I’m an artist first and didn’t have time for my own artwork that would satisfy my soul. The truth is, my affluent lifestyle was nice, but it didn’t make me happy. The truth is, I “settled” for the woman I married and for years ached for a relationship with a woman that I never thought possible because I just wasn’t “good with women”.
The truth is, though I’m still reeling from the blows life has given me, I’ve actually been blessed with an opportunity to rebuild my life without compromise.
I’ve availed myself of information on women and dating and am an Advanced Audio Coaching subscriber. Though I’ve been working at it, my return to health has been slower than I’d like so I haven’t really been dating. Like you suggest, my primary focus is on getting my own life in order. Right now, as far as women go, I’m just going about my daily life making girls smile every chance I get and it makes me feel like a million bucks. I’m listening to audios of inspirational speakers that you recommend and have started bringing more positive people into my life. I’m on the path of making my own artwork that satisfies my soul.
I’ve been through allot of what he’s been through. This fellow needs to take contrary action. That is, if you feel like staying in bed, you get out of bed one foot at a time. If you feel like staying home and watching TV, you pull the plug on the TV (literally) and go out and interact with the world. Those who have been slammed by life circumstances have a tendency to become selfish and self-centered. This is deadly. If you’re an ex-addict, that means you can join a 12 step program and help other addicts get sober. Instead of thinking “how can I get a woman”, focus on what you can GIVE to others. It’s just like how you got sober: It’s just a matter of, one day at a time, choosing life instead of a living death of self-pity and isolation.
Carlos, it’s clear to me that you walk like you talk; that what really counts is living a life of meaning and purpose. It’s clear to me that you truly do care about helping us men build a better life for ourselves. And for that, I thank you.
Gratefully,
R.H.
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