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The Secret of the "Jerk" is Now Your Lethal Weapon to Attract Girls
...And Why the "Nice Guy" Doesn't Finish First With Women.

DATING ADVICE QUESTION:
"Help! I'm Losing My Girlfriend to a Jerk!"

Carlos, I've got a real problem...

I've been dating my current girlfriend now for about 2 months, and things have been really good between us. Well, that was, until last week.

She has a friend at work named Jim, and I've met him once on a group lunch.

He's one of those guys I can't stand because he's a bit of a dick. But he also has all the women swarming around him like flies.

I think my girlfriend might be one of them. She always brings him up in conversation, and it irritates the crap out of me.

What do I do about this guy?

And what are the ways guys can attract girls - and KEEP them...??

- Kevin A., Reno NV

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CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Kevin, I have to say, man, this is one of those "textbook" situations that a lot of guys out there have experienced.

And it SUCKS.

And then you're left wondering if you've been using only the WORST ways guys can attract girls.

I've been there quite a few times, and I've got a ton of stories about the jerk that came in and somehow managed to sweep MY girl off her feet.

He's the kind of guy who doesn't seem to have a problem stealing women away from boyfriends, which makes him a total dick in anyone's book, right?

And the worst part is that the woman may not have been swept THAT very night, but this guy always marked the turning point of my relationship with her.

And then a week or two later, she waved buh-bye and drove off into the sunset with Mr. Jerk.

But you don't want to hear *my* sob stories. You want to save your own relationship with your woman, if possible, right?

Here's what's happening with THE JERK, my brother...

A woman won't admit this in public, but the fact is that these guys that we hate - the "jerks" - are very often the ones that women are really attracted to. In fact, this is one of the most effective ways guys can attract girls...

But the problem is that we don't really see just how the "Jerk's" behavior is not nearly as "bad" as we would like to think.

We just resent how these guys are popular when they don't do the things we consider to be "nice," like considering everyone's feelings, going with the flow, and going out of their way for our approval.

Nope.

Instead, these guys just act on their own initiative and take the bull by the horns.

Here's what Jerks do:

- Jerks take the lead...

- Jerks get OTHER people to buy their drinks...

- Jerks poke fun at the girls and aren't constantly telling them how beautiful they are...

- Jerks have their own strongly held opinions...

- Jerks come up with a plan to go to some other bar, and they drag everyone along... and everyone ends up having a lot of fun. (Yes, even you...)

And while Jerks can be obnoxious, they can also be enticing and charming because they aren't constantly kissing everybody's ass looking for approval.

Let's face it - that's the REAL reason why we don't like the Jerk:

He's the guy we WISH we could be.

And that is why your girl is into this guy. And YES, she is into him. Big time.

I'd even bet that if you don't step up your game really soon, you'll be hearing those 4 ugly words:

"Let's just be friends..."

(And the worst part of those words is that when a woman uses them, she doesn't even really want to be friends, does she?)

Well, let's start with the facts...

ATTRACTION FACT: There Are 2 Ways Guys Can Attract Girls - and these are just about the only "attraction styles" a woman will respond to.

Attraction Strategy 1 works like a long, slow, boring romantic movie.

Attraction Strategy 2 works like crack cocaine and hits her brain like a bright bolt of lightning.

Let's start with the first one...

Attraction Strategy 1 is the "wine and dine and prove what a great provider I am for her."

Like I said, it's long. And slow. And boring.

But it can work - IF you're not picky about the woman you want.

Look, I won't kid you like some other gurus might. The fact is that the 'kiss-her-ass' strategy can eventually work, but it's the WORST hand to play.

It's weak.

It's one of the worst ways guys can attract girls, because it counts on her being insecure and low self-esteem.

PLUS, this strategy plays on the hope that she doesn't have any better, more exciting options to play.

You have to hope that no other guy in her life has any game, either.

That's not how you want to get or win a woman - by being the guy that lost the least.

- FIRST, because when a good "bad" boy shows up, she's gone.

- SECOND, because even if she sticks around, she'll just resent you for not being the man she really wanted in the first place.

Attraction Strategy 2 is the power of the "jerk," or the "bad boy."

There's a lot of scientific evidence in studying monkeys (who are pretty closely related to us) that the females will secure their survival by mating with a male that provides their food and protection.

And then - when he's out doing that whole provider routine - she finds a strong bad boy on the side to give her the strong genes.

It's been estimated that 1 baby in 10 is NOT fathered by the guy who thinks he's the "daddy."

How would you like to be the guy to find that one out about your son or daughter?

You see, women fall for BOTH types - the provider, and the Jerk.

One relationship is sold on logic and survival, the other is founded on emotions and genetic legacy.

Want to guess where I would place my bet?

But the REAL beauty is when you use a THIRD method to attract women.

I call it the Alpha Attraction Method. This is a combination of the good qualities of the Jerk, and the strong qualities of the "Nice Guy." It's the double-whammy that makes you the Alpha Man.

More on how this works in a second...

ATTRACTION FACT: Nice guy behaviors don't attract women at the same gut level that the Jerk ones do.

The reason is that the Nice Guy is often working from a "convincer" strategy. He's trying to demonstrate that he's the best choice by working on the woman's desire to secure her future.

He's trying to convince her logical mind. (And attraction is not logical.)

Meanwhile, the Bad Boy is spiking her emotions and fun into the stratosphere and giving her the visceral thrill of a wild roller coaster ride.

Sounds a lot more interesting doesn't it?

I said before that the "provider" strategy works like the long, slow romantic movie.

Well, the fact is that it DOES work, but it takes a lot of effort, and it's a very weak connection with a woman. It's a lot like using cheap paste to fix something instead of a powerful cement or "krazy" glue.

The Nice Guy is simply a heavily watered down version of what a woman REALLY wants, and it's NOT the best way to attract girls.

I'm not saying that a woman wants an abusive, obnoxious idiot. But the fact is that guys usually hear a woman's description of a "jerk," but we almost never really know what's going on from HIS side.

And that's how the Nice Guy gets tricked into thinking he can 'convince' a woman to want him by just being the opposite of the Jerk.

In the end, the Nice Guy just ends up turning the woman off with his obvious agenda and weasel ways.

FACT: A woman will NOT cheat on you if you know the secret of "natural masculine attraction."

If a woman is too busy trying to catch you, she can't be chasing another guy. This is one of the most unknown ways guys can attract girls.

Have you ever had more than one woman you were chasing in your life? There's ALWAYS one girl you want more than the other one, and she's your "pick."

Well the same is true of women. They have room for one "hot seat" to fill in their romantic life. And if you're in it, YOU are the one she's going to be chasing.

As long as you remain a challenge and don't turn into the Nice Guy.

You may have even heard of something called "Natural Game."

What this means is how a guy uses his NATURAL masculine attractiveness to attract women.

So in order to leverage the best qualities of the "jerk," you have to first understand what they are and how they work - and then make them part of your natural habits with women.

And if you want to leverage the good qualities of the "Nice Guy," you just need to know what those are, and then add those to your "Natural Game..."

Once you've integrated these behaviors into your life, you'll get the kind of results you want, and you'll never go back to being just the "Nice Guy..."

That's what I teach with my "Alpha Attraction Method."

Quite simply, this is the most powerful method of attracting women, because it plays on her built-in, automatic needs - and the best parts of both the "Jerk" and the "Nice Guy."

You'll be able to literally inject thoughts of you into her brain.

- How would you like it if YOU were her obsession?

- How about if SHE was the one waiting by the phone, hoping you're going to call...?

- Wouldn't it be great to get an email from a girl asking you what you're doing this weekend? Hinting that she wants your time?

That's what will happen when you pull her subconscious triggers of attraction.

If you'd like to learn more about how REAL attraction works with women, and more ways guys can attract girls, I urge you to go look at my Advanced Secrets of the Alpha Man program...

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