The TRUTH About What Women Really Want From a Man...

Thursday, 3:04 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...

TIP: I'm sure you've heard women tell you that to attract them you need to "just be yourself."

Well, this is true - AND it's a big fat lie. Most guys use this as an excuse to say things that 'logically' should make a woman want them, but this never works. It's not what women want.

Let's explore why...

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THE TRUTH ABOUT THE "JUST BE YOURSELF" MYTH

Have you ever heard the advice "Just be yourself" when it comes to dating and attracting women?

You hear it in many different ways out there, some good, some well-meaning but horribly damaging to your game.

Part of what I teach to men is HOW to be the real you without being the dorky, unattractive you. That might sound like "be yourself," but it's not the same. And it IS absolutely definitely what women want.

The fact is that there are two different "you"s in there.

• You #1: Is the awkward, anxious, insecure, poorly presented guy
  
  
• You #2: Is the cool, relaxed, confident, polished, Alpha Man. (i.e., what women want in a man.)

Now, you can reconcile these, and I'm going to tell you more about this in a minute, but the problem comes when others are telling you to adopt a bunch of personality traits or behaviors that are too incongruent with your SELF-IMAGE.

You see, the big revelation you need to know is that you will only succeed to the level of your current SELF-IMAGE. How you see yourself determines what you're able to actually accomplish.

As a friend of ours once said,

"In a struggle between grit-your-teeth perseverance and your self-image, your self-image will win EVERY time."

Sure, you can bulldog it for a while, but it becomes exhausting and taxing on your nervous system. The fact is that if it's not FUN in some way for you, odds are that you will NOT continue to do it.

The pain barrier MUST be broken through QUICKLY.

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In the short term, you may have to 'just do it,' but long-term change requires that you alter your image of yourself to make lasting changes.

So let's get back to the "Just Be Yourself" fallacy. Here's the Truth, as I see it:

• You must adopt new habits and new behaviors to your lifestyle to turn the Unattractive You #1 into the Cool You #2.
  
  
• This is simply a process of becoming more socially aware. It starts with projecting the parts of your personality that are attractive (the things women WANT to see from you) but are hidden, as well as snuffing out those parts of your personality that are UNattractive and obvious.
  
  
• The new habits and behaviors you adopt cannot be in complete contradiction to your current self-image (or too big a gap) or your mind will reject them, like an organ transplant gone bad.
  
  
• On the other hand, if you try to be TOO much like yourself and you don't get the success you are told you ought to get by being "yourself," your mind starts to reject YOU as being inadequate. And your self-esteem plummets - FAST.

So where the hell is the middle ground?

It's all in your head, my friend.

Chances are, you've done both of these strategies with mixtures of success and failure. You've probably been "yourself," thinking that this is what women want - and you've probably also used a lot of someone else's "techniques" to get you into the frame of the "pickup artist."

The key here is simply making sure that you use the techniques and advice given as a MODEL - an example of behavior that can work effectively - AND - use yourself as the frame on which to build your New You.

(Let's call it "You, Version 2.0")

Remember this is a MODEL, not an IMPERSONATION. Impersonations are funny and fake. Modeling is intelligent application of a real-world example.

Big difference.

So in order to be yourself and still improve, what has to happen eventually is this:

• You use some of the pickup techniques out there in a way that is congruent to your own personality - while being careful to not dismiss something just because you've never tried it before
  
  
• As you use them, you find ways of integrating the beliefs of this model INTO YOURSELF. It's no longer "fake" or "weird" because you UNDERSTAND application and have integrated the model into your personality. Now it's becoming REAL.
  
  (You don't even have to guess if this is what women want anymore because it's become second nature - i.e., natural.)

The reality is that for you to change and improve your skills with women, you must EXPAND your current self.

This is commonly known as "growing."

There is only growing or dying. There is no such thing as sitting still.

i.e., Your only direction is toward Self-improvement.

If it was simple and easy and comfortable, everyone would be doing it.

But they're not. So there's your advantage.

Are you willing to expand your self-perception? Are you ready to grow beyond your current self-limiting beliefs?

Are you ready to be all that you can be?

Then it's time to get busy.

Learn how to be your BEST self. What women want is a man that can be growing and improving himself, no matter where he is in life.

Now, you need to read the next couple paragraphs carefully, because what I have to say will have a DIRECT IMPACT ON YOU...

There is something that a lot of men out there will never realize about guys who are good with women (and this especially includes the TRUE 'pickup artists'):

Men who are good with women are skilled in a common set of behaviors that make them SUCCESSFUL IN EVERYTHING they put their mind to.

You've heard of the "Midas Touch?" Just like the mythological king, everything they touch turns to GOLD.

Anyway, these guys consistently approach women, get phone numbers, get dates, and get all the fun they want with women... (even the physical stuff)

AND

These guys consistently reach their goals, get results, get success, and get all the fun they want with life.

These guys are what we call the ALPHA MEN.

No, he's not the guy who's an aggressive jerk in the bar, either.

I know something that most guys never learn. It's a KILLER secret that most guys don't realize about attracting women...

HERE'S THE SECRET:

It's NOT ripping someone off if what you're doing gives you a better example of how to MODEL and make course corrections to your life before you fall into consistently losing behaviors.

And if you demonstrate losing behaviors too long, you know what you become?

I'll let you figure that one out. (We'll give you a hint: It starts with LOSE and ends in ER. And I don't honestly believe any man should become that.)

In other words, if you simply figure out how to present your TRUE personality in the right ways , you'll do just as good as they did - without imitating them! (This is what women want when they give you that lame "Just be yourself" advice.)

Anyway, now I'm PISSED OFF...

I'll tell you 2 reasons why...

1) I realized that these simple behaviors that the Alpha Men were engaging in were destroying other guys chances with women. They were literally GETTING ANY WOMAN THEY WANTED with very little effort.

This wasn't fair to other guys that deserved to get the same thing in their lives, too.

2) I realized that even though these behaviors were easy to identify, less than 5% of men were aware they even existed.

And that's the one that pissed me off the most.

Are you starting to see where all this is going?

Here's why you need to SIT UP and read this closely:

After over 5 years of helping men learn how to improve their dating lives, I still hadn't made a big enough dent in the number of guys who knew about this "secret."

I realized that this had to be fixed.

Now it's time to give you the same killer tools these Alpha Men have had for years to get the Alpha LIFESTYLE that almost every man wants.

HERE'S HOW YOU DO IT:

Take a look at my solution for you that outlines the methods and behavios of dominant men.

Here's the important part, so please PAY ATTENTION:

What you care about is how I can point you towards a better lifestyle.

You just want results.

And you want them NOW.

You'll also get a look at all the behaviors that are actually destroying your ability to attract women into your life.

I'm not going to waste another minute telling you about it all here.

If you're like me, and you've had a lot of negative programming, then you must get that stuff taken care of. It's not going to fix itself... you have to do it.

My program will show you exactly how to do it - and WHAT WOMEN WANT in a man.

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The Alpha Man knows that self-development is the path to a better life. It all starts with getting educated.

Education leads to understanding.
Understanding leads to better choices.
Better choices lead to better results.

And results are ALL that matters when it comes to the game of women.

It's all in my Alpha Immersion program.

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I'll talk to you again soon,

Your Friend,

- Carlos Xuma

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