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"Pickup lines
don't work... and Pickup Artists are not what you think..."
DATING ADVICE FOR MEN NEWSLETTER: |
The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Wednesday, 10:45
AM: Carlos
Xuma's Desk...
Some guys don't pay enough attention to the mindset required to
attract women. They're all caught up in pickup lines, and "how to be a
pickup artist."
Guys, no matter what "reality" television tells you, the world is governed
by some very specific laws.
Here are a few of them:
1) Pickup lines don't work.
They are simply a tool that most guys latch on to as a "technique" for
starting a conversation with a woman. There never has been "seven magic
words" or any clever hypnotic pickup lines that make women drool with desire
over you.
Don't fall for it.
2) Being a pickup artist does not get you laid.
Yep. You heard it first here.
The guys that try and play with your reality by promising you visions
of "pickup artist" heaven - where you can use a few clever lines to get
a girl to make out with you...
... Well, that's just what it looks like from the outside.
On the inside, the story is very different.
What they don't tell you is about the countless nights
spent learning a single skill to spark a woman's interest, and how many
times they had to crash and burn to get it right.
You see, they're just SIMULATING the attitude of a
confident Alpha Man.
Why settle for an impersonation when you can BE the
real thing?
Don't settle for being a pickup
artist when you can
be a REAL Alpha Man.
Read on...
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QUESTION:
Carlos,
Brilliant...If a guy does not come across as virile... then you say a guy's
lost the game... dead on! Every other conventional theory is b.s. 'cause
deep down women are wired for a man's virile antics.
Carlos this is brilliant!
You smashed the last residual mental blocks that have been bothering me! No more apologies are required!
My own research indicates I have known this, but you stacked
the facts from a more colourful perspective than I had realised myself
- and even more powerfully!
Think about it this way...if I don't approach then women must be thinking
what the hell is wrong with me! lol!
So within 45 mins reading your email...I'm walking the City district (London's
equivalent of Wall Street) and I'm getting IOI's from women ....hahaha...prior
to that I'm on a train having just seen an old friend...we got on and we
see this cute gal using the the seats as some kind of sofa bed reading
a gossip mag. I just kicked the soles of her feet and busted her on it...she's
loving it...my friend of course AFC is puzzled....I could go on...but you
get the picture.
I'm ranting here...Carlos...thanks for your help you just freed up my neural
network. Funny, I can see all my routines now so clearly...but I dont' need
them!
Thanks Carlos.
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CARLOS ANSWERS:
Yes!
YES, YES, YES!
Yes ...I am brilliant.
But just as importantly -
YES!
You GET it!
You just had what some psychologists and therapists call a "cognitive breakthrough."
I call it the "OH SHIT!" experience.
That's when you're thinking about something one way your whole life, and out of the blue you realize something that you didn't before, and it changes your whole perspective.
You realize that this new understanding will change your life.
You slap your head and say - "OH, SHIT!!!"
This happened to me many years ago when I was desperately seeking some kind
of answer to the riddle of what women want - really want - in a man.
If you're not experienced with the vocabulary of the stud... here's an explanation of a few things this guy was saying:
IOI = indication of interest. This is what a woman gives you when you're doing the right things.
AFC = Average Frustrated Chump. This is the average guy who cannot get laid to save his life.
(By the way, my Seduction Method e-book program has a bonus - a complete dictionary of these terms for you...)
But what's most important in what this reader is saying to you is a very important insight.
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And it's this: VIRILITY
What a powerful word.
Think about what it means for a minute:
Virility: (noun) - The quality or state of
being virile; manly character. Masculine vigor; potency.
THIS is what women are looking
for from men. It's the essence of everything I coach you on in these newsletters
as well as the Advanced Coaching Program.
As a matter of fact, this is what the Alpha Man is all about. He's virile.
He's vigorous. He's got manly character.
But I really like that last one: POTENT.
A virile, Alpha Man is POTENT.
Here's a
definition of "Potent" for you:
- Possessing inner or physical strength;
powerful.
- Exerting or capable of exerting strong physiological or chemical
effects: potent liquor; a potent toxin.
- Exerting or capable of exerting strong influence; cogent: potent
arguments.
- Having great control or authority
- Able to perform sexual intercourse. Used of a male.
Wow!
Those really hit it on the head.
You've got to be powerful. Capable of inner
strength. (Outer strength is
cool, but it's not necessary if you've got the right combination of other
traits.)
You have the power to exert a strong physiological effect
and influence.
It's been shown time and time again that men with the Alpha traits are
able to turn women on physically with their touch and presence. And it's
intoxicating.
You have great control and authority. SELF-control is the most important
of all.
And the last one ... well, of course you are able to perform.
You are, aren't you?
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Because THAT is what a woman has to believe in about you in the end.
You have to be able to PERFORM.
Not just in bed, but in LIFE.
Does she believe that you're a man that can DO what he needs to DO?
Because you're absolutely right. If you DON'T approach her,
she's wondering: WHAT'S WRONG with him?
This is probably the most important thing you realized, and it's something that so many guys will fight in their heads for years and years and never get through their skulls.
YOU HAVE TO APPROACH WOMEN.
There is no substitute for this action. It MUST be done.
Once you understand that, you'll just put aside all those crazy fears and just DO IT.
If you don't approach her, she doesn't go home crying that she didn't get
to meet you. She knows another Alpha
Man is right around the corner that WILL approach
her. It might be a pickup artist ... or a guy armed with some great pickup lines,
but we know how far he'll get.
She's got a built-in system of understanding which men are the ones she's INSTINCTIVELY attracted to.
Not the ones she "wants" to be attracted to. And pickup lines don't do it.
You know that women are getting more and more picky about men, and they can
sniff out inferior guys with just a whiff of your confidence. If she's got
an IQ and isn't under the influence of alcohol, she can also tell when you're
using pickup artist techniques.
To stand out you MUST have the edge on the other guys out there. You need
to be a REAL MAN, not this sissie-fied cartoon man that the media sells
you.
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When you're ready to take the NEXT STEP and develop the inner
game and outer game necessary to win over any woman you want, you're probably
a candidate for becoming an ALPHA MAN.
You see, most guys kiss up to a woman and work too hard to get a woman's attention (or "win her back"), not knowing that they need to get her ATTRACTION.
And you can't do it with a soft, nice guy attitude. You get "Nice" when you lose confidence in yourself.
Can you be firm and controlled?
Do you have what it takes to CHALLENGE women?
Or are you going to break down and treat her ... NICE.
How many times have you heard this: "Nice Guys just don't get laid."
The Nice Guy SEEMS like what women want, but he's not. And now we are going to show you the reasons why, and help you get rid of the "Nice Guy" forever.
Are you ready to start learning how to dramatically improve your self-confidence?
Are you ready to drop that lame "Nice Guy" routine and start being a real Alpha Man?
Well, the Secrets of the Alpha Man are here.
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This program covers all aspects of overcoming your shyness,
fears, and insecurities with women (and with life) and gets you on the path to total
self-confidence.
And you don't have to be a pickup
artist to do it.
It's
not just about getting more women (even though that's a really great side-effect
of this program), but we show you the way to a more successful LIFE - business,
family, social, financial... everything!
I'll even send you the 393 page e-book NOW so
you can get started.
Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
Is there ANYTHING else worth learning more than how to be successful with
women?
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The secrets of compelling
attraction and CHARISMA are easy to learn.
Most guys don't approach women because they haven't got
the SKILLS to APPROACH WOMEN. Once you learn
these skills, you'll feel less anxious and you'll actually DO IT.
It's time to learn the TRUTH about women ... and attraction.
It's all about your Inner Game...
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Discover your inner Alpha Man - NOW
Click HERE to learn more...
Talk to you again soon...
Your friend,
- Carlos
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in this game to win it, these are the rules you need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams. I love his game, its 100% real."
- The Dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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