How to Approach a Woman & Get Her Number in 5 Minutes or Less...

The TRUTH About How To Get a Woman's Number...

** IMPORTANT: I've got a new technique I've been using recently that is really amazing, and it almost makes asking for a phone number obsolete. Read all the way through to the end for my update...

One of the trickiest things for a guy to do is to get a woman's phone number. It used to be one of the hardest things for me to do, and I remember the experience clearly...

Once you've gotten past a lot of your "approach anxiety" and summoned the courage to walk up and talk to a woman, the next challenge you've got is how to 'close' her and get her phone number.

In fact, I think this is where a lot of men's fear of walking up and talking to a woman comes from in the first place.

I mean, when it comes right down to it, isn't this what most guys are afraid of when it comes to approaching women?

It's the possibility that you can walk up to a woman, talk to her for 20 minutes or longer, and then when it comes time to ask for her digits or contact information, she just says... "Uh, no, thank you."

AND THEN SHE WALKS AWAY.

I don't know about you, but that's a killer for me.

You see, the fact is that of all the 'bad' situations that I imagine having with women, this is the only one that ever comes true every so often.

Because even if she just HESITATES giving me her phone number or email, I feel like I've just been kicked in the stomach. You know what I mean?

It's like my ego has been thrown bruised, and now I'm this guy she doesn't want to be with. Even my masculinity is called into question. It gets pretty deep.

I don't care what any "guru" out there says, that's a hard thing to deal with.

But the good news is that this isn't your fault!

This is something that has been programmed into guys by mistake, and its pretty easy to get past.

Well, I want to show you a few strategies for overcoming this, and getting to the goal every guy wants on that first approach... and I'm even going to show you one you might not have known about.

But I'm getting ahead of myself.

Let's start with the essential first step to approach any woman...

PREPARATION

I know, it sounds like time for finals all over again, but I assure you that this is one area that if you prepare for even 10 minutes - you'll be a rock star in a woman's eyes.

When I say "preparation," I mean you have to have an idea of how the interaction will go BEFORE you get into it.

This is the one thing that I've observed in guys that come to my seminars and bootcamps, and it's the one thing that I think makes ALL the difference in a guys confidence so that he can continue to create conversations with women that go somewhere.

And that includes getting the phone number.

You see, if you don't feel like you've got a plan going into the interaction, you're always nervous and a bit anxious. Sure, we want to be able to wing it, but you need something to go in with or you're going to get visibly anxious when it comes time to act.

So here's your plan...

STEP ONE: Have a Time Limit...

You always have a time limit when you're talking with a woman. I don't care if it's at a party, or even out on a date. You have to get used to giving women what I call "time windows of opportunity."

This is her chance to shine for YOU. Not just your opportunity to try and impress HER.

This is a distinct shift in the way you've probably thought about "dating" and women.

By having a time limit with her you are sending a very clear and strong message that:

1) Your time is valuable...

2) SHE has to be valuable to get that time...

3) You've got standards...

And the way you enable this is to simply start your conversation with something called an artificial time limit.

You simply decide how long you've got to talk to her before you have to leave.

Think of this as your "emergency chute" for jumping out of the plane before any possible "crash and burn."

(I love these terms we use, don't you?)

Think about it, though...

Isn't it reassuring to know that you'll never have another uncomfortable silence or awkward approach again?

The second you feel like it's getting "weird," you just eject from the situation.

All you have to do to set this up is this: When you walk up to her just say, "You know, I only have a minute..." before you start a conversation.

By the way, this is especially effective with women on a date because now she understands that you're not just looking to score. You're out with her for the potential FUN you two could have. ** This is a big deal for a woman...! ** And it will lower her defensive shields very quickly.

Oops, there I go using those Star Trek terms again. Forgive me...

So after you use that opening, now you've got a reason to leave whenever you like, because you only promised her a minute.

Now, I'm giving you FIVE minutes to get the number and go, and that's all you'll need.

On to the next step...

STEP TWO: Have ONE Quick/Fun Question...

Look, the reality is that you really just want something to say to run up, say hello, get this woman's number, and go.

That's fine, because that's all you need to do. Remember, we're setting a limit of 5 minutes here. This makes it easy to get at least ten numbers a week - and you've spent less than an hour total getting them.

WAY cool.

You're not looking for deep, meaningful conversation. In fact, all you need to do is just get things started on an interesting note, and then - when it's at a peak level of fun - it's time for you to leave.

Have you ever been watching a television show, and right at the end, in the middle of a super tense situation, the words: "To Be Continued..." appear on the screen?

Aaahhhh! I hate it when that happens, too.

Now as much as we curse and yell at the TV, this is a VERY effective strategy that you can use to get another meeting with the woman you've just approached.

Whatever you may think of those television bastards for interrupting the action and luring you to watch the next week, I can almost bet that you'll be back on the couch in time to catch part 2 of that show.

'Cause you just gotta know what happens next...!

Just imagine what the effect of this will be on HER.

There's an old saying in show business: "Always leave them wanting more..." Because the more they feel they've had enough of you, the less you're going to see of them.

Okay, so what question can you ask for your "quick fun" question?

Well, I can't possibly predict where you're going to spot the next woman that catches your eye, and to give you a "one size fits all" phrase would feel very weird. (Not to mention, very socially awkward.)

So I'm going to give you a great technique for creating your own on the fly.

This is my own special technique that works every time.

Just say this: "Hey, if I said something funny about ___________, would you laugh and pretend I'm not hitting on you?"

You fill in that blank with the situation that you're in.

For example, let's say you're in a coffee shop:

"Hey, if I said something funny about your choice in coffee, would you laugh and pretend I'm not hitting on you?"

Or if you're in a book store:

"Hey, if I said something funny about that book you're reading, would you laugh and pretend I'm not hitting on you?"

This is an unbelievably effective opener because it does a couple things REALLY well.

First, you don't even have to think of anything funny to say! You just suggest that you're about to say something funny and that's good enough.

Second, it points out that you're there talking to her because you're interested in her. This is a direct approach that is incredibly exciting to women.

You see...

Here's something that most guys DON'T know about women being approached during the day...

Women are ten times more turned on by a guy who walks up during the day because it happens ten times less than it does at a bar or a club.

And that means that YOU look like a rock star for walking up and saying ANYTHING at all.

Pretty much, 98+% of all women will help you out at this point in starting a short conversation.

After she smiles and giggles at your opener, you can then ask her a "serious" question about the EXACT same thing...

"So, seriously, is that a good blend of coffee?"

or

"So, seriously, is that a good book?"

That's all you need to get a short chat going.

Okay, now I've promised you that you'd have her number in 5 minutes or less, and I'm going to deliver.

Here's your closer, and it's a killer...

STEP THREE: Get Her Number and Walk Away...

Right when things are seeming fun, here's how you politely and effectively walk away with her phone number. This is EXACTLY what you say:

"Look, I don't usually walk up to strange women and talk to them, but I made an exception for you. I'd love to continue the conversation again sometime. Let me have your phone number and we'll connect again."

Now one of three things could happen here...

1) She will refuse.

This happens VERY rarely.

Not a big deal. You just smile, take pleasure for yourself that you flattered her a little with your attention, and go find some other woman that's more open and willing.

Remember, it has nothing to do with YOU in a 5 minute interaction like this.

She could have baggage, a boyfriend ... maybe both! She doesn't know enough about you to reject you. And besides, she just saved you the effort of having to waste any time on someone that was not ready for you.

2) She might just ask for your number and tell you she'll "call you."

This happens SOME of the time.

Sorry, if you give her your number, she won't call. What she's really saying is that she's not sure about you. Not enough trust yet.

The problem is that she won't get ANY more sure about you if she walks away from you, so it's your job to do a little more convincing.

So you need to joke with her about this and say:

"Oh my gosh! Do guys really still fall for that one these days? You must think I'm a dork. That's okay, you just need to talk with me a little longer. It'll be okay. I'll let you best girlfriend interrogate me. Now what's your number...?"

And then pull out your phone and look down at the buttons as if you expect her to comply. Don't look up at her.

If she says or does ANYTHING but giving you her phone number at this point, just tap your phone and say - "Oh, man, I'm late. You know, it was great talking to you, but I gotta run!"

After all, you did say you only had a minute.

And the last thing that could happen is...

3) She'll give you her number.

This happens MOST of the time.

FANTASTIC! You got what you need. You're done.

5 minutes.

SLAM dunk!

You don't waste any time, and by being short and to-the-point, you'll find that your confidence builds MUCH faster because you know you're just going in for a quick hit-and-run.

No chance to run into an uncomfortable silence or awkward pause.

This is just one of the many techniques I use when I'm out during the day - or even at a social gathering where I'm running into that dreaded "anxiety" to approach a woman.

All you have to do is switch gears to this time limit, and you're instantly liberated of the fear. After all, it's only 5 quick minutes and then you're outa there.

BONUS - I just found a great way to turbo-charge your daytime meetings with women - AND boost their trust level in you by at least 200% - AND virtually guarantee that they don't flake on you later on.

Plus it's a fantastic way to overcome almost 90% of the objections of any women that don't want to give their phone number to you.

It's simple: When you're talking with her, and you're just about to go for the phone number, just say this:

"You know, I don't normally walk up to strange women like this. But I think you're so cool and fun to talk to that we should just go grab a quick bite to eat. I was on my way to get something anyway... C'mon."

If you play this cool and low-key, a huge number of women will go along with this if they've got a little time.

And even if they don't, they are more likely to give me their number - and answer when I call them later.

You can't lose with this!

Like I said, this is just one of the many techniques I use when I'm out and about, and you can make up dozens more based on this framework. But if you don't want to have to do all that work, I can save you some trouble there, too...

Do you ever feel like you're at a loss when it comes to approaching women and getting them interested in you - romantically?

Look, women are attracted to several key behaviors in men. These are things that many guys don't know are attractive to women because it goes against what they think of as "nice." I used to do them all the time until I learned how this mind-set and attitude worked.

The ideas I've just discussed in the letters above are what I consider to be essential behaviors to incorporate in your identity. This is a critical part of dating success with women.

Most guys spend no time improving their skills with women, and then they end up chickening out when the time is right to approach a woman. They'd rather sit back and talk about what they WOULD do, but not actually muster up the courage to DO IT.

I'm going to tell you a little secret:

I used to be the same way. I was scared to death to walk up to a woman I didn't know and just start a conversation with her.

If you're like me, you know that this situation doesn't get better without learning some new skills and techniques to overcome your fears. It simply will NOT get better on its own...

I made a decision right then that lasted me a lifetime. I decided that - do or die - I was going to learn how to approach women, how to talk to women, and how to get a date.

No matter WHAT it took.

I started watching other guys, trying out my own stuff, seeing what worked and what didn't, and I kept it in a book.

Now, a couple years ago, I took all that information and I created a training program that was designed to get guys past all these hurdles.

It covers every part of approaching women - without rejection and without shame.

I know what it's like to sit there feeling like you can't talk to that hot woman in the bar, or the attractive store clerk you'd like to ask for her number.

Now you can get the tools to fix this...

RIGHT NOW.

Go take a look at my Approach Women NOW program. I assure it's the piece of the puzzle you've been missing.

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I'll talk to you again soon,

Your Friend,

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P. S.: By the way, the methods that I teach guys how to use are not like any "pickup artist" tricks. These are honorable and psychologically proven methods for getting people to make choices that are best for them... AND you.

No tricks.

No games.

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