The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...

Thursday, 8:15 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...

Happy New Year to everyone...! We've got a HUGE newsletter for you to kick off the new year. Starting with another guy who got my program and got it together:

"Big Carlos!
You should win the Nobel Prize of Peace, for your contribution to the well-being of mankind! I truly believe that the stuff you teach is a lot more important for the peace in our lives and houses than anything else one can learn at school, with our parents, from (the pundits) books and from television.

I'm not kidding you, man! I teach at a university! I'm serious! You certainly deserve an "double" A++ Keep doing the EXCELENT job!" - N. in Portugal

Now, we've got a lot of great things in store for you in 2005. So let's get started on a new year of dating and seduction success for you with our first newsletter of the new year.

Do you guys remember last week's newsletter with the guy who was cuddling his girl?

I said: "If you don't, next week you'll be writing to me wanting to know why she's suddenly gone after you left her flowers and poems."

Well, I hate to be right, but ...

QUESTION:

"Carlos, you were right. That girl who claimed to be interested in the older guys told her cousin she has no interest in me. I don't get it though. She told me she was interested in me. We even kissed and everything. What's up with that?

She even told me she was looking to fall in love (Which I couldn't care any less about anyway) and she turned that around too. She said she never said that. Why would she lie? I don't get it man. The thing you said would happen did. I'm going ot be ordering your audio coaching ...

Until then, what can I do about these chicks?"

CARLOS ANSWERS:

What can you "do about these chicks?"

That's a VERY general question that has no answer.

I suggest you work on the foundational skills with my audio (especially the Alpha Man program). It would help you a great deal.

Remember, there is no "why." She just acts in a way that suits her emotions of the moment.

She told you she "WANTED" to fall in love?

Puh-LEASE!

She's been programmed since birth to say things like that, dude! She was brought up on a diet of Walt Disney and Prince Charming.

Did you think she'd say, "I want to fall in lust and make wild monkey love with you!"

She doesn't know WHAT she wants, really.

She wasn't lying to you, either. At least, not in her head.

The real thing here for you to figure out is why you're confused.

You're confused because you didn't take the right actions at the START.

You see, she would have been more predictable had you studied and used my strategies from the beginning.

Why is this?

Because MY STRATEGIES WORK.

Now you're left holding the pieces and crying "Why, oh WHY?!?"

Would you ask WHY a scorpion stings its prey?

No, because it's obvious why.

Because that's its NATURE.

There is no "why," my friend. She's a 20-something WOMAN. That's all the "why" there is.

Move on.

And listen to my advice next time.

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CARLOS:

Before we go to the next question, I have a SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT:

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QUESTION:

On the issue of bar and nightclub approaches, my question is do the rules change in this enviornment. Do you still want to get a number, or go all the way the first night for a one night stand? One major issue that has come up for me in meeting women in bars is the noise.

I have a soft weak voice and women usually can't hear me. I have to strain for them to hear me which seriously throws off my game. Any tips here?

Also, do you initially approach her the same way in these places, and what do you talk about once you've broken the ice with her?

I'm 22, and girls my age are usually very wild, but hard to pick up in bars. I have gotten a lot of fake numbers, as I would try to go straight up to a girl and get her number, without creating any connection.

First of all, let me remind you that if you don't establish a connection up front, you'll get nothing from her later. RAPPORT must be established or you'll just be shot down.

And, I hate to break the news to you on this, but a weak, soft voice is the sure sign of a Beta guy. He's weak, timid, and afraid to project his voice (and personality.)

You need...

VOICE THERAPY

You point out an important area that you should work on here, and that's the power, tone, resonance and overall quality of your voice.

A soft, weak voice will hurt you, so you want to work on this. Women will interpret your tone and strength of voice to indicate a facet of your confidence. A soft voice says, "I'm shy and reserved."

The interesting thing is that when you learn how to speak with more power and authority, you start to FEEL more confident and powerful, too. One feeds off the other.

Some tips:

1) Hum a lot. This strengthens your diaphragm and trains your voice to work from deep inside you rather than from the nasally top of your head.

2) Practice tongue twisters. This can have a dramatic ability on your ability to speak and enunciate clearly. I knew a lot of performers who use this as a warm up.

3) Take some singing lessons. Who cares if you suck? I'm the worst singer in the world, but it teaches you how to get your voice from the proper spot. I've been told that I should do voice-overs, and I was even the voice on our voicemail at a company I worked for. All for working on the depth and resonance.

As for the approach, you're beginning to see something important about the number-collecting game. Women will give out a fake number to get rid of you and to make themselves feel important. They don't like to hurt guys' feelings (not thinking that a guy would actually be ten times more hurt at getting a wrong number than if she had the guts to say she wasn't interested in the first place.)

So the best thing to do is to call them on their bullsh*t right up front.

Here's what you do: When she writes down her number (make HER write it down, always), you take it and turn over the piece of paper and hand it back to her and say, "Now give me your REAL number." Don't smile or look like you're being a clown.

Watch her reaction. If she insists that this is her real number and it later turns out not to be, she has low scruples, and you should give her grief the next time you see her.

Or, after she gives you the number, you can say: "Now, are you one of those gals who will give out a bogus number to avoid saying she's not interested?"

The point of these exercises is less about short circuiting their desire to give you a bogus number and more about you demonstrating a confidence that women respect and are more likely to give a good phone number to. Get it?

You should focus on developing that rapport and attraction before you get the number. Why would she want to give her number to someone she isn't attracted to or interested in? I don't blame her for giving you a fake number. The onus of responsibility lies on you to get her attraction mechanism started first. Use the Tease to Please strategy from the e-book.

And as far as conversation goes, this is the easiest question in the world to answer.

What do you talk about?

HER.

Please, everyone, stay conscious after that shocking bit of news.

Just talk about HER. What does she like to do? Find commonalities, point them out (without bragging) and then keep finding out more about her.

She will want to see you more because you told her less about you and asked more about her.

And I know I repeated that more than a couple of times in the book.

Which leads me to remind you guys out there that reading THE DATING BLACK BOOK just once is necessary. Twice is better. Three is good. Four is improving. Five is when things START to really sink in.

I used to have a book about dating that I read over 30 times, and every time I read it I got more out of it than the last time. That's the way it works with materials like this. You'll put stuff together that you didn't see the first or second time through. I put in HUNDREDS of tips and strategies that work on their own, but work even better as part of a whole.

You simply MUST review this material so many times that you can recite it in your sleep. I'm dead serious. When you want to master something, you don't practice it just once. You do it so many times that you almost get sick of hearing it. And then keep going.

Trust me, it really works.

In fact, I created a program especially focused on handling these and many other situations so that you can establish your value, believe in it, and then communicate it to women.

If you don't have it already, you need to get my DATING BLACK BOOK e-book right away. This e-book program provides you with the inside knowledge to understand and get more women in your life.

Download it here:
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There are a lot of skills that you need these days to pull in a quality woman. And I explain the finer details to you, including some of these contradictions in my e-books.

The Nice Guy SEEMS like what women want, but he's NOT.

The reason is that the "nice guy" she says she wants is actually just a guy who won't emotionally hurt her, while giving her the ability to feel safe.

But he still sets up boundaries of acceptable behavior, and he knows the "nice" thing is often the ASSERTIVE thing. The CONFIDENT thing.

And you're still no closer to understanding HOW to drive up your confidence, either.

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Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.

You can listen to this audio on your PC or Mac, and you can even use your MP3 player to take the learning and go mobile. Put it on your i-pod!

Here's to a new year. 2005 is the year for you to get busy and get successful with women!

And here's the contents of this month's new Audio Coaching Session:

- ANGER - How to control and harness the male energy. Using your anger for power. How and why a man's anger is necessary and must be controlled. What a woman interprets from a man's temper. Examples of powerful anger. Why reaction is your biggest vulnerability.
- VIRILITY - the essential measure of a man: Definition, potency, and explanation of manly character. How a woman responds. Why women must wait for men. Essential male interests. How to regain your masculinity by being yourself.
- KISS TEST and LEAD METHOD - A new physical test to use to tell if she's ready to be kissed. How to play with the physical energy of a woman through leading. How to use steering to test compliance and rapport. How to hold back to make touching more effective.
- COOKING - The complete method for using cooking for seduction. What to cook, and where to get your ideas. The order and use of food as a seduction tool. How to avoid mistakes when cooking for her. When and where you should do it. How to involve her in the process for maximum effect. How to give your meal emotional depth. Timing.
- ALPHA WOMEN - Yes, there are Alpha Women out there, too. This segment will explain who they are, what motivates them, how to identify them, and which of them you want. Which interactions are healthy and necessary (like arguing!) Which women are high maintenance. The one ESSENTIAL quality a woman must have if you're going to keep her around for any length of time. How an Alpha woman behaves versus a Beta Woman.
- BURN THE OBJECTION - This is a complete method of getting a woman to forget her objections. Knowing how to burn her objection will get you further faster on the path to chemistry and rapport. How a woman tests you with her "we need to talk" test. How to overcome her objections and turning it around for you.
- EMOTIONAL COMMUNICATION - This is a must-have technique for staying in control of any discussion or argument with women. From learning to identify her processing method to redirecting her so that you avoid conflicts and those breakup arguments. You'll learn how and what a woman needs to be "heard." And you'll learn the Essential Law for handling a woman's feelings.
- CHEMISTRY VS. COMPATIBILITY - If you're looking for a woman you can really spend time with, you must know what traits you MUST have and which ones you can do without. Why most compatibility is unnecessary. How differences are needed. What a sense of humor translates to for a woman. What elements comprise true "chemistry" or physical attraction. What honesty really means. The single most important compatibility element. Why most women (and men) are disappointed in online dating.

AND MUCH MORE!

- Carlos

The secrets of compelling communication and persuasion are easy to learn.

Most guys don't approach women because they haven't got the SKILLS to APPROACH WOMEN. Once you have them, you'll feel less anxious and you'll actually DO IT.

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