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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Thursday, 7:35 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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VALENTINE'S DAY IS COMING....
But will you?
Valentine's day is just a couple weeks away. Probably the most hyped chick-day of the year (next to her own wedding day.)
And I'm worried.
A better phrase would be "extremely concerned." I'm concerned that a lot of guys aren't going to be too happy this February 14th.
They'll feel the internal and social pressure of not having a woman in their life, or not feeling that they have the skills to attract a woman into their life.
Maybe he will see couples going to dinner, being all lovey-dovey, and smooching...
Public Displays of Affection.
All that crap.
Hey, the reality is that you don't NEED a woman. But most guys (including me) prefer to have one.
And there's no reason why you shouldn't.
This year, for the first time in a while, I'm going to ignore all the Valentine's hype. But I want to make sure you knew that you were taken care of.
If you want to learn the skills to at tract the ladies, to sculpt yourself into an Alpha Man - with no creepy hypnotic phrases or any of that crap...
Watch for the link later in this email...
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SASSY QUESTION:
Hey Carlos, I just recently received your cd's. God bless your sassy ass! This is the shit I've been missing! NOW it all makes sense to me. I don't really expect this to end up in a newsletter, but I wanted to discuss with you something interesting.
My local bar is a dive. The women there are 5's at best. However there is this one who shows up who is a 7 or 8. I've been fun and confident around her and then blown her off. She seems to be intrigued, so this push pull thing is working.
But this letter is really about the social dynamics of the bar. Because I'm a regular and people know me--when I walk in it's like Norm walking into Cheers with, "TRIBAAAL"--so I've established myself as a "dog in the running". It seems that since I've got this Alpha Aura now, a pecking order gets established.
The more confident dudes try to "belly up" and get into razzing each other. Like young bucks knocking heads. The women all whisper about me when I enter, and the Beta cats try to be my friend, offering me their favorite pool cue or buying me drinks. All in all trying to establish their existence by being next to me. It's kinda weird how close to a pack mentality we humans really are.
Have you ever witnessed this in your experiences? Just a thought. ~T
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CARLOS:
Well, I've never had my ass described as 'Sassy' before, that's for sure.
Perhaps you should stay off that topic entirely. :)
TO answer your question, I see this ALL THE TIME. Guys are always sucking my kneecaps for attention when I rule the roost. I've even had one guy try to lure me out to an ambush because he felt so emasculated. Yep, he was such a pitiful little prick that he had to try to get his friends together to stop me from being ten times the man he never was.
The thing a lot of people don't realize (especially the more "new age" thinking) is that the search for these frontiers of Pure White Love is great. Go for it.
But the reality is that we're all a lot closer to the pack dogs and humping her leg than we like to admit.
Guys do behave with this kind of Alpha/Beta mentality. It's hardwired into our genes, and all the wishing in the world won't make this any different.
I'm not saying you shouldn't aspire to more than this behavior, but you better have a good understanding of it, because it's the common denominator in all social dynamics, as I explain thoroughly in the Secrets of the Alpha Man program.
So when you've got the understanding and skills in these social situations, you wind up with the situation you're talking about, where the pack looks up to the lead dog.
That's you, my man... Enjoy it!
If you really want to see some complex social dynamics, watch how Tony Soprano holds court in "The Sopranos." He has an innate understanding of this dynamic and works it to his advantage at every turn.
Oh, and if you don't have it, and you're wondering right now how to be the Alpha Man, you should take a look at my Alpha Man Program:
https://www.alphaconfidence.com
PPS: "Think about it" is definitely NOT what you want her doing. You want her FEELING it. Right here, right now, with you. THAT is how attraction is formed. You can leave her with an achy sensation of missing you, and that's the way for her to think about you, but the reality is that she isn't going to rationally decide she wants you. It will happen when she's so turned on she just can't stand the thought of it.
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MORE SCARCITY
Hey how�s it going Carlos,
I just want to say that I think you are doing a great thing for the advancement of men. It's all about self improvement. As I'm sure you already know knowledge is power. And the more experiences you have and learn from helps make you become more familiar and knowledgeable with the information you use...regardless of what it is. Repetition is the key to successful learning.
Anyways though, the reason why I wrote you was b/c no matter how many women you pick up, every person deep down somewhere can always foreshadow on their "one true love." Either the one they never made a connection with, or the one that never quite worked out. It's all about timing. We all play different roles in different times and situations throughout our lives. Think about it.
All I'm saying is that yea picking up all these women is wonderful, but is it truly MEANINGFUL? I guess it all depends on ones perspective. Just remember your perception becomes your reality. In my opinion, planning, communication, and negotiation are the key ingredients to a successful relationship. I mean what's the point of getting involved in a relationship that is going nowhere?
I hate to say it but people�s values and morals now a days have gone down the drain. We have too much freedom now a days. There is no order or discipline. Today there are more divorces and single mothers than ever before. And the scary thing is that it's going to get worse! I just wish people would use their brain, and truly think about what they are doing and saying before they act. They sure would be making smarter decisions, instead of being so arrogant.
We all live and we all die...but it's what we do with our TIME on this Earth that's important. Time management is the key ingredient to enjoying Life. I say do the things you enjoy and never hold anything back. Regret is a wasted motion. Just remember "A moment of realization is worth a thousand prayers."
If you have any thoughts or comments I�d appreciate it. Keep up the good work Carlos.
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CARLOS:
Thanks for the props...
I'd like to make a correction, though:
Knowledge is NOT power.
Knowledge is POTENTIAL power.
ACTION is real power.
And the two together totally ROCK.
I don't see any questions in your letter, per se, but you do re-state what I've been saying for some time now. Men need to do this work from the inside out.
That's what the Alpha Man program is all about.
But I feel that I have a more optimistic opinion about our future. I think there will be another backlash of guys who are going to see what's happening and re-claim their balls.
I think women will grumble a little, but they'll celebrate it when the quality of their relationships goes up a hundred fold. And they don't need to divorce their wuss husbands because he finally had the operation he needed: and Add-a-pair-to-me.
I don't think that people realize that we are still living in the BEST TIMES ever for human kind.
The only reason we think anything different is because the MEDIA tells us we should be scared of terrorists and big bird flu, and freak catastrophes.
I was watching the "news" online, and one of the sites actually thought the horrible death of 7 people in a fiery automobile crash was news. It's a tragedy, terrible.
But why did they think this was more important than the other things happening in the world? Why aren't they covering the people working in other countries to help the poor or starving?
Oh, that's right, it's not exciting enough. Not dark enough.
We're living in the most affluent, progressive, technologically advanced, knowledge sharing time of our entire species.
This is the best of times, not the worst. It's not Utopia, but we have it better than you think.
A LOT better. Be thankful you're not dodging bullets in Bagdad. Or scraping a meal of termites out of a rotting log.
Thankfulness, by the way is gratitude, which is not a scarcity frame. It's appreciation for abundance.
Oh, and I don't buy that "one true love" horseshit. That's a fairy tale myth, not reality. We all have MANY true loves out there.
But when men only have about 4 or 5 long term relationships before they SETTLE for the first woman who will sleep with him and come back, most don't get a fair shake at finding one of them.
There are MANY women out there that will be a true love for you. All the more reason to be sure to sample more from the buffet than the salad bar.
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Don't fall into scarcity thinking. It's the sure path to the Dark Side.
I'm more thankful every day I wake up with all my teeth, my ability to walk, and there's still a lot of lead in my pencil.
Don't fall into the trap of scarcity thinking. Time management IS a very important skill, and one that I cover in the Secrets of the Alpha Man, as well as the Advanced Audio Coaching.
Get my Secrets of the Alpha Man program RIGHT AWAY. Don't wait around for some great insight to come your way, because it won't.
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I have spent YEARS and YEARS out there getting battered, deep-fried, and served up as a meal ticket in the world of dating, and there's no reason why you should have to go through that same pain.
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If you're reading these newsletters, and you find yourself nodding your head, wishing you could figure out what the heck is going on in your own dating situation, it's time to do better.
Are you tired of finding women that seem to be interested, and then they seem to get distant and all you get is a peck on the cheek and a "let's just be friends"?
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Do you want to make sure you handle it right, from the start?
Ask yourself: What am I waiting for?
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Ask yourself: Do you want to wind up in your rocking chair whining about all the things you SHOULD have done?
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Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos
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