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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Thursday, 5:35 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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THOUGHT FOR THE DAY:
When was the last time you saw a woman make a LOGICAL decision about a guy?
Think about this for a minute.
Really, when was the last time you saw a woman take action with her love life that seemed like she really thought it through? You know, logically and rationally.
When did you last see ANYONE, really, make a rational decision about matters of the heart?
"Gee, he's a real bad-boy type. He could be trouble. I better stay away from him. I'll date that NICE guy from my church instead."
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"Wow! He bought me flowers, read poetry to me, and bought me dinner twice this week! Let's see... he's giving me things for my affection. He must want something. I'll go along with it for now, but I'm pretty sure it's not going to go anywhere."
You'll never get through to a woman with LOGIC. You can't keep throwing "evidence" at her feet that you'd be good for her.
You'll only succeed with EMOTION.
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To the degree that you inspire a woman's emotions about you (including a few seemingly negative ones, like frustration, shock, and wonder), you will get her interested in you.
To the degree that you try to bribe her with gifts, you will only tell her (not so subtly) that you think the only way she'd consider wanting you is in exchange for food or valuables.
Not a great message, huh?
YOU think you're just giving her what she wants (flowers, dinners, drinks), but she sees it as suspicious activity. After all, why would someone buy her something that didn't even KNOW her yet? And if just about every guy out there would do the same, where's the real evidence that you're what she wants?
(ANSWER: The real evidence is in your behavior.)
THINK about that for a minute. Didn't you ever have that kid who gave you stuff so you'd be his friend? And deep down inside, you felt nothing but a sick sense of pity for someone like that. They were trying to buy your friendship.
It's no different for women.
Better to not start out trying to obligate her through bribery.
Instead, show her a man that can give her what she REALLY wants.
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WHERE DID THIS BAD INFORMATION COME FROM?
I was thinking the other day about men's perceptions about women, and how we "figured out" what it is they're looking for. I wondered how men could have been so misled regarding this subject, and just where did it come from?
Well, think about it. There are only a few places you could have gotten this information:
- LISTENING TO GUYS
Well, as guys, we like advice. We LOVE to give it, even when we don't know what the HELL we're talking about. Really.
I remember being a kid and trying to shoot the crap with my friends about women. All guys have an inherent need to be a know-it-all, and that gets in our way of actually learning. Every guy has a story and seems to "know it" when it comes to women, don't they?
I was in a car with a friend at Lake Tahoe a couple weeks back, and when he found out what I do for men with the ebooks and audio information he was fascinated. It wasn't as if he was jumping up and down (guys don't react that way - we're very coy about letting another guy know we're excited about something.) But he was interested, because he brought the topic up several times over the next several days.
What made him different was that he asked questions and listened to my advice. He's probably going to go on to ROCK a lot of women's little worlds.
Guys and gals are FASCINATED by knowledge of the $e*xual game. It's treated as if it is some kind of magic by those who understand it.
I have noticed that guys will tend to look to other guys for advice, or listen in on other conversations, and then use that information to shore up our own understanding. We assume that all the other guys were born with this knowledge.
But the truth is that most guys' knowledge of women is very faulty, because it's not based on reality. It's based on hit-or-miss hand-me-down wisdom that is not usually very reliable.
ONLY listen to people who are DOING what you want to do.
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- LISTENING TO WOMEN
I think I've coached you guys enough on this one, but it's probably one of the tops in terms of where guys go after listening to other guys for their information. While you can get some good information on the basics from women (what clothes they like, etc.), for the most part, they DON'T know what REALLY moves them. (Or won't admit it.)
Listen to what a woman says, but train your ear to pick out the BS when you hear it. Because she's most likely only going to give you her "Cinderella" answer. (Prince Charming illusion.)
- WATCHING OTHER GUYS
One of the two best ways you can learn, but only if you watch guys who are SUCCESSFUL with women. Most guys watch other turkeys just so they can feel better about not being as bad as they are.
A good friend once said, "If you want to learn something, go to the guy DOING it for lessons. If you want to get rich, go find a guy with a big pile of money. Not the broke stockbroker showing you his 'hot picks.'"
Absolutely, brother. Right on.
Go get yourself a TOP-NOTCH wingman that's good at this stuff, get him to show you what he does, and watch your ability quadruple in just a few nights. (I mean it.)
That is, if you can put aside your ego and apprentice yourself.
(And hey, if you can't do that, start with my e-books and audio.)
- WATCHING WOMEN
The best way you can possibly learn is to WATCH WOMEN when they're being brought around to attraction for a man. You'll know it when you see them reacting positively to what a guy does to them.
RESULTS speak here. If you watch a woman and she is NOT moved to interest for a guy, DON'T do what he did. (Or learn how to do it the CORRECT way.)
If you see a guy give flowers and buy dinner for a woman and not get SQUAT for his trouble, then you might want to reconsider your strategy.
I did.
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If you really watch women and REALLY watch their reactions, and learn how to interpret what's going on in her head, too, you'll begin to understand the REAL deal when it comes to women, seduction, and dating.
Remember this: The only woman that will stay with you over the long run is one that CANNOT stand the thought of being without you just enough to stick around.
OR ... she just doesn't have any better choices.
She has to want you more than she wants to be on the market again.
Learn how to observe and PAY ATTENTION. Develop your fine sense of interpretation, and learn to watch for the right signals.
A lot of guys wonder how to "read" women, as well as what to do to improve their dating life.
This is just one of many questions guys ask me all the time.
How do you meet more women?
How do you get them attracted to you?
How do you overcome your personal limitations so you can be the man you want to be?
These were questions I wanted answers to for YEARS, and I finally decided that I was going to get them. I started reading all the books in the bookstore on the topic. When I realized they didn't have the information I needed, I started looking for books that talked about pickups and techniques and the "taboo" information that you couldn't find anywhere else. (I started this before there was an Internet, but not TOO long before. :)
When I got as much as I could find (and that wasn't a lot) I started trying things and experimenting. I got rejected and blasted, and occasionally I also got LAID. I watched why people did things and noticed how they influenced how other people perceived them.
I wrote the book on this (literally and figuratively) and now I want you guys to reap the benefits. I have spent YEARS and YEARS out there getting battered, deep-fried, and served up as a meal ticket in the world of dating, and there's no reason why you should have to.
Really, do you want to go through 2004 without this powerful knowledge? Do you want ANOTHER year of confusion and poor results to stop you from getting what you deserve?
I've talked to guys the world over who have made a REAL difference in their lives by taking the first step on the right path - learning. Once you understand, your world opens up.
"To all the guys on the mailing list can't stress how much you need this book to succeed with women you may have your doubts but put them aside this is the genuine article that will change your life ... you need this book!!!" - Chris in the UK
"I would just like to say if you are like me and need that little confidence booster or maybe just need some positive advice in learning the art of conversation with the ladies out there ,then don't hesitate to get this course guys as I promise that you will not regret it ... Why didn't I do this years ago!!!
Well done, Carlos." - Michael - United Kingdom
The top-down strategies are EXACTLY what the Dating Dynamics e-book (and audio series) will teach you. Not only do you learn what the subtle psychological aspects are, but how you can AMPLIFY these "ALPHA MAN" traits so that you are able to draw in the women that you want. The only magic you have to add to this equation is the attitude to take action.
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Are you tired of finding women that seem to be interested, and then they seem to get distant and all you get is a peck on the cheek and a "let's just be friends"?
- Do you want to take the woman that you've lost and get her interested again?
- Do you want to make sure you handle it RIGHT, from the start?
Ask yourself: What am I waiting for?
Get understanding so that you can make 2004 the year you took care of yourself and started being REALLY successful with women. I am convinced that my information is the best out there for you.
Life is a LOT shorter than you think.
Ask yourself: Do you want to wind up in your rocking chair whining about all the things you SHOULD have done?
Seize this opportunity. It's time to start WINNING.
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-Carlos
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in this game to win it, these are the rules you need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams. I love his game, its 100% real."
- The Dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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