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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Thursday, 4:35 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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CUPID'S ARROW IS POINTED AT YOU
But will you get hit?
I don't know. Valentine's day is right around the corner. Probably the most hyped chick-day of the year (next to her own wedding day.)
But I'm worried.
A better word would be "concerned." I'm concerned that a lot of guys aren't going to be too happy this February 14th.
They'll feel the internal and social pressure of not having a woman in their life, or not feeling that they have the skills to attract a woman into their life.
Maybe he will see couples going to dinner, being all lovey-dovey, and smooching...
Public Displays of Affection.
All that crap.
Hey, the reality is that you don't NEED a woman. But most guys (including me) prefer to have one.
And there's no reason why you shouldn't.
This year, for the first time in a while, I'm going to ignore all the Valentine's hype. But I want to make sure you knew that you were taken care of.
If you want to learn the skills to at tract the ladies, to sculpt yourself into an Alpha Man - with no creepy hypnotic phrases or any of that crap...
Watch for the link later in this email...
FRIENDS PIT OF HELL:
Hi Carlos,
First, I want to say that the Alpha Man principles I've applied to my life have had a profound change on me. I walk with more confidence, I talk with conviction, and I've been dating more than I ever have.
Now, I'm no master, and have yet to finish reading the Dating Black Book, so I know I have much room to grow. Here's my dilemma: last summer I reconnected with an old friend, one I dated off and on since 1983! We never hooked up as a couple, and in fact I videotaped her wedding for her 14 years ago.
Fast forward to today. Over the holidays we really started seeing each other a lot. We would kiss hello and goodbye, and get real cozy holding hands. She would say things like "I love you" and "I adore you" in our phone conversations. Last weekend she had me over for dinner and we cuddled on the couch afterwards. She offered me her son's room to sleep over, and when she went to kiss me goodnight, I gave it more than usual.
The next morning she asked about it, and said she never thought about us as more than friends.(???) I said "Maybe you should" and she replied "I'll think about it". My question is; how, if at all, can I break out of that "friend" status? We're already doing a lot of things that couples do. Am I just the "stand-in" boyfriend until someone more at tractive comes along?
Thanks, K
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CARLOS:
Tell you what, finish the Dating Black Book, because I talk about this in there.
The friends pit is not worth pursuing. It's the damage zone. You lose face, self-esteem, and confidence trying to pull you and her out of it.
Go meet 10 women, and get to the point of making out with them. I guarantee you that you'll find this one slipping to the back of your head as you eradicate this scarcity frame from your mind.
Start thinking big. Think about the MILLIONS of women you have yet to meet.
Don't go down old roads, no matter how familiar they seem. They still lead to the same place.
And the more desired by other women you are, the more she'll want you.
Trust me...
PS: Yeah, I think you are her "groupie." That's a guy she keeps around until the one she wants to actually sleep with shows up.
PPS: "Think about it" is definitely NOT what you want her doing.
You want her FEELING it. Right here, right now, with you. THAT is how attraction is formed. You can leave her with an achy sensation of missing you, and that's the way for her to think about you, but the reality is that she isn't going to rationally decide she wants you. It will happen when she's so turned on she just can't stand the thought of it.
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GIVE THE GIFT OF YOU
Hey Carlos, at what point and particularly when in a relationship(s) should gifts be presented besides, birthdays, valentines, anniversaries or special events, is it wise to give gifts of -high value- randomly?
Should it be three months? Or before?
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CARLOS:
Here are some of my gift-giving guidelines:
1) Never give to get. Give because you want to give to someone, not because you're hoping to obligate them to some artificial connection in the future.
2) Don't give too many gifts in the beginning. In fact, almost none at first. It comes across as far too needy.
3) Give randomly. Gifts that aren't expected have the most impact. Let's face it, if you're going to share your feelings (and your inc.ome) you might as well get the most bang for the buck. Give to her in such a way that she feels the most for the effort you put in.
As long as you can look in your heart and honestly say that you're NOT giving gifts out of the "wuss" impulse, which is when you give to PROVE your feelings to her, or in the hopes that it will make her want you more.
You give to a woman so she can truly appreciate having YOU in her life.
Get it?
THE NEVERENDING STORY:
First off let me thank you for all the great advice in the past as well as the future. You have helped me to overcome my shyness as well as be more confident around women. Through your teachings I have learned to better understand women and have more success with them.
I have been dating this girl for 2 months, for the most part it has been going pretty good until this last date. As I was taking her home she said " I really like hanging out with you, but I really don't want a boyfriend right now." I was sort of surprised and didn't really know how to respond.
We then proceeded to have a arguement where she told as she has been warning me for awhile that her tax season is beginning as an accountant and she doesn't have extra time and she has some personal issues that she has to deal with.
But then she kept throwing in things like "I really like you.", "I really see a long term relationship with you." She said she just needed a break for a few "months" while she figured out some issues and got thru her busy tax season.
I talked to her for awhile and we agreed we both liked each other and I asked her if she wanted to continue, she said ok. I knew things were not good, but I have tried to call her a few times and she never returns my calls.
Is this her way of nicely telling me she doesn't want to see me?
Should I back off give her some space and see what she does? Should I try calling her some more? Should I pursue this or not? N
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CARLOS:
She is completely full of sh!t.
Let me ask you this: Suppose you were REALLY into her - would you let anything get in your way of going after her? Not likely.
Would you try to "take a break" from her? No freakin' way.
And women are exactly the same. She's just trying to not hurt your feelings.
Tax season?
PUH-lease!
Drop her completely until she gets her head on straight. Don't call her anymore. EVER. She isn't into you, and the more you attempt contact, the more you're pushing her away.
Move on, get over her. You've been dumped. Sorry to be so harsh about it, but it's better that you face reality now than become a sad stalker later.
People who REALLY are into each other don't want a break; they want to get it started and keep it going!
And in the future, never TALK about what should be HAPPENING between you. It destroys any se*xual tension - and you need that to develop the relationship you want.
Get my Secrets of the Alpha Man program RIGHT AWAY. It would have saved this relationship for you.
https://www.alphaconfidence.com
I wrote the book on this subject of Alpha Men (literally and figuratively) and now I want you guys to reap the benefits.
I have spent YEARS and YEARS out there getting battered, deep-fried, and served up as a meal ticket in the world of dating, and there's no reason why you should have to.
Really, do you want to go through 2006 without this knowledge? Do you want another year of confusion and poor results to stop you from getting what you deserve?
If you're reading this now, and you want to learn the strategies that others have learned, the top-down strategies are exactly what my Alpha Man Program will teach you. Not only do you learn what the subtle psychological aspects are, but how you can amplify these "Alpha" traits so that you are able to draw in the women that you want. The only magic you have to add to this equation is the attitude to take action.
If you're reading these newsletters, and you find yourself nodding your head, wishing you could figure out what the heck is going on in your own dating situation, it's time to do better.
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I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos
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"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
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Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
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- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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