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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Thursday, 3:35 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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YES - NO - MAYBE?
I was talking the other day with a friend, (a fellow Alpha Male) and he was joking about the way boys grow up, drawing dicks on desks, and how they would write the notes to the girls to find out if they liked him or not.
This really got me thinking again about how we're brought up, and how we learn to treat women.
Think back to when you were a kid.
When you had a crush on a girl, what did you do?
Sure, you did what most of the boys did (lacking social skills)... You somehow thought that if you wrote her a note, disclosing your TRUE feelings for her, that she would somehow jump in your lap.
What did you write her?
Something like: "Do you like me? Check one: Yes No"
Then you'd slip it into her book bag, or on her desk. Or maybe you'd hand it to her as you ran to your bus.
And what did she do?
Well, some girls would just take it and show it to their friends, giggling and laughing, crushing our little child egos.
Then, many of the girls would write back.
She'd NEVER check Yes, even if she did like you. Most often, what would she do?
She'd write in "MAYBE."
And the pattern began.
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Don't mistake what I'm going to say here as some kind of disguised male anger, but:
Guys were setup from that point on to always be subject to the whims of female se*xual power and control. They learned that a girl's approval could make them feel bad or good about themselves. All with a little check mark.
What we didn't learn was that they couldn't affect our confidence - unless we LET THEM.
Think about that for a minute. Isn't this the SAME damn pattern we go through as teenagers, and then adults?
A man is interested in a woman. He starts thinking about her all the time. He wants to know if this is worth pursuing.
So he asks her out, and after the first date, he goes home and thinks about her some more. He wants to know what's going on. What does she think about him?
Then he wants to lock it down. He gets impatient and calls her up, and he tells her his feelings for her.
Then he asks: "Do you like me?"
He asks it again with his supplicating and insecure behavior, even if he never actually says the words.
You see, guys think in black-and-white.
Yes or no.
Like me or not.
None of that "Maybe" crap.
Guys don't want the drama of riding an emotional rollercoaster. But girls grow up loving that drama.
And what happens the second he tries to pin her down? To tell him what she thinks of him?
She becomes harder to get. She becomes more elusive and distant.
She stops feeling attraction because it's obvious that he NEEDS her in some way.
You see, a woman KNOWS that se*xuality is her POWER.
A man holds the might, but a woman controls the zipper.
So he must play the Game.
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And since guys are not brought up to understand this game very well, they are unsure of the rules.
Think about what it's like to learn a new card game. When you first start playing, your eyes glaze over a bit as the person starts to explain the rules. Then you realize that the best way to learn is to just play it.
After a while, you get the hang of it and it becomes fun. But at first, when you don't know what to do and when, it's stressful. Not very fun at all.
If I were to tell you that I know a card game where the rules seem to change every time you play it, and the only way you can bet is with your heart and emotions, and that you never really get to see any of the cards until you've already lost, would you be interested?
HELL NO!
Most guys would laugh and hit the Roulette wheel again before they'd chance on that losing proposal.
But that's the card game of dating and seduction, guys.
The women have all the cards, and you can only figure out which is which by learning to read how she's holding them.
The more you don't want to see the cards, the more she wants you to look at them.
The more you try to peek at the cards, the worse your hand gets.
But that's the game, gentlemen.
Like it or not.
But this game is winnable. I do it and see it all the time.
The secret to winning this game is that the CARDS DON'T MATTER.
It's how you PLAY them.
And I wrote a winning rule book that shows you how to do it, The Dating Black Book.
(The funny part of this card game is that if you play the game right, your cards actually get better and better, until you can be holding five or six aces. Screw it up, and you can actually be holding a fist full of ZEROS.)
Men and women are different. Don't try to convince yourself otherwise.
I used to say that "men and women are really the same inside." This was back in my chump days, when I was getting laid by luck, not by design. And then my luck dried up.
And so did my s*ex life.
I even felt wrong every time I said that lame thing about men and women being the same. I KNEW inside that I was wrong.
But I WANTED it to be right.
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That's where most guys go off the path, and almost never come back.
They become addicted to the way they WISH it was instead of the way it REALLY is.
Then, every day, they invent every justification imaginable to make it that way.
So when they fail to get the woman they want, they make excuses and claim that women are just too hard to understand.
They don't see that their own egos are getting in the way.
You see, a winner doesn't complain or cry or whine about the way he "wishes" it was.
Arrogant people are hard to teach because they think they already know it all. It takes a mighty humbling experience for them to put aside their insecurities and let themselves be taught.
A winner - an ALPHA Man winner - realizes that pride goes before a fall.
Instead, when faced with a situation and a game he doesn't understand, the winner goes and LEARNS.
He doesn't puff up his chest and proclaim that he doesn't need any help with women.
He doesn't shift the responsibility for his actions to someone or something else.
He accepts that if he's going to learn, he has to put away that sore, hurt little boy, and go back to school for a bit.
Did you know that the majority of people do not read a single book after they get out of school?
We've lost over 20 million readers of literature in the last 20 years.
I'm not telling you this to increase your social awareness or make you rush out to a bookstore.
But the reality is that fewer people than ever are taking the responsibility for educating themselves and improving their lives.
And NOBODY is going to just show up on your doorstep and teach you this stuff. If you're going to learn, you have to TEACH YOURSELF. And, believe it or not, that's all you ever did in school. You taught yourself.
So what's it going to be?
Yes?
No?
Maybe?
If you want a woman's interest, you're going to have to learn a little more about what makes them tick.
Contrary to popular belief, you were not born with all the knowledge necessary to attract women.
In fact, 90+% of all guys do NOT know how to really generate authentic female se*xual attraction.
This is where I decided it was time for me to give you the resources you need to become part of that top 10%.
The elite.
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The men who GET WHAT THEY WANT.
It's really all about power, and whether or not you are perceived as having any.
Personal power.
Masculine power.
Knowledge power.
All kinds of power.
Powerful men don't have try too hard. They know how to influence a woman by demonstrating their internal strength in certain ways.
They know how to play that card game I mentioned, and not be insecure that they can't see whether they have Kings ... or twos.
Do you want to start learning how to dramatically improve your self-confidence with real, time-proven methods?
First of all, you need my e-book - The Dating Black Book. I've packed this e-book with hundreds of examples, tips, strategies, explanations, what to say, what to do...
It's all in there. And you can get it here:
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Add on the www if you need it in your browser.
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Listen to what this guy has to say about it, and how he's learned from the program:
"The negative self-talk was killing me for decades, that's my motivation for doing this. No woman is going to give me sex out of pity. Sex is just a mindless fat-burning exercise like climbing the StairMaster; it's the skill I want so I won't become co-dependent. Being desired is the prize I'm looking for, and I need to accept myself first.
"I had a very attractive woman 6 years ago who was even needier than me... like a small child hanging off my arm... it mirrored my own insecurities and made me very uncomfortable. That's how I made other women feel and they left or never felt attraction, not because they were confirming my cooked-up negative fantasies I thought was their impression of me.
"As for my past, WHO CARES!!!!! Those are the two most relieving words I have ever adopted.
"Glad to be in your bootcamp.. - C.H."
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- Carlos
"Dear Carlos, Your program is a "killer..."
It helped me to get rid of many traits of the so called "nice guy" - shyness, indecisiveness, "ass-kissing", etc.
... It boosted significantly my love and sex life. Not only [this] ... It helped me to be more successful in doing business, I can now easily spot when somebody wants to "walk over me" and try to make me submissive as usually women do. Thanks a lot!
My best wishes to you!"
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"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
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"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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