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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Wednesday, 11:20 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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WOW.
I just had to write you guys and let you know that I just completed a FANTASTIC interview with a special guest here in San Francisco - a woman who sat down to expose the truths about women, men, and the dating dynamic. And the information we have to share with you in the coming Audio Sessions are simply INCREDIBLE.
Really, I sat there stunned as we went through a Q&A session for you guys, and some of the stuff you're going to hear is going to wake you right up. I felt like I'd just had a quadruple Espresso after we were done, because there was so much great insight. I'll have a sample track up at the site in the next week or two for you to hear. This is one session you have to hear.
Happy Holidays to everyone out there ... especially the guys who are looking to kick off 2004 with a BANG! (So to speak...) We've got some great stuff coming for you in the next year, and you're in for a real treat.
Session 4 is coming out in just a week or so, and it's another rock-solid reason to get subscribed.
And don't forget to check out Session 3 right now at:
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(Remember, Session 2 goes offline when the new session goes up... don't miss out on it.)
Question
heya.. u guys r really doin a gr8 job....
hi...i have some problem regard talkin to towards i dont get. i have read most of ur articles. but still i know how to start a conversation tht is either by some joke or something about her like the dress ..etc....
but wht after tht, like i dont wht is girls like to talk about ...so tell me wht should i do...
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Thx, we apprec8 yr opinion..
Dude, what's with the abbreviations? Reading your email was like decrypting a World War II secret code.
Let me just use this as an example.
I'm very analytical. I like to read into things, figure out what's going on underneath the surface. We all do.
ESPECIALLY women.
They take every action and try and make something meaningful out of it, even if it's mostly meaningless.
When I read an email like this, I start to wonder if there's more here than meets the eye. What would someone who reads into things (women) interpret from a message where it seems like only shortcuts were taken? What would you think about a message like that, and the person who sent it?
Hmmm....
I'm not trying to put you down. But I want you to think about that for a minute. (And please don't email a woman this way... ever...)
In answer to your question, though, you just use your circumstances and surroundings to spark up a conversation. (The e-books cover this.)
My experience has been that it's NOT that you don't have anything to talk about. There are about a trillion things you could talk about. It's what you're experiencing when you're talking to her that needs to be addressed. A suave guy with unbelievable confidence could walk up to a woman and start a conversation about political science or Hobbits and pull it off.
As a matter of fact, an average guy can do it, too.
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Besides, the point is not to talk her ear off when you meet her. Just introduce yourself and say hello. Then you say it was nice meeting her, but you have to get back to work/home/whatever.
"By the way, do you have email? Great! Write it down for me in case we want to continue this conversation sometime. You seem like you might be cool."
That's it. No rocket science. (Or cryptography.)
What you have to do is relax into it. Breathe. Focus.
Look around you. Are you in a store? Ask her for her opinion on something. Are you in the grocery store? Joke about the lack of good fresh food anymore. Are you waiting at a doctor's office? Joke about how you're there getting a hair transplant -- to your back.
You see, women really don't CARE what you talk about with them. As long as you do it in a way that's not nervous and creepy. You could talk about particle physics, as long as you make it interesting to her.
The point is NOT that you don't have anything to say to her.
The point IS that you haven't sat down beforehand and thought of a few things to have ready for when you need them.
ALL success in this world is preceded by PREPARATION.
(Get the e-book.)
Study.
Plan.
Prepare.
SUCCEED.
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QUESTION:
I bought your audio coaching series 3 and I want to compliment you on the work. I also have a question.
Today, I went to a Christmas party for my company and I met two very attractive ladies. I used a lot of the seduction that you talk about in both your book and coaching series. I sat with one during the meal (Melinda) and we really had a great time. The tease to please worked wonders and the palm reading is great. I took her hand and started feeling around and telling her that her about her love line, she then started fanning her other hand in front of her face and she said "...it's getting hot in here". Her friend said, Melinda - he's just reading your palm, calm down. Wow. Anyway, we had fun.
I had so much fun and things were going so well that I didn't risk a let down by asking for her number. She had asked for my card and home address, earlier and she said she would send me information on her business. She was going to give me her card but she didn't have one on her. She works for a small department at a local college and I got along well with her supervisor, so it is possible for me to contact her.
After the party ended, I started talking with another girl and Melinda waited until I finished talking to Leslie and shook my hand and told me that she enjoyed meeting me. We stood there holding hands for a while and then I told her to have a great evening and I would be looking forward to the material that she was going to send me.
So, do I wait to see if she sends me anything or make some kind of contact in the next few days? What do you think? Regardless of what happens from this point I want to tell you that teasing her and just playing around was very enjoyable. I busted her balls a few times and I could see her mouth drop to the floor.
CARLOS:
I LOVE it when guys actually go out there, do what I instruct, and get the results like this... Because that's all it takes to get MASSIVE success with women. Just DO it, guys.
Congrats on taking the information and putting it to use. I've been getting some great feedback that you guys are doing great things with the cold reading and palmistry techniques from the book and audio series.
Don't you just LOVE that feeling when a woman is responding, and you're feeling that inner sense of success and empowerment? There's nothing else like it.
Henry Kissinger once said that Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac. I'd add to that one thing: Power with WOMEN is the one and only thing that TRULY makes a man feel like a MAN.
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Now for your question:
In simplest terms, the initial contact is always up to you. The woman is only going to initiate so far before you have to reach out and take a risk. When you feel more comfortable with the tease to please and using the flirt tactics of palmistry and graphology, you'll find simple, non-scary methods of taking that risk and getting the number.
I definitely understand your wanting to keep the interaction fun, and not spoil it. You've just linked that good feeling in your nervous system to taking ACTION, and that's what you want. After a while, just like a junkie trying to get another fix, you'll find that you WANT to try for more because the old dose isn't giving you that rush anymore. It's time to risk a little more.
I say you definitely contact her. Take the initiative.
Give her that aura of a confident man. Just be careful not to be too creepy about how you located her. Make sure she knows up front what you did and that you don't "normally" track down women, but she had you under a "spell." And you knew from reading her palm that she actually wanted to ask for a date but was too flustered. So you decided to step in and help her. (That's good for a laugh.)
In fact, here's a great way to approach it: If you want to make sure you don't offend her by doing the detective thing to trace her down (and this is where some guys can come across as rather creepy), you might have this supervisor/friend of yours initiate for you by calling her ahead of time.
Start by re-establishing the friendship between you and this mutual contact, and get her won over again. Then be up-front and tell her your dilemma - that you want to see this gal again but don't want to risk weirding her out. I guarantee she'll offer to contact Melinda for you.
Right there you've just multiplied your attractiveness in several ways:
1) Her contacting Melinda on your behalf will really sell you. A woman referring a guy over, even one she's already met, is incredibly powerful.
2) It's almost endearingly romantic to have found this non-offensive way to get in contact with her, showing persistence and determination. Going after what you want.
If you find you have to contact her on your own, play it cool and confident, and assuage any concerns over how you found her, but don't be TOO apologetic. Then ask her out. Ba-da-bing.
Remember: You have nothing to lose by taking action. Right now, you have a good experience and a warm memory, and you get to keep that no matter what. If you don't pursue it further, that's all you'll have. On the other hand, if you do pursue this, you'll probably find yourself on a date with Melinda, and onward from there.
And if you're reading this now, and you want to learn the strategies that he used for success, the top-down strategies are exactly what the Dating Dynamics e-book (and audio series) will teach you. Not only do you learn what the subtle psychological aspects are, but how you can amplify these "Alpha Man" traits so that you are able to draw in the women that you want. The only magic you have to add to this equation is the attitude to take action.
If you're reading these newsletters, and you find yourself nodding your head, wishing you could figure out what the heck is going on in your own dating situation, it's time to do better. This ebook teaches you the critical success factors in attracting women.
Are you tired of finding women that seem to be interested, and then they seem to get distant and all you get is a peck on the cheek and a "let's just be friends"?
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Don't forget - The Advanced Audio Coaching Session 3 is ready now to take your current skills and take them to the limit...
Imagine having a coach giving you tips, strategies, and a complete breakdown on how to improve your technique and success with women - first hand. You can listen to this audio RIGHT NOW on your PC or Mac, and you can even use your MP3 player to take the learning and go mobile.
The monthly audio series is over 100 minutes of advice and explosive tips, and it's available for download at:
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Here's some of what's covered in this month's session:
- Graphology- What it is, how to use it as an intro, and why women love it
- Challenge-response for rapport - how to handle her question tests from start to finish, and avoid having your back to the wall
- Handling women through email - Email Responses given with the text, and the analysis of how to develop your own.
- Why you must REALLY win or REALLY lose with a woman
- Rapport and Cold Reading- a complete breakdown of this advanced technique to build rapport and influence with women
- Mystery - How it works to deepen a woman's attraction for you
- Maintaining distance - The way to control your fantasies and your thinking and get rid of obsessiveness
- Posture - How your physical posture affects your attitude
- The Pre-date Cheat Sheet - Hardcopy PDF and a briefing on how to prepare for your meeting with a woman
For the complete list of contents, go to:
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-Carlos
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"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
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"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
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- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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