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Question from a Younger Guy:

Well, I'm in kind of a situation, or chess game if you like, at school. About six months ago, I moved to a new town and started at a different school. On my second day there, I was told by someone that one of the girls liked me.

Anyway, that went quite well and I then tried to find out more about her, and checked her photo in the yearbook. As my luck would have it, she looked ugly on the photo, and I decided not not to continue.

But later, I found out that she was one of the hottest and most popular girls in the school. My mistake was that I was too quick to be judgemental. So now she probably thinks I don't like her, and now I DO want her, but I was dumb enough not to strike when the iron was hot.

Things have changed a little since then. She has a boyfriend now, and I'm not sure where I stand. Her boyfriend doesn't go to my school, so there is no chance of sabotaging their relationship from that end. I am on good terms with her, but she's in only one of my classes, and my weakness is that I am terrible at talking to girls when in the back of my head I know they like(d) me (especially when they're HOT!). It just feels weird.

BUT I do have some advantages.

One, I am still a mystery to her, because I never talk much about myself, and two, I am good friends with her best friend (I have broken the bitch barrier). It is probably through her friend I could do most of my work.

So my question to you is: Using her friend or other ways, how can I destroy her relationship with this other guy given my parameters, and set myself up to get her, and look perfectly innocent while at it?

Your loyal disciple,

James

CARLOS XUMA ANSWERS:

Wow! I've got my first disciple. Cool.

A few more and I can start my own Jedi training facility.

Actually, the whole Jedi thing is very applicable to you and this situation, and especially from your last question.

Remember how the path to the Dark Side begins? Remember what Yoda said?

Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.

You see, you asked how you can use these skills to "destroy her relationship with this other guy."

That's not exactly the best use of your newfound Jedi powers, now is it? You didn't see Luke Skywalker using his skills to shoplift from the rebellion gift shop, or Jedi-mindread chicks to get a little action on the side.

Ask yourself: What emotion is it in you that leads you to want to use this method to get what you want?

Do you think it's a GOOD one or a BAD one?

Well, your motivation is to get the girl, but your methods are going to cause you a great deal of pain in the future. I'll save you that pain right now.

For you guys that are a little older and may be thinking, "Yeah, but this dude is just a kid... there's nothing for me in his situation..."

Think again.

It's at this decision point that most guys' futures are set in how they think about how to attract women, or how to supplicate and chase them. One depends on your Alpha Confidence being built right from the very start.

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Hey, I remember what it was like at your age. (Listen up, kids, as Grandpa tells you a little story...)

Knocking off the competition is part of the thrill of the chase - and the conquest.

Most girls don't break-up or stay broken up for long; they just swing to the next vine. Girls are conditioned (by other girls) to believe that they are not worthy unless they have a boyfriend. Guys often feel the same way.

Start out by making a promise to yourself to never bad-mouth her boyfriend. You see, any criticism you make of this guy will sound petty and childish - like you're jealous.

I have a saying: Never acknowledge the competition to the judge.

In other words, don't play your enemy's game. You'll only be playing on his territory.

And trying to put down the competition just makes you seem immature. Simply turn on the cocky behavior and teasing to show how you're not a person who reacts to other people or influences others.

Next, get into her circle as much as you can, and make sure you tease her (nicely) at every chance you get.

Things like: "So, I heard you're still lusting over me. That's fine, but I don't want to see my picture in your locker, okay?" Or: "You let me know when you're ready for some REAL fun and I'll let you hang out with me sometime soon."

If you have problems talking to this girl because you're intimidated, remember what happened initially: She ran and hid from YOU.

Who is the insecure one?

And what makes a good looking girl more intimidating than an average looking one?

Instead of thinking that this is a hot girl, just remember that underneath she's at least 10 times more insecure than you can see on the surface. Treat her like your friend's bratty sister who gets on your nerves. Because 9 times out of 10, that's what she is, and that's what she'll do.

And by the way, what's wrong with her friend? The one you're working through to get to her?

Now that you've broken through HER bitch shield, why not use your charm and powers of attraction on her? Seems like a good opportunity to me.

And at the very least, you should be using her as a way to make your other girl a little jealous. Ask yourself, what would happen if the girl you wanted thought you and her friend had a "thing" going on?

Create a little scandal. The more you cultivate the image of an Alpha Man, the guy that every girl wants, the more you live it and feel it.

Remember one thing about the use of "mystery" when you're picking up on girls: Mystery is only a valid strategy when there is already some established interest from her. We only care that we don't know anything when we actually have an interest in that person.

There has to be an initial spark to get things started down the road of attraction.

Look at it this way: There are millions and even billions of guys she doesn't know anything about, but that doesn't mean there's "mystery" there, or that she's attracted to them, right?

Your mystery works to your advantage when you have her curiosity started.

Be mysterious about who you're dating.

You are going after other girls - aren't you? The biggest mistake that guys make is to chase one girl and catch a case of "one-itis.")

Be mysterious about your interest level in her.

Remember: Hope + Doubt = Passion.

Use that to your advantage. She can never be totally sure about your interest or feelings for her, or she'll lose her interest in you. It may not seem logical or even fair, but it's true just the same.

Only use your powers for good, not evil, my young Paduan! :)

Remember, I teach you these attraction strategies not in the spirit of manipulation, but to show you some of the critical behaviors that confident men do ALL THE TIME, without even consciously deciding to do them, because it should come NATURALLY.

I explain them so that you see the micro-behaviors that make up the overall attitude. They don't exist in a vacuum, but by the time you acquire all the understanding of these small strategies, you'll understand the greater picture and can begin to work top-down as well.


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