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Question:

Well recently I've been putting the information from the ebook and the email into action on the Internet dating. And its working great.

The info you gave me is more valuable than gold, well platinum even, and ended up meeting this great girl good looking ( rated 9.5 on hot or not) and great personality she was getting hundreds upon hundreds of emails from guys but the knowledge from the book gave me the edge over everyone else that's how good the info is.

To all the guys on the mailing list can't stress how much you need this book to succeed with women ... you may have your doubts but put them aside this is the genuine article that will change your life you need this book!!!

I was raised under a man-hating insidious feminist matriarchy that pretty much destroyed me I think I just about hit the bottom of the downward spiral I was never allowed to have any hobbies or interests to make the cognitive jump back up the spiral. man!! it was a living hell. Well I'm not going to gripe about the past anymore I'm here to change the future.

My confidence is very thin. the books help change many things around from being a total lowly butt monkey who didn't stand a chance with women back onto the right track to meeting some great girls. I still have a long way to go I need your help with boosting my confidence and self esteem. Could you give me tips on how to have loads of self confidence, self esteem and voice control and well any other tips that might help.

And a big thanks for taking the time to write the ebook and do the audio series it's completely changed my life.

Thanks C, U.K.

CARLOS:

You're welcome ... and ...

Well, thanks for the vivid image there. Lowly Butt Monkey, huh. That's pretty interesting. At least you don't have to compete with the "High-level" Butt Monkey.

I understand that every guy has his own situation with respect to women. Yours is a difficult place to start because a man-hating childhood leaves a guy with a LOT of guilt and shame about women. When you are raised under this kind of situation, it will take some effort to remove some of this faulty programming.

Unfortunately, so many men are raised in this kind of environment... and it's not necessarily at home. Today's "modern" and "progressive" society seems to have forgotten how men and women managed to at tract naturally for THOUSANDS of years, and are now running around in complete gender confusion.

It's very sad, but something I'm working hard every day and every week to help get guys back on track.

It sounds like you've got a good portion of the understanding already under your belt from the e-books.

As I like to say, knowledge leads to understanding, which leads to change, which leads to RESULTS.

If you'll pardon my riffing on a popular bumper sticker when I say:

"NO understanding, NO results. KNOW understanding - KNOW results!"

As for your question about confidence ... well, there's good news and bad news. The good news is that confidence CAN be built from next to nothing. You can take my word on this, because I was THERE.

I had crappy self-confidence with women (it was actually a lot worse than crappy) and it showed in my abilities with women. I would go out with women all the time, but I had no clue what I was doing that was scaring them off. It took quite a while to overcome my self-imposed limitations and regain my Alpha Man status.

So that's the good news.

Now the bad news is that you asked such a general question that it's tough for me to be specific about what you can do.

But since I'm good at throwing out some generics, I'll give you a few pointers that will get you by.

1) Work on your own life.

Define yourself outside of the context of women. Take up hobbies that get you out into the world and interacting with others. Nothing establishes a man more as self-confident with a woman (and in reality) than self-development.

I know this will sound a bit like a cliche, but go out and take a few classes in something that interests you. Cooking is an excellent example. Women LOVE men who cook. (Especially since so few women are actually learning this skill anymore.)

The more you build yourself up, the more a woman will want to see what's inside.

2) Change your language.

I'll be willing to bet that you have a certain language that you use to interact with yourself in your mind and when you review your life. Most guys use a self-defeating word selection in their thought patterns. They use words that immediately limit their options and their feeling of empowerment, such as "losing," "rejection," and similar terms.

You have to recognize that your internal dialogue with yourself MUST change if you are going to start changing your behavior.

Remember, the familiarity breeds contempt. And unfortunately we are all most familiar with ourselves.

3) Change your look.

Get some new clothes (or at least some different ones.) Give yourself a make-over, like that show "Qu*eer Eye for the Straight Guy." If you lack fashion sense, get someone (preferably a woman) to help you out. This could be the most helpful and significant advice you EVER get, because we often cannot see the things about ourselves that others can.

Getting your look together - and KNOWING that it works - is one of the most validating and uplifting things you can do for your confidence.

One of the most beneficial and positive influences on your attitude and confidence is the level of KNOWLEDGE that you have to bring to the table. We are most afraid of the things we do not know enough about. And this is the easiest obstacle to remove by getting educated.

In fact, I've got a program that will help any guy get on track with his self-confidence. You can download it here:

https://www.alphaconfidence.com

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We're going to cover all areas of attitude, change, psychology, inner game and outer game. We're also including training on the approach, and following it up with a special session on locking in your new success habits into an Alpha Lifestyle.

We'll even be doing a real approach bootcamp in local clubs.

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GOING OUT ON THE TOWN:

Hi Carlos, I wanted to give a big thanks to you for all the great advice in your newsletter and on your podcast. I recently purchased the Dating Black Book and it has helped enormously. I plan to purchase the audio sessions very soon.

So here is my deal: I'm a good natured, relatively good-looking guy who always seemed to get into relationships when I was either introduced by a friend or when the girl showed interest first. Now I have the confidence to approach and follow through without that huge cloud of fear hovering over me.

Since using your program, I've been able to meet girls in my area but usually in bars and clubs that I feel comfortable in and when I'm with my friends. But I'm going out to LA next week and need to know how to meet girls in a completely new area where I don't know anything about the surroundings.

On top of that, I do have some fear about looking stupid going out by myself without any wingmen around. Can you help?

-L

CARLOS:

Well, the only thing that's different about the two situations you're asking about is this:

Familiarity.

That's it. Your confidence is always higher with a place you're familiar with.

You don't need to know anything about the surroundings.

In fact, when I go to a new location, I feel totally liberated from my usual self-image and I find it even easier to make friends and get women.

The answer here is that it's all in your head.

All you need to do is spend one night going to a few places in the area where you're staying. Just hang out for a while and get comfortable there. Imagine it's like your living room.

How would you behave if it was a party in your living room?

So why not act that way and relax into it?

And going out alone is so much better sometimes, because you control the entire schedule.

You need to break down your beliefs about these situations and understand why you feel the way you do. Once you can see that there are just as many reasons to feel the opposite way, and you can attach some emotional impact to those reasons, you'll have no problem.

Wherever you go, there you are.

So get used to it.

Comfort is simply an illusion created by familiarity.

Now, did you read what that first guy said above?

"To all the guys on the mailing list can't stress how much you need this book to succeed with women you may have your doubts but put them aside this is the genuine article that will change your life you need this book!!!"

I wrote the book on this subject (literally and figuratively) and now I want you guys to reap the benefits. I have spent YEARS and YEARS out there getting battered, deep-fried, and served up as a meal ticket in the world of dating, and there's no reason why you should have to.

Really, do you want to go through 2006 without this knowledge? Do you want another year of confusion and poor results to stop you from getting what you deserve?

If you're reading this now, and you want to learn the strategies that others have learned, the top-down strategies are exactly what my Alpha Man Program will teach you. Not only do you learn what the subtle psychological aspects are, but how you can amplify these "Alpha" traits so that you are able to draw in the women that you want. The only magic you have to add to this equation is the attitude to take action.

If you're reading these newsletters, and you find yourself nodding your head, wishing you could figure out what the heck is going on in your own dating situation, it's time to do better.

Are you tired of finding women that seem to be interested, and then they seem to get distant and all you get is a peck on the cheek and a "let's just be friends"?

Do you want to take the woman that you've lost and get her interested again?

Do you want to make sure you handle it right, from the start?

Ask yourself: What am I waiting for?

Get understanding so that you can make 2006 the year you took care of yourself and started being really successful with women.

Life is a LOT shorter than you think.

Ask yourself: Do you want to wind up in your rocking chair whining about all the things you SHOULD have done?

My e-book gives you the information and skills to get the women YOU want. Not SETTLE FOR.

https://www.alphaconfidence.com

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QUESTION:

"Carlos,

Hey, I justed wanted to congratulate you on your material. I have recently started dating again and have used "The Black Book" with great success. This weekend I had two dates with 2 very gorgeous women. The second meeting turned into a stay-the-night date ;)."

CARLOS: Oh, and I've got a new e-book and CD audio program you'll want to have a look at. This program covers every part of your ability to approach women.

You can see this life-changing program here:

https://www.alphaconfidence.com/approach/

My new e-book and audio will guide you through exercises, tips, and strategies for developing the skill to approach women RIGHT NOW.

I've even thrown in a few new extra bonuses that you're going to want to grab with this offer, too.

You can see the complete list of contents here at:
https://www.alphaconfidence.com/approach/

If you get the program right away, I'll send you the e-book RIGHT AWAY so you can get started... AND I'll even send you a link to join the Alpha Man Forum - a special user group where you can exchange information and tips with other Alpha Men.

Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.

I'll be back with more advice soon ...

- Carlos

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