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CARLOS XUMA -
DATING ADVICE FOR MEN NEWSLETTER: |
The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Wednesday, 7:35 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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And I thought I'd do a "Quentin Tarantino" and split up my epic newsletter into two parts this week...
But first - BIG BIG NEWS:
Audio coaching 27 is out!
And it TOTALLY rocks this month...
This Month's Session includes:
THE SEDUCTION METHOD - The secret to long-term sexual success with women, The structure of the Method, Turning up the Heat- cooking the frog, Social calibration and dynamics, The most powerful seduction emotion to build excitement, Handling the "Are you a Player?" and "Do you want a relationship?" test questions, what to never show her, Occupation and Redirect - to read and control the interaction ...
MOTIVATION - Handling a slump, containing your bad attitude, Steps to getting out of the Slump, developing a tough hide, Recognizing root causes vs. Symptoms, When to take a break, when to bulldog, The best antidote for a slump, Avoiding the victim response, skills and atrophy, downward spiral ...
CREATING LASTING CHANGE - How to use leverage to change, Happiness vs. Joy, Push/pull forces of change, Aligning change with values, using mental imagery for change, the necessary ingredient to imbed change, breaking patterns and breaking out of ruts, when change must happen ...
INTERVIEW - THUNDERCAT JOE MATTHEWS - PT. 1- Special interview with Thundercat (Joe Matthews) on the art of approaching and building stories, using nervous energy, fear of rejection explained, One-itis, approaching under the radar, the format and structure of storytelling, testing and practicing stories, how to create stories from anything, art vs. science, the payoff of the story ...
COMMUNICATING YOUR PERSONALITY - Personality vs. persona - and when you use each, subjective description of personality, two primary types of personalities, personality testing, how your personality is communicated to women, hobbies and lifestyle as a part of your personality, The nature and control of personas, communicating your real personality, communicating authenticity, taking inventory of yourself, the part of your life that communicates your personality.
Over two hours of coaching. HUGE.
Get it here: /audioprogsub.htm
Oh, and in case you haven't heard, you can now have me as your own personal consultant!
If you want more information, check out our new site here:
www.mensdatingadvice.com
http://www.mensdatingadvice.com
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THOUGHT FOR THE DAY - Part II:
WHERE DID ALL THIS BAD INFORMATION COME FROM?
I was thinking the other day about men's perceptions about women, and how we "figured out" what it is women are looking for. I wondered how men could have been so misled regarding this subject, and just where did it all come from?
Well, think about it. There are only a few places you could have gotten this information:
- LISTENING TO GUYS
Well, as guys, we like advice. We LOVE to give it, even when we don't know what the HELL we're talking about. Just ask a guy anything and he's got a whole truckload of advice as to what to do.
I remember being a kid and trying to shoot the crap with my friends about women. The conversation was always a dead end.
All guys have an inherent need to be a know-it-all, and that gets in our way of actually learning. Every guy has a story and seems to "know" what to do when it comes to women, don't they? Their results tell another story, though.
I was in a car with a friend at Lake Tahoe a while back, and when he found out what I do for men with the ebooks and audio information he was fascinated. It wasn't as if he was jumping up and down (guys don't react that way - we're very coy about letting another guy know we're excited about something.)
But he was VERY interested, because he brought the topic up several times over the next several days. "What do you do when...?" "How should I...?"
What made him different was that he asked questions AND listened to my advice. He's probably going to go on to ROCK a lot of women's worlds.
Guys and gals are FASCINATED by knowledge of the $e*xual game. It's treated as if it is some kind of magic by those who understand it.
I have noticed that guys will tend to look to other guys for advice, or listen in on other conversations, and then use that information to shore up our own understanding. We assume that all the other guys were born with this knowledge.
But the truth is that most guys' knowledge of women is very faulty, because it's not based on reality. It's based on hit-or-miss hand-me-down wisdom that is not usually very reliable.
RULE: Only listen to people who are DOING what you want to do, or HAVE what you want to have.
Let's talk about where you might go to get information:
- LISTENING TO WOMEN
I think I've coached you enough on this one, but it's probably one of the tops in terms of where guys go after listening to other guys for their information. While you can get some good information on the basics from women (what clothes they like, etc.), for the most part, they DON'T know what REALLY moves or attracts them. (Or won't admit it.)
Listen to what a woman SAYS with a degree of doubt. Train your ear to pick out the BS when you hear it. Because she's most likely only going to give you her "Cinderella" answer. (Prince Charming illusion.)
In general, this isn't a good way to go.
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- WATCHING OTHER GUYS
One of the two best ways you can learn, but only if you watch guys who are SUCCESSFUL with women. Most guys watch other turkeys just so they can feel better about not being as bad as they are.
A good friend once said, "If you want to learn something, go to the guy DOING it to learn it. If you want to get rich, go find a guy with a big pile of money. Not the broke stockbroker showing you his 'hot picks.'"
Absolutely, brother. Right on.
Go get yourself a TOP-NOTCH wingman that's good at this stuff, get him to show you what he does, and watch your ability quadruple in just a few nights. (I mean it.)
That is, if you can put aside your ego and apprentice yourself.
- WATCHING WOMEN
The best way you can possibly learn is to WATCH WOMEN when they're being brought into attraction for a man. You'll know it when you see them reacting positively to what this guy does to them.
RESULTS speak here. If you watch a woman and she is NOT moved to interest for a guy, DON'T do what he did. (And if what YOU are doing isn't working - STOP DOING IT!)
If you see a guy give flowers and buy dinner for a woman and not get SQUAT for his trouble, then you might want to reconsider your strategy.
I did.
If you really watch women and REALLY watch their reactions, and learn how to interpret what's going on in her head, too, you'll begin to understand the REAL deal when it comes to women, seduction, and dating.
Remember this: The only woman that will stay with you over the long run is one that CANNOT stand the thought of being without you.
OR ... she just doesn't have any better choices.
She has to WANT YOU more than she wants to be on the market again.
Learn how to observe and PAY ATTENTION. Develop your fine sense of interpretation, and learn to watch for the right signals.
A lot of guys wonder how to "read" women, as well as what to do to improve their dating life.
To do this you need the complete picture for you to succeed in the long-term.
Perhaps you'd like to know the mindset of the men that take no crap from any man, woman, child, or small furry mammal.
First of all, you need my e-book - The Dating Black Book. I've packed this e-book with HUNDREDS of examples, tips, strategies, explanations, what to say, what to do, how to interpret situations, and how to clean up that stinkin' thinkin' ...
Get it here:
https://www.datingdynamics.com
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Oh, and I've got an e-book and 6-CD audio program you'll want to have a look at, too. This program covers every part of your self-confidence and INNER game.
You can see this life-changing program here:
http://www.alphaseduction.com
This new e-book and audio will guide you through exercises, tips, and strategies for changing your life RIGHT NOW. It's not just about getting more women (even though that's a really great side-effect of this program), but we show you the way to a more successful LIFE - business, family, social, financial... everything!
I've even thrown in a few extra bonuses that you're going to want to grab with this offer, too. I've spent the last year creating this great program, including the best of our Advanced Audio Coaching Sessions, with 34 all new tracks specifically aimed at this topic, and HUNDREDS of pages of new advice on how to get your game together with women.
You can see the complete list of contents here at:
http://www.alphaseduction.com
If you get the program right away, I'll send you the 393 page e-book RIGHT AWAY so you can get started... AND I'll even send you a link to join the Alpha Man Forum - a special user group where you can exchange information and tips with other Alpha Men.
Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos
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Listen to what they're saying...
"Carlos, I want to thank you for all you've done for us all. When I was in high school (now 25) I had many one night stands which didn't allow me to learn ANYTHING about women. I met this one girl when I was 20 and eventually got married. It was one year ago to this day that I learned my EX-wife had many affairs behind my back. I felt left in ruins with low self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth.
"I stumbled on your programs about 6 months ago and became a full time member to your audio coaching. From regularly listening to your words I have boosted everything I thought I lost because of my divorce. I also learned exactly the art of seduction and building at traction with women. "To put it bluntly, your programs rock. I have and will continue to recommend these programs to anyone who not only wants to succeed with women but also succeed with their own life."
- J.O.
"Dear Carlos, Your program is a "killer..."
It helped me to get rid of many traits of the so called "nice guy"
- shyness, indecisiveness, "ass-kissing", etc.
... It boosted significantly my love and s*x life. Not only [this]
... It helped me to be more successful in doing business, I can now easily spot when somebody wants to "walk over me" and try to make me submissive as usually women do. Thanks a lot! My best wishes to you!"
- S.D.
Sofia, Bulgaria
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"I LOVE your Secrets of the Alpha Man program. It is by far the best overall e-book and audio program online that I have read....and I have done my research and read all the popular e-books and what not.
"I already was having a lot of success prior to the program but my success has doubled since reading the e-book and listening to the audio." - D.
"... About your Alpha Man program... It's bad ass. I'm only halfway through the book (200pgs) and halfway through the CD's. It's really phenomenal..." - T. T.
"Carlos, I purchased the Alpha Male program recently and I must say it's the best investment I have ever made in my own personal development. I have had seeds of thought and insight on some of things you talk about in the books and tapes, but now I'm getting a fuller picture of what it takes to be a real man. It's incredible..." - B., Colorado
"Hey Carlos ... Listen, I want to thank you for all of your work in these CDs and e-books. I've only had them for about a week and I've already made some major breakthroughs. You opened my eyes in being an Alpha Male.
"I was recently getting to know this girl... and I was being the "nice guy." Boy! the way you described the steps a man goes through to get to "she's the one for me" is right on target! I was able to step back... put her in her place on the phone and in person--it felt GREAT (so empowering!). I ended up not liking who she is and have moved on since.
"Also, I went to a club the other day... and I usually don't because I don't know how to dance that great--but I did anyway. I applied your exercise where you don't look at the final outcome... you just take the first step... and be an alpha man there.
"Well, I felt powerful and by the end of the night I was leading this girl around the club by her hand (taking charge), ordering two beers and sitting down with her with my arm around her like an alpha man should. She was so into our conversation and I felt like I was totally in charge.
"Oh, and yes... I danced with 5 gorgeous girls that we had dinner with. Damn! it was good.
Carlos... seriously... thanks!"
- 'D' Los Angeles, CA
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in this game to win it, these are the rules you need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
- Scot McKay, X & Y Communications, DeserveWhatYouWant.com
"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
Carlos to any man who is ready to get the woman of his dreams. I love his game, its 100% real."
- The Dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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