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CARLOS XUMA -
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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Tuesday, 1:10 AM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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BREAK UP AND STAY AWAY!
Dear Carlos, I just got the Secrets of the Alpha Man E-Book, and am waiting for the Cds to arrive in the mail. I�ve only read about 100 pages, and you have no idea how much it has changed me. I like the language you use, its straight to the point without any fancy words that I can't even pronounce.
The part [about] the only way you should give up is what has me asking you these questions, that if you screwed up and want the girl back, its better if you just walk away! I like the A.M.P. it up!!
... In conclusion I feel sorry for myself for not reading this book years ago, but you cant cry over spilled milk, so I am taking inmmediate actions now and the book is really helping.
I started going out with this girl and before reading the book I was already acting like an ALPHA Male, I was doing everything just as you describe it, I was so secure about myself that she even mentioned it, I even acted like a true player and she loved it! I was doing everything perfect as I always start out with girls.
But then, I let my guard down and let my feelings come in action, and after this it was down fall. I dated the girl for two months, the first she was still in my country and the second she left for college in another country. Two weeks after she left I took time of work and went to visit her, We never fought or anything while I was around, but there were too many moments of complete silence, and this irritated me so much that I started bugging her if something was wrong. ***
She said that I shouldnt be doubting that everything was good. I knew something was wrong. I came back to my country and things were not the same anymore, before she used to call me 24 / 7 , send me text messages and all that crap, but then I sensed she lost interest and started getting more and more irritated until I told her what the hell is wrong and that I thought we could not keep on with the relationship because she had changed so much. (I was expecting a "lets keep on trying")
eehh!! Wrong answer, she took my offer and we broke up. We haven't talked much, the only times we've spoken is when I can't control my emotions and call her, It just bugs me so much that she can be so cold and days can pass by and not call!
I later found out that this girl does not like a guy that gives her too much attention or is a serious type, the way I was with her when I visited, but in reality I am a fun guy to be with, I've never had trouble girls liking me, but I screwed up with this girl, and the guy she met two months ago, the secure guy, player who took her to his room the first night they saw each other, did not come out when I visited her.
My nice guy came out too much, How can I control my nice guy, the guy that everybody loves and speaks highly of him but that made me lose this girl. Why does alcohol makes me more secure??
QUESTION:
WHAT THE HELL DO I DO?? I want her back, but as I read in your book, calling her and keeping her in my life is not the option, but I want you to analyze my situation and give some advice.
Should I want her back after she said that I treated her to nice and gave her too much attention? Is my ego playing a role here saying that I hate losing? How do I control myself from sending her greeting cards etc.?
I wont see her 'til december but we chat every now and then, this question is very important, what do I tell her when we chat, should I answer if she messages me?
- E
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CARLOS:
You'll notice that I marked a section above with ***
This was the turning point, dude. This is where so many guys futz it up with their insecurities, and women pick right up on it.
As for "How do you control yourself..."
Dude! That's like asking me how you NOT pick your nose.
YOU JUST DON'T DO IT! Self-control is the hallmark of the Alpha Man. In order to be one, you must behave like one.
If you're saying that you "can't stop yourself" or anything like that, you're copping out. You're always in control of your actions. You're just making choices based on fear and insecurity as opposed to confidence and calm.
And everyone has more courage with some alcohol in them. There is no "why." That's the effect of a good buzz. It lowers your inhibitions. Beware that demon.
Now, hold on to yourself here, because you might not like the message I'm about to give you, but it's critical that you listen to me.
GIVE HER UP!
Right now.
You lost this woman a long time ago. If you continue down this path, you'll end up at the bar every night crying about this wonderful woman that you let slip out of your fingers.
You'll become so sad that your friends won't even want to be around you.
1) She isn't that special. EVERYONE is special and unique. And that's why we're all the same.
2) You'll lose your confidence and self-respect if you continue this line of thinking and action.
3) The only reason you want this one back so badly is because you messed it up, and now you want to redeem yourself. You're locked into thinking that you can make things right. You can only do this by learning how to move on with your life.
4) You can get a new girlfriend that you can do everything RIGHT with for about 1/10th the energy necessary to "win her back." And even if you do get her back, she'd be watching you every day, testing you to see that you can maintain your new confidence.
But she'll know in her heart that it won't change for her.
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What do you do?
You asked me, so I'm telling you - Let her go. You already read my advice once and you're refusing to follow it.
What will you do this time?
I trust you'll make the right decision.
ALPHA MALE VIBE QUESTION:
Hey Carlos, I've read some of your advice and I've learned some things in which I have been trying to put into practice.
I seem to be able to make girls laugh, and chill easily with girls around me. I've been practicing some advice I read,like acting not too interested when talking to a girl, don't smile too much, not acting too needy, being funny and cocky, staying in control and some other stuff...
Whereas my friend who doesnt seem to be able to make girls laugh as much as I do and is nice to girls seems to be getting more attention from certain girls. We both are reasonably good looking guys.
Sometimes I feel as if no matter how much I try to follow the 'rules', and even when this friend doesn't try to follow the rules, I find that girls tend to give him more attention.
Am I doing something wrong?.. What is it that he's doing that I'm not doing? Or are they (girls) just playing games of their own? And one more thing.. How do you get the aura of 'coolness' like Bill Murray you were talking bout.
CARLOS:
Here's my guess...
I think you're too socially reactive.
What do I mean by that?
You're reacting to every social cue or incident as if it indicates something about you - or about your friend. And, in doing so, you're starting to chase the carrot instead of letting it chase you.
The syndrome that you're suffering from is "hyper attentiveness." This is where you become aware that all these social cues are being thrown, and that there are strategies that will work, and you lose the natural 'vibe' of the situation you're in.
The first thing I want you to observe in these situations is HOW your friend is doing. Not WHAT.
In other words, what I think you'll see is that he's not being a Try-Hard. He's not following a script of attitude that requires him to behave a certain way, and as a result he comes across as comfortable with himself.
A lot of analytical guys take this stuff and they feel as if they use it like a recipe (one dash of cocky-funny, a spoonful of negative hits, a few good stories, bake for 20 minutes) that they'll see some kind of magical outcome. But the one ingredient that they inevitably neglect is their own PERSONALITY.
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These aren't "rules." They're guidelines, and they are meant to flex for different social conditions. The real point of learning what I teach (and you need to actually study my materials to understand this) is that you have to become more aware of social dynamics.
Remember that the definition of confidence is really about liking yourself. There's no substitute for that, and women sense that more than all the "cocky/funny" in the world. I'll bet dollars-to-donuts that your friend is laid back and relaxed, and that's his secret.
He's not being a try-hard.
And the aura of "cool-ness" that I talk about is something that is cultivated from the inside out.
The best way to cultivate it is to repeat the success of someone else who has laid out a map to doing it. I created that map for you, and you can get it in the Alpha Man program...
The real problem is that you've only got a small part of the picture. You said yourself that you've read some of my advice. The newsletters are a good starting point, but you will only get real long term success through one of my e-book or audio dating advice programs.
You need the complete picture to succeed in the long-term.
Perhaps you'd like to know the mindset of the men that take no crap from any man, woman, child, or small furry mammal.
First of all, you need my e-book - The Dating Black Book. I've packed this e-book with HUNDREDS of examples, tips, strategies, explanations, what to say, what to do, how to interpret situations, and how to clean up that stinkin' thinkin' ...
Get it here:
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Oh, and I've got an e-book and 6-CD audio program you'll want to have a look at, too. This program covers every part of your self-confidence and INNER game.
You can see this life-changing program here:
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This new e-book and audio will guide you through exercises, tips, and strategies for changing your life RIGHT NOW. It's not just about getting more women (even though that's a really great side-effect of this program), but we show you the way to a more successful LIFE - business, family, social, financial... everything!
I've even thrown in a few extra bonuses that you're going to want to grab with this offer, too. I've spent the last year creating this great program, including the best of our Advanced Audio Coaching Sessions, with 34 all new tracks specifically aimed at this topic, and HUNDREDS of pages of new advice on how to get your game together with women.
You can see the complete list of contents here at:
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If you get the program right away, I'll send you the 393 page e-book RIGHT AWAY so you can get started... AND I'll even send you a link to join the Alpha Man Forum - a special user group where you can exchange information and tips with other Alpha Men.
Just remember: Every man is self-made, but only the SUCCESSFUL admit it.
I'll be back with more advice soon ...
- Carlos
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TESTIMONIALS:
"Carlos, I want to thank you for all you've done for us all. When I was in high school (now 25) I had many one night stands which didn't allow me to learn ANYTHING about women. I met this one girl when I was 20 and eventually got married. It was one year ago to this day that I learned my EX-wife had many affairs behind my back. I felt left in ruins with low self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-worth.
"I stumbled on your programs about 6 months ago and became a full time member to your audio coaching. From regularly listening to your words I have boosted everything I thought I lost because of my divorce. I also learned exactly the art of seduction and building at traction with women. "To put it bluntly, your programs rock. I have and will continue to recommend these programs to anyone who not only wants to succeed with women but also succeed with their own life."
- J.O.
"Dear Carlos, Your program is a "killer..."
It helped me to get rid of many traits of the so called "nice guy"
- shyness, indecisiveness, "ass-kissing", etc.
... It boosted significantly my love and s*x life. Not only [this]
... It helped me to be more successful in doing business, I can now easily spot when somebody wants to "walk over me" and try to make me submissive as usually women do. Thanks a lot! My best wishes to you!"
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"I LOVE your Secrets of the Alpha Man program. It is by far the best overall e-book and audio program online that I have read....and I have done my research and read all the popular e-books and what not.
"I already was having a lot of success prior to the program but my success has doubled since reading the e-book and listening to the audio." - D.
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"Carlos, I purchased the Alpha Male program recently and I must say it's the best investment I have ever made in my own personal development. I have had seeds of thought and insight on some of things you talk about in the books and tapes, but now I'm getting a fuller picture of what it takes to be a real man. It's incredible..." - B., Colorado
"Hey Carlos ... Listen, I want to thank you for all of your work in these CDs and e-books. I've only had them for about a week and I've already made some major breakthroughs. You opened my eyes in being an Alpha Male.
"I was recently getting to know this girl... and I was being the "nice guy." Boy! the way you described the steps a man goes through to get to "she's the one for me" is right on target! I was able to step back... put her in her place on the phone and in person--it felt GREAT (so empowering!). I ended up not liking who she is and have moved on since.
"Also, I went to a club the other day... and I usually don't because I don't know how to dance that great--but I did anyway. I applied your exercise where you don't look at the final outcome... you just take the first step... and be an alpha man there.
"Well, I felt powerful and by the end of the night I was leading this girl around the club by her hand (taking charge), ordering two beers and sitting down with her with my arm around her like an alpha man should. She was so into our conversation and I felt like I was totally in charge.
"Oh, and yes... I danced with 5 gorgeous girls that we had dinner with. Damn! it was good.
Carlos... seriously... thanks!"
- 'D' Los Angeles, CA
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