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The TRUTH About Dating and Attraction...
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Monday, 11:55 PM: Carlos Xuma's Desk...
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"Hey dude, your e-book and audio course is super-stuff! Really I searched for a long time [for] some material related the alpha maleness attitude, I've found so little about, but since I found your Dating Black Book ... it's the best all around. It also gives superior insights about THE REAL MALE attitude ... you really get it!" - D., Italy
Question:
The advice i've been given from these e-mails is incredible! It really does work! Three months ago I had a rather viscious parting with an older girl (which I shall label "A") who believed I was, and I quote "sick", just for liking her, then I found out she had a guy who she hardly ever saw, ever spoke to, and is still with him.
Problem is I work on the same team with her every weekend, she just completely ignored at me and snapped whenever I even spoke to her! Her words were, "I'm really flattered but, it's got to stop", she refused even to see a friend in me...
I put the tips and methods to work on another girl ("B") who had rejected me about two years ago. I turned up with "B" at the official Christmas dinner for the workplace.
Nice little girlie "A" 's jaw soon dropped and avoided me for the evening. I decided that I was now in control and started to play on "A" 's mind!
I got very, very close to "B" during that evening and we were passing sexy looks at each other all the time! I even got an invite to bed that evening!
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I noticed that "A" had been asking around to find out who "B" exactly was. Whenever she questioned me about it I just gave her the blind eye. I've not started a conversation with "A" since she's done all that, I answer her questions shortly and move away, with the strong appearance that i'm not interested.
I've been playing mind games with her ever since, and she's trying to put on the "happy, friendly" face to me, asking little things like, "oh, how was your flight by the way?", which she does'nt ask anyone else.
"A" now constantly starts little conversations with me, to try and get me to talk to her, but I keep her struggling! "A" even wonders why she's the only one I don't buy drinks for.
It now seems that the tables have turned, instead of me trying to chase her, I've stopped and got my own life and "A" 's wonders why i'm not chasing her anymore! Since then i've acquired a lot more respect from other people at the workplace! Using [your] advice I've turned the whole situation around.
I am in no way nasty to her, I just keep her tugging at the rope to try and re-gain my friendliness in her. I'm now in control and I will decide when she can have me back. Just a few more weeks, when she really starts talking to me with a bit more confidence and friendliness, then i'll let it go and she can have me.
Thanks for all the great advice!!
DH (U.K)
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CARLOS:
Wow! Great work!
That's the way to turn things around for you. You got a girl you used to have back, and managed to get the one who dissed you interested in you again.
There really wasn't a question in this email, but I wanted to point out more about why this approach is working.
Keep in mind: Good looking women get attention from men ALL THE TIME.
How would you behave if you got approached by women ALL THE TIME? Really, think about it. You might THINK you would be in heaven, because a guy's experience is that he is NEVER approached, and has to do all the work. Your mind has been conditioned differently than a woman's.
In reality, after enough time, it would get TIRING to have women approaching you all the time. It would be annoying to have ugly chicks as well as the occasional pretty ones coming up and hitting on you everywhere you went, to the store or to the pub or even on a bus.
You'd actually get pretty sick of it. I know you might not think so right now, especially if you've been going through a bit of a dry spell, but it's true. It's human nature to take for granted what comes to us easily.
Women are in that situation. Even the average looking gals get picked up on, and they all have to find a way to deal with it. Her attitude starts from when she is first approached by a guy.
Let's step back and look at this from the beginning...
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What happens is a program is setup in her mind that goes like this:
"Okay, enough is enough. If this is going to happen all the time, I need to find some way to weed out the good guys from the losers. Here's what I'll do:
"If a guy approaches me, I'm going to just act indifferent. I have no way of knowing which one is a confident, Alpha Man, so I'll just treat them all the same. I'll be nice, but that's IT. If he wants to get any further with me, he's going to have to work a little for it and get past my defenses.
"If he shows me that he's different in some way, by humor or by some other interesting quality, this program shuts down and I'll deal with the situation. If he doesn't demonstrate that he's unique from the last 37 guys who tried, I'll just shut his program down and move on.
"This program ends with a cool smile and walking away."
It's a time-saver and necessary for her to weed you out from the rest. Good looking women know they already possess what you want.
Think about that for a second.
How do you behave when you know you have something somebody else wants?
So when you were starting to ignore the woman who thought you were pretty much her plaything, a new program kicked over in her head:
"All guys are into hot women. And since I think I am attractive, he should want me. Why doesn't he want me?
"I need to find out why he wants her instead. What does SHE have?"
Jealousy, competitiveness, curiosity - all of these are working in your favor. However, there are some women that are only interested when you're not. Beware that she might be one of these.
This translates into her attitude down the road, where she will want to know why her usual pattern hasn't started the same way - with you falling over yourself to give her attention.
When a woman loses your attention, it's worse than not having had it to start with.
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Great job on using the strategies and making your own reality what YOU want it to be. So many guys out there never take the steps of learning and applying them, and they never understand the kind of success they can get.
There's nothing in the world like the feeling that YOU can control your dating and $ex life. Knowing that you've got the understanding so that NOTHING catches you off-guard is a feeling like nothing else.
I will caution the other guys out there to use the information you learn here wisely. I never condone "messing with" people's heads. It's tempting, because we interpret women's behavior to be that - messing with us. But it's not on-purpose. They are only acting in accordance with their emotional programming, the same way guys are behaving "rationally" with their logical programming.
If you resort to purposeful game playing with women, you will end up causing more anger and resentment in the long run. Instead, remember that she's looking for the same results you are, just in a different way.
Women will behave in ways that may seem illogical, but they are actually quite PREDICTABLE when you understand her motivations.
I wrote the book on this (literally and figuratively) and now I want you guys to reap the benefits. I have spent YEARS and YEARS out there getting battered, deep-fried, and served up as a meal ticket in the world of dating, and there's no reason why you should have to.
Really, do you want to go through 2004 without this powerful knowledge? Do you want another year of confusion and poor results to stop you from getting what you deserve?
"To all the guys on the mailing list can't stress how much you need this book to succeed with women you may have your doubts but put them aside this is the genuine article that will change your life ... you need this book!!!" - Chris in the UK
The top-down strategies are exactly what the Dating Dynamics e-book (and audio series) will teach you. Not only do you learn what the subtle psychological aspects are, but how you can amplify these "Alpha Man" traits so that you are able to draw in the women that you want. The only magic you have to add to this equation is the attitude to take action.
Are you tired of finding women that seem to be interested, and then they seem to get distant and all you get is a peck on the cheek and a "let's just be friends"?
- Do you want to take the woman that you've lost and get her interested again?
- Do you want to make sure you handle it right, from the start?
Ask yourself: What am I waiting for?
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Life is a LOT shorter than you think.
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"I've just finished listen to the fourth session of your audio coaching program... this is the first time that I have skyrocket[ed] my confidence to approach anyone... your audio coaching program is very useful because it links directly the theory of your well written and complete book with the reality..." - D in Italy
""I've found the advanced audio coaching series 4 extremely useful... I now see why I've had the successes that I've had in the past and why the failures have happened. The audio series has reinforced that and has given me more ideas about how to increase self-confidence even further ... It's onwards and upwards from here and I'm confident of many more successes in the future." - A.C., New Zealand
Imagine having a coach giving you tips, strategies, and a complete breakdown on how to improve your technique and success with women - first hand. You can listen to this audio RIGHT NOW on your PC or Mac, and you can even use your MP3 player to take the learning and go mobile.
The monthly audio series is over 100 minutes of advice and explosive tips, and it's available for download at:
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Here's just a little of what's covered in this month's session:
- Introduction and Meeting - Detailed How-To: Getting past your fear and mental barriers to meeting women
- Develop a thicker hide - overcome your fear with several mental exercises, including the Christmas Carol exercise and the Shampoo Bottle exercise
- Do your homework - how to prepare for the pickup with detailed challenge/response handling, including examples and analysis of what works and what doesn't
- Subtleties/Minor adjustments - A breakdown and explanation of the minor ingredients of meeting women: Facial Expression, Smiling, Good posture, speech control, eye contact
- Running the Numbers - becoming an approach machine with T.E.D., by starting the treadmill and using the NEXT methodology
- The Certainty and Ambiguity Syndrome - How men and women approach the world, and how you can learn to live with the Uncertain
- How women test your limits - and the universal response to handle them at any time
- Advanced Conversation Techniques - How to talk to women and introduce yourself, including moving beyond the "I like your purse" Intro
- Opening groups of women with two new Set openers:Cheating Girl Opener, The Trivia Opener
- Extended Challenge-Response workshop with detailed reply analysis and quiz
- Email examples of Cocky Control and examples of challenging a woman correctly
For the complete list of contents, go to:
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-Carlos
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Listen to what the other gurus are saying about Carlos' work...
"I've read every book and studied every system on dating. The problem with most 'gurus' in this field is that they're not teaching men how to build a solid foundation. Until you change your internal belief system and adopt an Alpha mindset, all the
tactics and techniques in the world aren't going to do you any good. (Actually, it's like learning just enough karate to get your ass kicked!) Carlos Xuma is the best there is at teaching men how to develop their 'inner game.' From
there, he'll give you the complete set of tools for approaching women, and life, with absolute confidence and skill. If you're in this game to win it, these are the rules you need to learn."
- "Supreme", M.A.C.K. Tactics co-creator
"Carlos Xuma is a man who has a clear passion for imparting the success with women he has experienced to other guys worldwide. He approaches his craft with immense integrity and a distinct style!"
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"Carlos Xuma is the REAL DEAL! If you are serious about creating an extraordinary relationship. You will learn more about the needs and desires of women than they do themselves! I highly recommend
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- The Dean, Dating4Men.com
"Carlos Xuma is one of those rare guys in the field who actually GETS what interacting with women is all about. His advice goes beyond the pick-up lines and approach techniques that so many guys use and fail with. Rather, Carlos gives guys everywhere practical,
valuable advice that will make men attractive not just for one night, but for many, many years. He lays down the foundation for becoming a NATURALLY attractive man, full of confidence and the ability to fully ENJOY being around hot babes.
Unlike other pickup artists, Carlos shares information that helps you not only in one area of life, but in many: in social relationships, at work, sports, with personal goals. He'll help make you a well-rounded, self-believing alpha MAN who's capable of just
about anything. And seducing gorgeous, high-quality women, is just the beginning."
- James Brito, How to Be Irresistible to Women
"Carlos Xuma is one of the few men in the 'seduction' or 'attraction' community who digs beneath the surface of passing attraction, and Explores what it is to be a man who attracts women by virtue of his character and, consequently, the natural outward expression of high character.
He brings words like 'discipline' and 'integrity' to the forefront, and waddya know, those are exactly the qualities women truly crave in a man."
- Grant Adams, CEO - net2bed.com
"Hey Carlos, I write about the biology of men and women's behavior. You seem to know the biology of behavior without knowing it. How do you do that? You have a deep intuition of dynamics - it took me 7 years of academic research to discover. And you find sharp ways to apply it practically... Keep up the good work, brother."
- Joe Quirk, Author of "Sperm are from Men, Eggs are from Women"
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